My boyfriend does not want me to go away to college?

[AHALLFORD]

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 years. I graduated early with honors and now I'm looking into college. The one I truly love is about 3 and a half hours away from home. I'm not looking to start until a year from now, but we constantly argue about it. He doesn't want me to go and says he is still not sure on if he can handle That (even after the many times he told me that he supports me all the way). I am madly in love with him but this really does hurt me. I have always put education first and tried my very best to do great in school. I have no clue what to do.

[JSmith925]

I don't even need to think about this one. One of the best approaches to making a life decision is the “fast forward” method. Just think ahead by odd years. Where will this decision lead me and how will I feel about it 3, 5 or 7 years from now?

Sweetie, you graduated early with honors. You need a college with demanding curricula and other bright students to further inform and challenge your thinking. Girls like you belong at Bryn Mawr or Smith, not community college. Doors only open for people who knock.

If he really loves you, he will support your decision to attend a college that provides the best education in your chosen field and the most rounded social life. You have one chance at this. Make it count.

If the two of you are meant for each other, you will end up together, even if you date others in the meanwhile, which---frankly---may not be a bad idea at your age.

It may seem like you’re in love right now but there is a high probability that you will look back 20 years later and realize he was all wrong. Why do I say this? Simple. Right now you are arguing EVERY DAY over something that shouldn’t even be a question. What happens later when you have DIFFICULT decisions like which job to take or how to raise your children? How well will you cope with a REAL crisis like bankruptcy or cancer?

Returning to my opening statement, this fellow is already trying to make YOUR choices after just 2 years. Where will you be in 10?

[AHALLFORD]

Thank you :)

[Hexxus]

Why do you want to go to that college? Do they offer classes that you are unable to take at a nearby college? A local community college will likely be cheaper and you will be able to get up to an associates degree and then transfer your credits to continue your education.

Either way, you have to do what is right for you. You can not give up on your dreams because of a relationship. The education you will get will be with you forever, your current relationship likely will not. A long distance relationship will most likely fail as well so in my opinion if you do move your it would be better to end the relationship and get the heartbreak over with.

Just some things to think about, you have to make the call on your own. I know its a tough situation, good luck.

[AHALLFORD]

Yes it does offer the major I want to do. Its the only college in my state that offers a great program for it. Marine Science. Thank you

[lime_rampljuset]

He is being egoitst, he's only thinking about himself. That ain't true love! A person who loves you will do the best for you.

[lime_rampljuset]

egoist*

[Anonymous]

He's trying to hold you back, but trust me this relationship won't last and you will regret it if you do this

[hamza05021991]

Honey education is essential and not optional.
u should pursue ur studies.
talk to him, tell him that he should understand ur passion.
Put ur studies first. It will empower u.

[Anonymous]

Go to the school, if he can't trust you being 3.5 hours away then the relationship is not good. My parents started dating when my mom was a HS senior, and she lived away from college around the same length you would. My dad actually visited her up there and they have been married for almost 30 years.

[Octavius]

Go to the college.