My boyfriend only thinks of himself mentally, physically, and emotionally. What can I do to make the relationship more equal?

[Anonymous]

It's more like his feelings, thought, needs, and wants matter more than mines. We've been together for 3 years and I've been feeling a little bit unhappy since fall of last year. He's 30 and I'm 21. I just want him to understand and be concerned with my needs and wants and to fulfill them without thinking of himself. What should I do to or say to get my point across or compromise?

[Goforit1010]

Wow... I would think after 3 years in a relationship he would be far less selfish about you two.

What can you do to make him think more about you? Other than try to explain your needs better, nothing! And like others have said, if he isn't paying enough attention to you by now, he never will. Either just accept it, or decide to find a different guy who will!

[bryon]

Red flag alert here young Lady. If he isn't into fulfilling your needs and wants after 3 years he isn't going to do it at all

[misscocobutter]

One thing for sure is you can't change him, the only thing you can do is leave him if you aren't happy. You can try talking to him to tell him you aren't happy but men rarely listen and they never change.

[0112358]

If he doesn't understand your needs and wants, you could communicate them better, which can be hard, but we could give advice.

If he doesn't care about your thoughts and needs and wants, get the hell out and find someone better.