Stories like this makes me proud to not only have years of self-defense but be taller, heavier and stronger than the average girl.
If someone insults me I'm not doing anything but once they get physical with me because I said something too personal, let's just say it won't look good on them afterwards.
However, I haven't had anyone yet that has ever dare try getting physical aggressive with me. Why? Because everyone (even the people that are moody) know who to get physical vs who not to even try regardless of how mad they are at that moment. In a way this is sad. It shouldn't take being stronger and have fighting skills the only reason to get respected but rather because you should know it's wrong to assault someone you love.
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If I were your girlfriend, you wouldn't even have to worry about trying to explain things nor apologizing. I wouldn't even be the person to hear you but rather the cops. You still move things to the next level by turning something verbal into a physical altercation.
If you can push your girlfriend to the floor because of words she said during an argument then you have a problem. I can imagine how this is going to turn out if it's an actually for other serious matters, besides a common argument couples have.
Pushing someone on the floor equals hitting them. You should really think about what you've done, sometimes we don't wanna be like our parents but we end up being just like them without even realising it. Keep yourself under control, be conscious about what you do and think, don't try to deny it. If you ever feel like hitting her again, seek professional help.
Never ever push a woman to the floor, ok? You can't imagine the fear
I got new for you bro, holding a girls wrists to stop her from walking away can be considered assault.
If you are getting to the point of getting physical when having and disagreement, you need to walk away and cool down.
The way the law looks at domestic abuse today, you could find yourself doing time and on national list that can make you unemployable.
I know a guy that that had to cop come to his job, because he grabbed his girls hands during an argument and it was witnessed by one of her co-workers who called the police.
Well what you did wasn't cool or okay. Now it can't be called abuse if it is the first and only time this has ever happened, just read the definition of abuse it'll make more sense. You grew up in a household of abuse though, and when things hit a breaking point learned behaviors can pop up unconsciously. You do understand what you did, why it's wrong, you've already made up with your girl, and recognize that it could stem from a very bad past.
So is it okay? Hell no.
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You know something. I said the F-word and something personal to my boyfriend as well too. Guess what? Unlike your reaction and some other guys to hit or push, he broke it off.
It was over that day and it still is. I've been trying to win him back for nearly a month now.I consider it as hitting because in my opinion you don't lay your hand on a lady unless its self defense. and that didn't seem like she did anything physical to you to try and harm you. that all she was doing was yelling at you.
When some people feel they have been mentally defeated, they lash out aggressively physically.
Think about that.
I can see that you know that acting aggressive physically is wrong.
Think about why you felt mentally defeated and about a better way of dealing with that inevitable situation the next time.Well you really shouldn't ever put your hands on her with intentions to hurt her. Even if you say it was a one time thing, I still think talking with a counselor or therapist wouldn't hurt.
Eh, as long she didn't shatter into a million pieces onto the floor, you have to be careful yknow since women are made of glass.
You just gotta control your anger man, I know its hard but if you feel like you're going to lose it then you just need to leave.Hell no, it's not ok! Walk away when you get that hot headed. I'm not as nice as her, once you pushed me it would have been assault and I would have beat your ass in self defense.
To me it's considered domestic violence. I mean even if you didn't mean to, come on you knew that was going to hurt her. I mean floors aren't exactly soft and cushiony.
That would be abuse if it was a pattern but I'd chalk it up as an accident and/or poor judgment. Shit happens. Just make sure you live up to your promise to not do it again.
You pushed her but you didn't hit her? Yeah... Okay. Don't convince yourself.
you placed hands on her and that was enough... smh learn to control your anger or go get some help...
If I were her I would have reported you to the police. That was abuse.
Well kinda, But if your not that type of person never do it again.
trust me if she came and tell the police that they d charge u with assault for sure
It's not ok... pushing people is violence too! She could have fallen in some way that really hurt her!
That's not cool bro. She's your girlfriend you should protect her not hurt her! No matter what!
eh its pretty much the same thing in my eyes. Listen to your girlfriend and never do it again...
oh god... now she might report u dude... hope she's well :/
I consider it as 'shit happens', people have emotions, we can't really control those, what happened wasn't good, but it's nothing that makes you a bad person or something.
You might want to see a counselor to make sure you can deal with your anger better in the future
Same as hitting its abuse ask the cops they will tell you
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