Hmm it could be because of your "high standards". I'm with a guy now who has a lot of flaws, like we all do, but I'm with him more for how he makes me feel and his personality over anything else. He treats me like an absolute princess because the love is genuine. You just need to hold guys to less standards.. no one's perfect, including you.
Who cares about movie style romance as long as he treats you well? My boyfriend has never written me a poem or strewn rose petals around the room but I don't give a shit... he treats me kindly and with respect and treats me as his equal. That's more than enough for me!!
I'll take my unromantic, respectful, loving boyfriend over a guy who swings between ass hole and sweet.
some guys still are... they are just hard to find. just like its hard to find a woman who does stereotypical "woman" stuff. its 2016, equality has been fought for and gotten (to an extent)... guys don't need all that... guessing y'all don't either... i mean.. we are equals now.. right?
eh... some of us are old souls... slow songs, dancing, picnics, hand holding, secret notes and clues. now its just about who has the most money or who fucks better. kinda sad.
Unfortunately your right but your a victim to your own sex. It's simply because there are to many women to have friends with benefits or fuck buddies or even just casual sex. So guys don't have to try very hard any more to get to know a woman before she may sleep with them.
That riht there pisses me off---I hate being categorized with other women and I want to be treated differently as myself! Fuck those narrow minded men ! >:(
I agree it's sad but the balance of sexual power is with women. They just need to realize it and be careful what you ask for because it's not all ways what you think it is.
This is definitely because of porn and masturbating.
These stimulating activities wire the brain to start craving and wanting more of these things while numbing the emotional and other areas of the brain through constant flooding of dopamine from watching porn and masturbating.
Wow.. . That is terrible, but I don't feel like that's the main issue, like even the most nicest and gentlemanly guys get cravings sometimes, but it really depends on the kind of guy and how much control they have. Personally I don't mind if some guy wants to get a little freaky sometimes, but ALL THE TIME and it being practically being the only reason why he's still in the relationship gets a little old. . >m>
blame the women's movement for that. guys just don't know what to do when women become so hostile to men. as for the gifts he gave you, appreciate them for the thought behind the gift rather than the gift itself. sometimes he just doesn't have the wallet for "nicer things".
This is something a lot of guys don't get. The fact that it's not the big occasional presents that actually makes their girlfirends but small, constant attention. They don't think it's "important" enough. You might want to talk to your boyfriend about it, seeing this visibly isn't part of the standard boyfriend manual :p Make him understand you'd much rather he showed mini-signs of affections every day rather than an enormous bouquet once a month or whatever.
I already broke up with his sorry ass (he broke uo with me I guess but I wanted the same anyway) Lol 😂😂 I hate telling guys what I want. Trust me. I made it CLEAR to him several times that I want him to do cute things with me but he really didn't do shit but wanna feel me up 😅
It's hard to ask things from your partner, but communication's the only thing that helps couples hold through tough times :) Don't see it as a one-way speach ("I want you to kiss me this way and that way, every hour or so, and say you love me in a really sweet voice") and more like a conversation. Bring up examples of moments where you wished he'd acted differently. Also, listen to his demands, and try to act upon it. If he sees you're making an effort, he might make one too. (The advice goes for all future boyfriends)
Its true that most guys today do just want to fuck.. Its very sad. But their are some guys out there who are still sweet and gentlemen like. I am one XD and I know a few who don't understand guys who just want to fuck. And no you are not too picky. Wanting romance is normal. You're probably a hopeless romantic, like moi
I think guys are afraid of being the cheesy, corny, romantic type. You really put yourself on the line for a harsh rejection whenever you take a risk like that and make an over the top romantic gesture. I always think of that guy who proposed at a basketball game and got rejected in front of thousands of people.
Well I don't know about you but my boyfriend and I have been really romantic with each other! We've made cute gifts for each other like I made him a locket and a box that said all the reasons I love him :) just be romantic and do cute things and he should do it back. Being romantic is really just trying to make your SO smile. I think that your ex was trying but your standards were too high for him.
Well I have like no experience.. But, I know how to treat a girl. Unlike a lot of dudes, I'm not trying to say I'm the fedora dude.. But it varies on the girl I guess. Everyone is into different things, but I tend to feed on the things they like to keep them happy. I have been to the zoo with a girl once and she said she enjoyed every minute of it.
Because I live in London I can take her anywhere in the city. Winter Wonderland is first on my list.
That's what I meant though! Going to cool places with your loved ones! Like, I've always wanted to go to a waterpark, aquarium, or rollar skating park with my future boyfriend 😀😀 I just wish that would happen more often
I dont know how to answer this that well since my guy is really good at this with presents and suprises and all ahha but maybe its just who the guy is, not all guys have the same sort of idea about romance but hey he still got you nice presents, if my guy got me chocolates and a dog plush i would be happy cause its the thought that counts not the sort of present you received :)
I wasn't really talking much about the gifts but more of the fact he never showed any other kind f affection rather than it being lust and I'm sort of old fashioned so I expect more than "getting in my pants" from a guy. Yeah, when he is in a sexy mode it can be cute or hot or whatever, but those moments when he tells you he cares or just makes you feel special matter to me the most.
You're dealing with guys in a young age range. Most guys take a while to fill into themselves. With experience and maturity, these young guys that you're turning down now will be gentleman in the future.
I think he's right. I met my boyfriend when he was 23 and that boy wouldn't know romance if Nicholas Sparks himself smacked him in the face with it. I would never get any sweet text messages and got 0 gifts for my birthday, Christmas, you name it, as well as rarely showing PDA Yet as the last 2 years have gone by, he has really put more of an effort into romancing me. He sends me cute messages, takes me on more dates, buys me gifts, and even sings love songs to me while laying in bed. He told me the sudden change was because he has finally been able to love himself and in turn knows how to love me even better than before.
Great insight. In order to give one must feel secure in who they are. A lot is expected of men, and once they have a chance to figure things out, you have a gentleman. Of course some guys will never have class. They are easy to spot.
@Ginger_Ale1423 :') That's so cute~ I'm happy he was able to finally feel better about himself and where he was at to start loving more. He kind of reminds me of myself. I feel like if I was in a relationship with a guy and he was sweet I'd have to learn to love myself before I can really reciprocate any of that back ^^;
Don't generalize bro, there are a few women who be like this media.giphy.com/media/VLSsv976ylMdy/giphy.gif You don't see men whining about them. And most women don't even give gifts or anything to men.
Well... here is the truth... most guys in our age ranges are not at all mature... even the girls aren't too... As far as I know... we teenagers are going through hell right now... we are way more self conscious... We want people's acceptance... but NO i realised that all you need is yourself!
I can only suggest that you wait till get to your 20s... you will see what guys can do ;)
I see. Yeah. That boyfriend I memtioned was so immature--It was sick. Most times I feel very mature for being 17 infact I mostly hang out with friends older than me just because I get too annoyed with younger kids. I have a low tolerance for immaturity. . .. That also head to our breakup
Well if you find that buying you the perfect gift is "romantic" then I don't know what's up with people now a days. First of all, you shouldn't have to wait for a particular day to spend time with your loved ones. Days like that are just days where industries promote so that they can have good sales.
You are the reason girl, if you told him what you like and what you hate he would have brought you what you like, and avoided what you hate. My girl told me once she likes makeups, and being complimented. I kept that on mind on V-Day i gave her a packed up gift containing hands varnish, and a small paper written on it the 10 things i like about her, she really liked it.
because everything that was formerly known as being "romantic" is now called "sexist" or "creepy"... so a guy being romantic is not socially acceptable anymore.
next time you ask yourself why people are not romantic, you should consider how you treated the last guy that actually was trying to be romantic but that you were not into at all.
Because that's the new trend of being romantic. You're girl with my thinking. I tried doing all these and my girls left me saying you're not romantic. I used one girl only for sex and she compliment I'm so romantic. I don't know, what's the yardstick of being romantic in this robot world.
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Hmm it could be because of your "high standards". I'm with a guy now who has a lot of flaws, like we all do, but I'm with him more for how he makes me feel and his personality over anything else. He treats me like an absolute princess because the love is genuine. You just need to hold guys to less standards.. no one's perfect, including you.
Who cares about movie style romance as long as he treats you well? My boyfriend has never written me a poem or strewn rose petals around the room but I don't give a shit... he treats me kindly and with respect and treats me as his equal. That's more than enough for me!!
I'll take my unromantic, respectful, loving boyfriend over a guy who swings between ass hole and sweet.
Lol xD That's so true that it hurts
some guys still are... they are just hard to find.
just like its hard to find a woman who does stereotypical "woman" stuff.
its 2016, equality has been fought for and gotten (to an extent)... guys don't need all that... guessing y'all don't either... i mean.. we are equals now.. right?
Again, I HATE my generation. . .. .
eh... some of us are old souls...
slow songs, dancing, picnics, hand holding, secret notes and clues.
now its just about who has the most money or who fucks better.
kinda sad.
That last opinion is like so true and sad
@Cloudy25 yes, yes it is
Unfortunately your right but your a victim to your own sex. It's simply because there are to many women to have friends with benefits or fuck buddies or even just casual sex.
So guys don't have to try very hard any more to get to know a woman before she may sleep with them.
That riht there pisses me off---I hate being categorized with other women and I want to be treated differently as myself! Fuck those narrow minded men ! >:(
I agree it's sad but the balance of sexual power is with women. They just need to realize it and be careful what you ask for because it's not all ways what you think it is.
This is definitely because of porn and masturbating.
These stimulating activities wire the brain to start craving and wanting more of these things while numbing the emotional and other areas of the brain through constant flooding of dopamine from watching porn and masturbating.
Wow.. . That is terrible, but I don't feel like that's the main issue, like even the most nicest and gentlemanly guys get cravings sometimes, but it really depends on the kind of guy and how much control they have. Personally I don't mind if some guy wants to get a little freaky sometimes, but ALL THE TIME and it being practically being the only reason why he's still in the relationship gets a little old. . >m>
blame the women's movement for that. guys just don't know what to do when women become so hostile to men. as for the gifts he gave you, appreciate them for the thought behind the gift rather than the gift itself. sometimes he just doesn't have the wallet for "nicer things".
No, I asked him about it and he said his Mom picked out the gifts. . .>m> He was a gross momma's boy. . . erg
This is something a lot of guys don't get. The fact that it's not the big occasional presents that actually makes their girlfirends but small, constant attention. They don't think it's "important" enough.
You might want to talk to your boyfriend about it, seeing this visibly isn't part of the standard boyfriend manual :p Make him understand you'd much rather he showed mini-signs of affections every day rather than an enormous bouquet once a month or whatever.
I already broke up with his sorry ass (he broke uo with me I guess but I wanted the same anyway) Lol 😂😂 I hate telling guys what I want. Trust me. I made it CLEAR to him several times that I want him to do cute things with me but he really didn't do shit but wanna feel me up 😅
It's hard to ask things from your partner, but communication's the only thing that helps couples hold through tough times :)
Don't see it as a one-way speach ("I want you to kiss me this way and that way, every hour or so, and say you love me in a really sweet voice") and more like a conversation. Bring up examples of moments where you wished he'd acted differently. Also, listen to his demands, and try to act upon it. If he sees you're making an effort, he might make one too.
(The advice goes for all future boyfriends)
I see 😅😅 Yeah. . . Unfortuneately it didn't work out, but hopefully next time
Its true that most guys today do just want to fuck.. Its very sad. But their are some guys out there who are still sweet and gentlemen like. I am one XD and I know a few who don't understand guys who just want to fuck. And no you are not too picky. Wanting romance is normal. You're probably a hopeless romantic, like moi
😍😍😍😚😚😛😜 Oui Oui I am! Tres Bien! Lol fml 😂😂
Lol don't worry you will find someone. I'm sure you will.
😅😅 Maybe not~ But I hope so!
I think guys are afraid of being the cheesy, corny, romantic type. You really put yourself on the line for a harsh rejection whenever you take a risk like that and make an over the top romantic gesture. I always think of that guy who proposed at a basketball game and got rejected in front of thousands of people.
😞😞 That's terrible. No one should kill a guy's libido like that
Well I don't know about you but my boyfriend and I have been really romantic with each other! We've made cute gifts for each other like I made him a locket and a box that said all the reasons I love him :) just be romantic and do cute things and he should do it back. Being romantic is really just trying to make your SO smile. I think that your ex was trying but your standards were too high for him.
Yeah 😅😅 Probably, but awwee! That sounds so cute! #RelationShipGoals 😍😍😙😗😁
Well I have like no experience..
But, I know how to treat a girl. Unlike a lot of dudes, I'm not trying to say I'm the fedora dude.. But it varies on the girl I guess. Everyone is into different things, but I tend to feed on the things they like to keep them happy. I have been to the zoo with a girl once and she said she enjoyed every minute of it.
Because I live in London I can take her anywhere in the city. Winter Wonderland is first on my list.
Fedora dude 😂😂 Lol I love Chikage! Such a ladie's man cdn.myanimelist.net/.../275083.jpg
That's what I meant though! Going to cool places with your loved ones! Like, I've always wanted to go to a waterpark, aquarium, or rollar skating park with my future boyfriend 😀😀 I just wish that would happen more often
By the way I'm an anime weirdo so yeah lol 😂😂😍😍 Ignore that if you'd like
It's okay haha, I only watch BDZ lmao
Aquarium sounds awesome tho.. I love nature and animals sooo much.
😅😅 Yeeee Aquarium trip!
Come with? :3
Sure! 😄😄 More the merrier!
I dont know how to answer this that well since my guy is really good at this with presents and suprises and all ahha but maybe its just who the guy is, not all guys have the same sort of idea about romance but hey he still got you nice presents, if my guy got me chocolates and a dog plush i would be happy cause its the thought that counts not the sort of present you received :)
I wasn't really talking much about the gifts but more of the fact he never showed any other kind f affection rather than it being lust and I'm sort of old fashioned so I expect more than "getting in my pants" from a guy. Yeah, when he is in a sexy mode it can be cute or hot or whatever, but those moments when he tells you he cares or just makes you feel special matter to me the most.
You're dealing with guys in a young age range. Most guys take a while to fill into themselves. With experience and maturity, these young guys that you're turning down now will be gentleman in the future.
Maybe-- 😕😕 I doubt it though
I think he's right. I met my boyfriend when he was 23 and that boy wouldn't know romance if Nicholas Sparks himself smacked him in the face with it. I would never get any sweet text messages and got 0 gifts for my birthday, Christmas, you name it, as well as rarely showing PDA
Yet as the last 2 years have gone by, he has really put more of an effort into romancing me. He sends me cute messages, takes me on more dates, buys me gifts, and even sings love songs to me while laying in bed.
He told me the sudden change was because he has finally been able to love himself and in turn knows how to love me even better than before.
@Ginger_Ale1423
Great insight. In order to give one must feel secure in who they are. A lot is expected of men, and once they have a chance to figure things out, you have a gentleman. Of course some guys will never have class. They are easy to spot.
@Ginger_Ale1423 :') That's so cute~ I'm happy he was able to finally feel better about himself and where he was at to start loving more. He kind of reminds me of myself. I feel like if I was in a relationship with a guy and he was sweet I'd have to learn to love myself before I can really reciprocate any of that back ^^;
Don't generalize bro, there are a few women who be like this
media.giphy.com/media/VLSsv976ylMdy/giphy.gif
You don't see men whining about them. And most women don't even give gifts or anything to men.
Well... here is the truth... most guys in our age ranges are not at all mature... even the girls aren't too...
As far as I know... we teenagers are going through hell right now... we are way more self conscious... We want people's acceptance... but NO i realised that all you need is yourself!
I can only suggest that you wait till get to your 20s... you will see what guys can do ;)
I see. Yeah. That boyfriend I memtioned was so immature--It was sick. Most times I feel very mature for being 17 infact I mostly hang out with friends older than me just because I get too annoyed with younger kids. I have a low tolerance for immaturity. . .. That also head to our breakup
Same problem... here... just wanna get the hell out of highschool. :)
SAME! I hate not being a senior already! 😧😧
by the way its my last year... Haha
That s not true, well it wasn t with me
I ve met some really sweet guys who were adorbs
I'm happy for you, that you've achieve more luck than I have ^^; Unfortunately I'm not as lucky!
hopefully your luck would change
tc ^^
Well if you find that buying you the perfect gift is "romantic" then I don't know what's up with people now a days. First of all, you shouldn't have to wait for a particular day to spend time with your loved ones. Days like that are just days where industries promote so that they can have good sales.
Yeah, that was part of my point, romance and love isn't all about just the gufts you get. . .
You are the reason girl, if you told him what you like and what you hate he would have brought you what you like, and avoided what you hate. My girl told me once she likes makeups, and being complimented. I kept that on mind on V-Day i gave her a packed up gift containing hands varnish, and a small paper written on it the 10 things i like about her, she really liked it.
But I did tell him what I wanted! I even hinted at it highly
Lol at that guy, it seems like he believes in what he likes only. I'm wondering what was on his mind when he bought you these gifts.
because everything that was formerly known as being "romantic" is now called "sexist" or "creepy"... so a guy being romantic is not socially acceptable anymore.
next time you ask yourself why people are not romantic, you should consider how you treated the last guy that actually was trying to be romantic but that you were not into at all.
Because that's the new trend of being romantic. You're girl with my thinking. I tried doing all these and my girls left me saying you're not romantic. I used one girl only for sex and she compliment I'm so romantic. I don't know, what's the yardstick of being romantic in this robot world.
That girl who said sex is romantic and just being used is a retarded bitch
Thanks dear. Really needed girls like you in this world to make this world a better place to live and love.