Could you date someone who hates their family?

[MissNowhere]

And not just because. There is a hella long list of reasons why that's the case. Would you date someone who's not close with their family and basically hates/strongly dislikes all their family members? Or is that a red flag?

I would

I wouldn't

[Phoenix98]

It would depend on the reason why I suppose I mean if their family members are actual good people are the person in question just hates them for some odd reason such as bitterness, immaturity etc. Then no, but if they had a genuine reason for their hatred I suppose I could, I mean for me it would be hard because I am a very family orianted person, I love my family all of them lol.

But I do know people who do hate their families or rather dislike them for good reason, like a good friend of mine hates his because his father ran out on his family and his mother is just a overall horrible person so he hate those two for that reason. But his siblings older brother and younger sister he dose not hate.

[Phoenix98]

Thank you for the MHO.

[dangerDoge]

I would because it would be kind of hypocritical of me to not get along with my family and only date someone that does get along with their family. I don't get along with my family well because we are simply different kinds of people and have different looks on life, but I can understand a plethora of other reasons why someone wouldn't get along with their family. I wouldn't go as so far to call that a red flag. I'm liking the girl and dating her, I'm not trying to date her mother or father lol

[Esplorare]

Yes, I could date someone who hates their family. Some families have given people legitimate reason to hate/disdain them or carry legitimate resentment towards them. For example, those single mothers who are so desperate for love that they turn a blind eye to their children being verbally, emotionally, physically, and/or sexually abused. Those mothers who are married yet have chosen to accept being abused, neglecting the fact that they have also accepted their children being abused too. Those fathers who took away from the joyful innocence of childhood. Some people are not born into loveable families who are truly worthy of their adoration. I wouldn't hold that against someone.

[Esplorare]

Thanks for MHO :)

[existing_not_living]

Well, it depends. Not everyone has a picture perfect life and not everyone has a picture perfect family. I know I don't. I strongly dislike some people in my family and am not very close with them. Immediate family? I love and care for my mother and sister, but still am distanced from them to a degree. I have major issues with my dad, though. Even so, I don't believe it should be a red flag that it's not good to date me. The reason for why the person is important to know because sometimes it really is the family's fault, but other times it could be the person you're datings fault and that could definitely be a red flag.

[Genie23]

Depends on the reason, to be honest.. If he has a good reason, then I might give it a shot but only if he doesn't bring up their topic everyday. I mean it's okay to talk about them every now and then. But if he criticize them almost everyday, tell me how much he hates them.. Then that would be a deal breaker

[ElissaDido]

I wouldn't. If he doesn't like his family it's a deal breaker. I would like to build strong bonds with my furtur husband's family and that would be hard if y own husband doesn't like them.

[normalice]

well, hate is a strong word. I'd be more than comfortable with someone who considers themselves exiled from their family, as that's basically my status. But if they have some sort of vendetta they feel they need to settle, I'd rather not get involved.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Yes, i don't have much love for my family. So yes i would date someone who

dislikes their family i have family whose drama , liars , jealous, trouble makers

if i fall in love with girl who hates her family , not a deal breaker i feel she has her

reasons for hating them and i would do my best to give her all the love i can

if she is willing to accept what love i can give her ,

[GirlsLie]

I would, I know what's is like to have a horrible family, it sucks sometimes because I would to love to have a really nice, big family to be close to but sometimes you're stuck with a really fucked up one lol

I guess if someone didn't have a real reason though, it would be a red flag.

[Bimbobambo]

I would. Because I dont date her Family, I date her. I dont have a crush on her family, I have a crush on her. Of course it would be nice to meet the parents who raised her and Sisters/brothers who got raised with her. But if she doesn't want me to because she doesn't like her own family I won't judge her because in my case I dont hate my family, but I do hate my mother and dont want to see that cheating bitch ever again.. my poor dad raised me and my brother alone. So I understand.

[Hans222]

I would, if I was convinced it was the family that was wrong. For example if ridiculous requirements are involved, or religious interests, I would always support the person I love.
Sometimes, of course, it would be required to look her into the eyes and ask her "are you sure, this is not reasonable and I understand the reaction of your family".
What you should not do is let yourself be directed by the butterflies in your belly.
These guys <3 <3 <3 are NO GOOD ADVISORS :o

[SilenRose]

I voted that I wouldn't because I need to know the reasons. They may have a long list but it could be filled with dumb stuff. Like they say you shouldn't date a guy who disrespects his mom. However, I would need to know the reasons behind his dislike/hate of his mom before making a final call. If he calls her a bitch because she wouldn't put a second mortgage on her house to get him a new car then that's a red flag. Lol

[janaina]

I would date them. Their problems with their family are none of my business, and also there is probably a good reason as to why they don't get on. I for one do not get on with people in my family because they are horrible to me. I wouldn't expect any future boyfriend to involve himself in that

[PiuBelloAmante]

I usually like girls who are family oriented, but i have dated girls who hated their parents and siblings

I would date you <3 haha

[MissNowhere]

aww haha 💙

[alecz]

You do not know a person's family and if you think that everyone has a good family then you're very wrong. The only people in my family I really care about are my mom and brother, my grandparents come in a little behind them but not too much.

[JohnBelluci]

I would find her easier to date actually. That way I don't have to deal with people I don't necessarily like but pretend I like them out of consideration for my girlfriend...

As long as you like mine lol

[kambo_trick3y]

Fuck no.

You find me a person who hates their family and isn't somehow really fucked up in the head and I'll show you a unicorn.

[GirlsLie]

We can't help who we're born to and some of us take fucked up situations and make better ones for ourselves or demand better from ourselves...

[kambo_trick3y]

@GirlsLie

And I admire a person for that, doesn't change the fact that they're fucked up though.

Despite how it happened, a broken bridge is still a broken bridge, it would not be wise to cross it, no matter how it happened.

[GirlsLie]

That's funny because ever since I was a child, I watched how everyone around me fucked up their life and I made sure I didn't do that. I never had to do one single fucked up thing for myself because I had the perfect example of what "fucked up" really was. But i'm still fucked up? Awesome opinion you have there, way to put people who have did nothing "fucked" up into a box because of who they were surrounded by.

That's like saying people who were surrounded by drug addicts are drug addicts themselves even though they're never touched a single drug.

[kambo_trick3y]

@GirlsLie

Ya know, now that I think about it, you do make a good point.

HOWEVER, until I am proven wrong and we met in person and I got to know you on a personal level to see how you psychologically turned out, I'm going to keep to my theory.

So are you saying your family is messed up? Or are you just saying your surroundings and your friends are messed up?

Because they are two VERY different things.

[GirlsLie]

Well that's the smart thing to do and I would do that without anyone new I met, regardless of their family. You should get to know everyone individually before you make that assumption, that was my point lol not that you should go into things blindly/recklessly but treat everyone the same, even people with fucked up families.

My dad was really abusive, he drank a lot as well, my mom still is/was, my sister is a drug addict, she's in jail at the moment. My grandmother ended up getting custody and raising me off and on through out my life. My dad has at least made an effort to change now that he's older, my sister and mom are still the exact same way they've always been, my cousins/aunts/uncles are all in prison for meth labs/attempted murder/rape etc.

[GirlsLie]

I still talk to my family because my parents raise my niece and nephew now and I want a close relationship with my niece especially and I just tolerate my mom/sister/dad really, I try to get along with them but sometimes it's best to distance yourself some from people like that, they don't change and they only hurt you.

I don't think people should out right "hate" their families unless it's for an extreme reason rape/murder etc. but forgiveness is something that comes with time and I think people should always consider giving it a chance but sometimes you need distance for awhile first.

[kambo_trick3y]

@GirlsLie

You get the wrong idea about me.

You seem to be under the impression that I don't leave the door open for a person to prove me wrong.

I may have an opinion, but that is not the same as having it set in stone.

I always give people the option to prove me wrong. Well, not always, after a certain point I cut things off cause it's not worth it, but definitely on first meeting.

[kambo_trick3y]

@GirlsLie

Regardless, I still stand by my opinion.

I don't know you, and there could be more to you than you are leading on in a simple online forum. Until the day we meet and I am proven otherwise, I am keeping to the opinion.

[GirlsLie]

Well do you also think negatively of people who came from good families and who are close to their own?

[kambo_trick3y]

@GirlsLie

Depends on the context of good family.

Some people think a "good family" is the typical white picket fence, fake smiles everywhere family. The kind that bury their problems and pretend everything is okay, an their real character comes out from behind closed doors. If we're talking in that context, no, that's a terrible family.

If we're talking about a family that faces their problems together, puts real value in character and integrity and personal relationships, then yes, that is a good family. Unfortunately, these types of families are becoming more and more rare these days it seems.

I think the person has a higher chance of being a good person if they come from this family cause, for obvious reasons, they grew up in a good environment.

But just like anything, there's always room to be proven wrong.

[GirlsLie]

I agree, i've actually known a lot of drug addicts and women I work with who came from "nice" "rich" families, sometimes it's not always about what type of family they have, it could be the environment as well, where i'm from you're actually looked at as weird because you're the one who is not on drugs.

I just think everyone is "fucked up" to their own degree, we all have issues because of what we've seen and been through but smart people learn from those or recognize them, change them and move on with their lives.

[acrus]

I feel as if the way she is with her family, has nothing to do with you. I strongly dislike my brother bug it's because of personal reasons, and I would hate for you not to give me a chance because of something like that

Just my opinion

[Keyspirits]

If its for a good reason, than why not? I mean she's gotta have a good heart. If she's juz hating on her family for stupei reasons, than no.

[MissNowhere]

first time I see Keyspirits giving a sort of serious answer without the lovey doveyness

[Keyspirits]

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1670136-i-m-going-insane-i-m-really-depressed-what-do-i-do
Hope u open yo eyes and realized the shape of this fragile little heart and whats it all about baby 💏

[MissNowhere]

aaaaand the switch is on again!

[Keyspirits]

Lelelel dont gurls want a Pwince charming '-'

[Polswedgirl]

I don't think you should judge people based on their family/parents or their relationship with them. After all, you're dating the person, not their family.

[Alyssass]

I would date somebody who is not close to their family. Personally, my family has been abusive in a lot of ways and I am not very close to them either.

[mskay]

I would. Also it's because I'm not close with my family, we do talk occasionally and I stay at some relatives' place when I'm there for traveling purposes, but otherwise we rarely talked.

[StrangerMorrison]

Some people just seem to hate their family for no good reason, but most have very, very good reasons. I don't understand the idea that an abusive family deserves love, but a person abused by their own family doesn't?

[Littlett25]

If they're not always bashing their family I could date them. If they are always complaining about their family I'd be like noooope.

[MysteriousFlower]

I need the full story. I don't hate my family but I'd rather live in a different country away from them a while. That's what my aunt did lol :D