I don't like my girlfriend going to parties without me, is that reasonable? (Page 2)
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I've been cheated on several times in my life... parties and clubs/bars were involved in all of them. I say you're being really fucking reasonable. Guys, when they go to those things without a girl, they have a very specific reason to go... and it isn't to talk to girls that have their bf's with them.
Without knowing the whole context that attitude strikes me as being unduly possessive.
We need to have our girl time once in a while, just like you need your guy time. If you have trust or insecurity issues that's something you both need to dialogue about, to address & resolve them.
No. She loves a bit of Frenchcore probably, and doesn't like downers like you ruining her downtime night out. She only your fucking girlfriend, not your wife, dumbass
https://www.youtube.com/embed/GvrvQTUbUcANo honey its not reasonable at all. She must be able to party as she pleases and same goes for you but that being said both of you can't really force the other to go out as you please
Everyone is free to make their choices. I understand we compromise in relations but this is not the sort of compromise anyone should make
Also you should ask her what are her reasons coz she might just be wanting to socialise and have fun coz staying home is pretty boring tbh
She's overstepping your boundaries my friend. If you both agreed upon it and she's not sticking to it then she's not respecting your boundaries. She doesn't respect you. Talk to her how it makes you feel see if you can come to an understanding and of not then you're not going to be happy in that relationship.
I agree with you it's perfectly reasonable as a guy who was with girl and she went out and eventually cheated I found out because mate went into the toilets at the club and saw her having it off with another guy. I would only trust her to go out to a professional party not a casual all drink and drugs party.
You are not insane. This is whats called a evolutionary mismatch.
Your instincts are based on a time when contraception, abortion and DNA-tests were not a thing but saber tooth tigers were a thing.
Even today even if she is faithful there are risks involved like you don't want to end up in a situation where you didn't go and she ends up getting raped.
I don’t think it’s reasonable. If she invites you, and you don’t wanna go, then she should be able to go. There’s some parties that I go without my boyfriend. And nothing happens, I don’t go overboard on drinking. I’ll have like 3 beers. And 100% of the time, I’m with my girlfriends. Usually the parties I go without him tho aren’t really parties tho, they’re concerts and we don’t have the same taste in music. I’m just there for the band. You’re way too controlling.
Yes, very reasonable. I wouldn't want my boyfriend to party without me, unless it was something with him and his guy friends only. But other than that, I don't see why your girlfriend would feel the need to go partying without you.
A girl that goes out without her boyfriend wants attention, and not easy to be trusted. Some girls will say girls night out. (Slut night out) if you're in the relationship partying should be kept to minimum.
Two options here: either go together or do the same as she does. Fuck trust, you trust whoever respects you and your wishes.
There's a thing called trust. I've been in that situation before. If she really cares about the relationship she'll obviously be responsible not to flirt with other guys or let me do anything to her.
Trust is a line not so easy to walk, and it seems i need to give her more of it
Reasonable. If a boyfriend wanted to go to a party and I couldn't go, I wouldn't stop him. But if he didn't want me to go without him, I probably wouldn't go. Relationships are about give and take.
Im not stopping her im angry that she happily agreed we'll both go to parties from now on together or we both won't go at all and this is the second time she's doing this and I've let the first one slide, i have never done this I've kept to my word and not gone if she was unable to make it even tho she gave me the "its up to you" card
Maybe she just didn't think you felt as strongly about it :/ Just try talking about it.
Yeah maybe so, only one way to find out i guess
I totally agree with you. You are reasonable. I feel the same way about my boyfriend going out without me. I never like it but I typically let him go because I don’t want to stop him from having fun with his friends. But it is hard to trust people, especially if they’ve given you a reason not to in the past. But I would just be honest with her and tell her how you really feel about it.
Depends on what kind of parties and on the situation, but, in a relationship, you generally introduce your mate at parties and etc. You're not insane. She's kind of supposed to take you. (Social parties, not dance, etc. parties)
Why exactly do you need to go together? It's perfectly normal for couples to have their own circle of friends they hang out or go to places with - without bringing their partners along.
Oh ofcourse except i know her friends and their not the good type and the entire thing irritates me
Well, after reading more, I'll be a 'dumbass' and say trust her even if you don't trust her friends. Simply because you might very well end up driving her away by trying to control her so much and set such absolute limits on what she can and cannot do. Remember, she's your equal partner not your pet.
Guess you right Bud i guess your right
Is fine to prefer that you go together, and in fact if she says "no I want to go without you" that's a HUGE red flag. BUT, if you're unable to go or if you just don't want to go, it's unfair to ask that she not go too. If it's that important to you, change your schedule and go with her.
Yes.. you are NOT wrong if she wants to go to a party she can be with u
Unless she is hiding something
I’m going out regardless , fuck that ! Lol
yes it is...
if she refuses to respect your emotions, you have to move on, or you have to get therapy. Either way, you should learn a lot from this.
She is clearly not girlfriend material for you. If she feels she needs to party without you, she is for the streets. Degrade her to the hookup she is. And start looking for a decent woman.