I hate other girls touching my boyfriend inappropriately. What to do?

[Anonymous]

[WalterRadio]

Say, "I noticed you are getting a little close to __. I'll tell you what, come to our house at ___ and join us in bed. Wear leather. We have a whip and ropes." Or whatever specifics you can come up with. The idea is to be brazen and to say it like you are serious.

Here is what is going to happen, the other girl will do one of two things. Most likely, she will be so appalled at your gall to say such a thing that she will back off and run, and you can have a lifetime of laughter over it. In a small number of cases, she will show up wearing leather.

[AhGojira]

He can't control other women's actions, he can only react to them. If he likes the attention and plays into it and is flirty with them, then he's a douche... If he sets them in their place like what are you doing, I'm here with my girlfriend... Then cool... There's always going to be some scandalous bitch that's going to try and steal someone's man, it's how your man deals with it that is important... Same goes for girls.

[Anonymous]

Something like this happened to me and my boyfriend. I told him that if this happens, it's because of me. If girls see a guy who has a pretty, nice girl as a girlfriend they will think he might have something so attractive or she wouldn't be with him. I explained him that girls think this way, sometimes uncounsciously.
If he understands this, I don't have problems with girls touching him. He can enjoy this attention. But if I see that it is too much, I would tell him to be careful not to turn himself into an object that everyone can touch.

[Katerina_Belle]

This lies in the hand of your boyfriend.

He needs to put those boundaries in with other girls himself, only then will they stop. So, have a word with him and tell him it makes you uncomfortable.

And if he doesn't do anything then I say you let other guys touch you inappropriately too and if he really cares for you he wouldn't like it; and you use that opportunity to tell him that that is exactly how you feel and that he needs to stop it or you won't either.

[Maroke]

This is kind of a toxic way of thinking and doing things. Just talk about it with him in a calm manner

[Minxxie]

He probably hates it too, just tell him he shouldn't put up ith it and to stand up for himself. Also if you see someone doing that then go up and hug him and kiss him and lead him away. There was this girl who always used to put her head on my boyfriend's shoulder or like touch his chest and one day he just stood up and moved away from her and said "I don't like it when you do that so you need to stop". Sometimes you have to be really blunt.

[ElissaDido]

Duh who would like it? Just tell him that and if he doesn't do something it means he doesn't care and enjoys it. In that case I would throw his ass out of my life.

[Raymond_Reddington]

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[Toad-1]

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Give them this look

[mooky06]

LOOOL

[Kylesar]

Interject like this
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[IceEverest]

Lol...

[DodgersGM]

This is simultaneously endearing and slightly scary. I like it.

[madhatters4]

well i guess it depends on what you define inappropriate as but generally speaking you need to tell your boyfriend that allowing people to do certain things is not ok and he should make that clear

once he's done that if girls still make inappropriate advances you may have to confront those women

[Asker]

A 40 year old woman grabbing his ass

[madhatters4]

well like i said the first step is to tell him that it isn't ok and trusting that with that knowledge he'll curb any of that behavior in the future... after that if it persists you may have talk to the girl specifically

[Asker]

She is a co-worker. It's hard for me to see her. I really hate this.

[madhatters4]

so he just told you it happened? then you need to make it clear to your boyfriend that the behavior isn't ok and that he has to put a stop to it.

the onus is really on him. i'm marreid and if a woman made inappropriate advances i'd put a hard stop to it

[DodgersGM]

First, make sure he's aware of how you feel and make certain that he's reacting appropriately to these situations.

Second, sometimes you've just gotta give another woman that I-will-claw-your-eyes-out look.

[Asker]

The problem is this bitch is from his job.

[Mesonfielde]

You have to define "inappropriate". Talking to him isn't cheating, ya know.

[Asker]

Slap his ass

[Mesonfielde]

Ah. Just go with what @Toad-1 said.

[Asker]

Im so nervous... the thing is this happens at work, I can't go there

[Mesonfielde]

In that case it is his responsibility to flip them off

[mooky06]

1. I would try to ignore it

If number 1 fails.. (Which will be most of the time)

2. Tell her "take your hands off my boyfriend, or I'll go over there and do it for you"

[justbanANNAz]

tell your boyfriend that if he doesn't have the brain to resist another woman's touch like that, then he might as well just go be with one of them because u won't share.

[soccerchick4eva]

Talk to him about how you feel, your in a relationship with him, so discussing this stuff shouldn't be a problem, I just hope he isn't allowing this to happen

[joeb73]

if your b/f let them then dump him because if he was serious about you he wouldn't allow it

[kaylaS91]

Telling your boyfriend that him permitting other girls to touch him is unacceptable would be a good place to start.

[Raymond_Reddington]

yeah sure. blame him.

[Raymond_Reddington]

why don't you blame them for touching him?

[kaylaS91]

@Raymond_Reddington he's equally at fault as the girls are. It's just much easier to tell the person that you're actually involved with that you're not cool with what's going on versus bitching out each and every girl that makes a move on him which will ultimately make you look like you're crazy posessive.

[Raymond_Reddington]

how can you possibly know he's equally at fault? the asker only said that girls are touching her boyfriend, nowhere does she say that he allows it. so as far as i'm concerned, those girls are the only ones at fault.

[kaylaS91]

@Raymond_Reddington.. I'm assuming these girls aren't all assaulting him on the street or jumping out of bushes in hopes of copping a feel.

[Asker]

@Raymond_Reddington he said he asked her to stop. She is a 40 year-old who grabs his ass

[kaylaS91]

@Asker
If it's the same person as a repeat offender, he should report it to the police.

[Raymond_Reddington]

@kaylaS91 oh now you're on his side. what happened to the ''blame him'' part?

[kaylaS91]

@Raymond_Reddington op made it sound like it's multiple girls from the question writeup. The additional information she added changed the question a bit.

[Raymond_Reddington]

@kaylaS91 so how does multiple girls touching him suddenly make it his fault, but when one single old lady touches him, it's not his fault. i don't understand your reasoning here.

[kaylaS91]

@Raymond_Reddington If it's one lady, report her to the police or tell her to back the fuck off. If it's multiple girls... not much you can do unless you basically launch a fB campaign calling them out individually.
It's always partially the guy's fault.

[Raymond_Reddington]

@kaylaS91 so if it was a girl being inappropriately touched, would it always be partially the girls fault too?

[kaylaS91]

@Raymond_Reddington If she permitted one of her guy friends or classmates to do it repeatedly and justified it by saying he's just like that or being 'friendly', yes.

[Raymond_Reddington]

@kaylaS91 but thats not what the guy was doing. he told that old lady to stop, yet it's still partially his fault, because it's always partially the guys fault... so if the girl told her potential 40 year old herrasser to stop, would it still be partially her fault too?

[kaylaS91]

@Raymond_Reddington... what are you so bitter about with constantly asking for confirmation that it's not only the guy's fault? yes, it's BOTH PARTIES FAULT.

[Raymond_Reddington]

@kaylaS91 i thought you were one of those b*tches who blame guys for EVERYTHING simply because they're guys.

[WpCurious]

Talk to your boyfriend, he should let them know he is taken. And if they don't listen to him then talk to the girls.

[Lynda_The_Devil]

My boyfriend is into bodybuilding and very muscular. Girls are often asking to feel his arms, pecs and abs. I see it as not an issue as I know he wouldn't stray.

[Cj_Shway]

Talk to your boyfriend about it. tell him it makes you uncomfortable that they're touching him inappropriately.

[Tarvold]

Play it up.

Join the conversation. Touch her back. Suggest a threesome. Weird her out so she moves on.

[Asker]

Loooool good one

[jayyyjayyy]

Well obviously but the girls aren't the problem he is. If he doesn't push them off or tell them to stop then he likes it

[Awesome2]

Remember this they may touch him but only you get him in the bedroom. Walk up to him and kiss him, in front of these girls that will crush there flirting.

[Lynx122]

Slap them as hard as you can, and have a friend film it please ;)

[Anonymous]

Yea

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[Iamathinker]

Stand up for yourself and your relationship, these women are disrespecting both.

[MaxAsian9]

Talk to him, communication is very important. If he loves you, he will show efforts to make you feel secure

[IceEverest]

When you see this happening go and hug him. They will get it.

[Howisit]

Say to the girls to stop touching your boy friend because he is not single

[selmo93]

Well course you do since its innapropriate.

[CHARismatic110]

Tell them to keep their damn hands to themselves.

[Anonymous]

Touch their boyfriend inappropriately.

[JSmuve]

Take em into the octagon.

[SomeoneImportant]

Time to start cracking some fuckin heads sista

[WhaChaChaKing]

Get a boyfriend that'll tell them to fuck off.

[Walls_and_Doors]

I believe that hatred is normal.

[Sabretooth]

it's him who needs to do something.

[blondfrog]

Break up with him.