Girls rarely match guys with effort; after years and years of this trend guys are finally sick of it and are moving away from relationships. It's not rocket science. Women want special treatment and often offer little more than sex, yet rant about equality and ability, but still expect guys to offer more. Good job ladies.
I don't think most guys have ever done things things like that not just nowadays. You may be too picky about appearances. Most of the sweet guys tend to be underdogs based on my experience with them instead of the guys girls consider "cute" or "hot"
Probably because - I don't know, actually. I was gonna say that Hollywood fucked them up, but that may be a loose fabrication. I know if I was in a relationship, I would be romantic - whether it's to make a very nice candlelight dinner at my place or do something out on the town or something.
It goes goes both ways I've been in relationships where I've put so much effort into being romantic and she's loved it but after a while it becomes just an every day thing for her and she never puts effort in so it becomes too one sided so I just couldn't be bothered doing it all the time... It's pretty disheartening...
Well, some guys are naturally aromantic, or they lack that romantic touch in them, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they don't love you. I can understand what you are saying though and there is nothing wrong in expecting that.
*sigh* Not really. My point was to bring too forefront that guys aren't really being romantic with their girls anymore, but apparently I'm just too young and I haven't found the right one so i just have to stay hopeful and keep looking.
Lmao 😂 No not looks. I mean if they think there's a possibility that you're "the one"
Like I can unlock the romance in one man but maybe not another. Like you can't unlock the romance in your man but maybe another guy would pull out all the stops for you lol
OH! So you mean in depends on how much comfort and trust they have for you 😅😅 That makes sense. That was definitely lacking in the last relationship I was in that I mentioned above. (I sometimes even accused him for cheating which now I slightly feel bad for 😅😅)
Yeah you're right, my girl knew how to make me show my romantic side in two weeks. Actually this is the reason i started dating her, most of the time girls who like me don't understand me, and i end up turning them down. Believe it or not girls in my school thought i was cold due to the number of girls i turned down, and never asking a girl out because they didn't understand me, they were surprised when i started dating this girl. And guess what? The girl who i'm dating right now people thought the same thing about her, they thought she is cold too. Me and this girl simply were meant for each others, we have tons of things in common (Even in how fast we eat lol), she understands me and i understand her very well.
@JohnMike999 I think that can be said for me as well. I bond best with people I experience the most things with or have lots in common with. I don't talk much to people but when I do it's because we have something in common or something caught my attention that I wanted to talk to them about and actually that's how I got my last boyfriend. We both liked anime, but as for everything else we were complete opposites. He was hyper active and I was more chill and reserved. We also didn't have much else in common and even fought about what to watch or do together so we didn''t really *click*
@CutiePie6913 Would you get into relationship with someone who doesn't understand you? I would never do that because i know that it won't work out. You know sometimes despite all things we have in common, we run out of things to say, and that is the time i usually start teasing/flirting her i told her once "I can run out of things to say, i can run out of jokes, but my love to you would never run out".
Because there are so many options. They do not want to try anymore. And also keep in mind. Real love and a real romantic person are not easy to find. So keep searching.
Honestly, I'm glad that its that way.. I find romantic guys way to cheesy! However, I stumbled upon quite a lot of overly romantic guys in my past.-. Wanna switch? :P
So when you talk about being romantic, the main thing you mention in your description are material possessions that he gifted to you. So romantic=buys you stuff?
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I see a guy below said those guys are gonna be gentleman and shit... ya know wot?
I'm almost 25 and I'm not a gentleman at all... I hate gentlemanism... I believe it's for pussies...
And no I'm not romantic at all... if I saw ya I'd make clear ma intentions towards ya... there's zero sweetness comin' from me... if ya want a sweet guy look somewhere else...
Most men are sick and tired of women that just take take take and never give any romance or anything in return. It is a two way street which most women need to learn.
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Then there is all the sexist things and put downs many women say about us men all day, every day of our lives. We just get fed up with it all.
😢😢 That truly is sad. I'm sorry you guys had to suffer through that. I'll be honest, sometimes I do take what guys do for granted but I'd make sure to give some back if they really cared enough
😦😦 I see. . . So most women just see guys who are nice or flirty as oerverts or man whores. . . Well that is really terrible. I'm not like most women. That really does break my heart. I'd hug you if I could. This world just seems more darker when I look at it like that.
Most women see the nice men as actually bad people and because they see us like this they treat us like we are the scum of the earth when we have actually done nothing to them. This makes us nice men give up on women, we go and hide which makes it hard for the good women out there to find a good man because we have given up and are not around.
There is a lot of truth to this. I only have 1 happily married friend, 2 unhappily married friends who tell everyone who will listen not to get married, 2 divorced friends who will never "commit" again in their lives, their words (both their wives had affairs then divorced them and took every thing) and the rest of my guy buds, 5 guys, are mid thirties or older and have ZERO desire to date at all let alone have a relationship, they are all average normal dudes with good jobs etc..
I know that's subjective but I think that it's not abnormal anymore, there are even books written on the subject now.
Id say its more the guys you date aren't. Not guys in general. And no you were not to picky, gifts should involve thought and show you know your partner. Not show you dont care what they like enough to find out.
nothing personally im not very romantic my self its disgusting dont come to with that emotional bs and ill probably end up trying to hit him and crying smh
I'm afraid you ladies are extremely difficult to please , we are damned if we do , damned if we don't. When married , I stopped giving gifts for my ex birthday , even Christmas as she never appreciated my effort / thoughts ( also I HATE shopping )
I was/am very romantic, and extremely passionate. But lets face it, most girls aren't appreciative of those things anymore, and the big majority won't reciprocate the same way.
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Girls rarely match guys with effort; after years and years of this trend guys are finally sick of it and are moving away from relationships. It's not rocket science. Women want special treatment and often offer little more than sex, yet rant about equality and ability, but still expect guys to offer more.
Good job ladies.
I don't think most guys have ever done things things like that not just nowadays. You may be too picky about appearances. Most of the sweet guys tend to be underdogs based on my experience with them instead of the guys girls consider "cute" or "hot"
I'm really not though. . . As i said before I take what I can get ^^; I'm not that pretty myself--
Oh please girl look at your profile picture
Probably because - I don't know, actually. I was gonna say that Hollywood fucked them up, but that may be a loose fabrication. I know if I was in a relationship, I would be romantic - whether it's to make a very nice candlelight dinner at my place or do something out on the town or something.
It goes goes both ways I've been in relationships where I've put so much effort into being romantic and she's loved it but after a while it becomes just an every day thing for her and she never puts effort in so it becomes too one sided so I just couldn't be bothered doing it all the time... It's pretty disheartening...
Well, some guys are naturally aromantic, or they lack that romantic touch in them, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they don't love you. I can understand what you are saying though and there is nothing wrong in expecting that.
You're seventeen.
You should just be thanking your lucky stars the poor guy remembered those dates were things that merited presents in the first place.
Lol That's funny af almost choked on this comment xD
Just because its a holiday doesn't obligate ur boyfriend to buy you a bunch of sht or give you anything but affection. you're materializing love.
*sigh* Not really. My point was to bring too forefront that guys aren't really being romantic with their girls anymore, but apparently I'm just too young and I haven't found the right one so i just have to stay hopeful and keep looking.
Plenty of guys are romantic. I think it takes a certain girl to bring it out of them.
Ugh 😑😑 Really? SORRY I'M NOT A 10/10 JFC 😕😕😡😡
Lmao 😂 No not looks. I mean if they think there's a possibility that you're "the one"
Like I can unlock the romance in one man but maybe not another.
Like you can't unlock the romance in your man but maybe another guy would pull out all the stops for you lol
OH! So you mean in depends on how much comfort and trust they have for you 😅😅 That makes sense. That was definitely lacking in the last relationship I was in that I mentioned above. (I sometimes even accused him for cheating which now I slightly feel bad for 😅😅)
Yeah. That might have been the issue. On to the next guy :) lol
Yup 😊☺
Yeah you're right, my girl knew how to make me show my romantic side in two weeks. Actually this is the reason i started dating her, most of the time girls who like me don't understand me, and i end up turning them down. Believe it or not girls in my school thought i was cold due to the number of girls i turned down, and never asking a girl out because they didn't understand me, they were surprised when i started dating this girl. And guess what? The girl who i'm dating right now people thought the same thing about her, they thought she is cold too. Me and this girl simply were meant for each others, we have tons of things in common (Even in how fast we eat lol), she understands me and i understand her very well.
@JohnMike999 I think that can be said for me as well. I bond best with people I experience the most things with or have lots in common with. I don't talk much to people but when I do it's because we have something in common or something caught my attention that I wanted to talk to them about and actually that's how I got my last boyfriend. We both liked anime, but as for everything else we were complete opposites. He was hyper active and I was more chill and reserved. We also didn't have much else in common and even fought about what to watch or do together so we didn''t really *click*
@CutiePie6913 Would you get into relationship with someone who doesn't understand you? I would never do that because i know that it won't work out. You know sometimes despite all things we have in common, we run out of things to say, and that is the time i usually start teasing/flirting her i told her once "I can run out of things to say, i can run out of jokes, but my love to you would never run out".
Because there are so many options. They do not want to try anymore.
And also keep in mind. Real love and a real romantic person are not easy to find. So keep searching.
Right! *sighs*
Most guys I knew stopped being romantic if they ever were.
General experience is that unless a woman is head over heels for you, it goes over badly not well. And makes her find you less attractive.
😢😢 Awee~ I feel so bad for those who refired from their previous acts. . .
Honestly, I'm glad that its that way.. I find romantic guys way to cheesy!
However, I stumbled upon quite a lot of overly romantic guys in my past.-.
Wanna switch? :P
So when you talk about being romantic, the main thing you mention in your description are material possessions that he gifted to you. So romantic=buys you stuff?
I see a guy below said those guys are gonna be gentleman and shit... ya know wot?
I'm almost 25 and I'm not a gentleman at all... I hate gentlemanism... I believe it's for pussies...
And no I'm not romantic at all... if I saw ya I'd make clear ma intentions towards ya... there's zero sweetness comin' from me... if ya want a sweet guy look somewhere else...
Mine is pretty romantic, walked me to the door the other night and kissed me on the doorstep. We're not really "gift" people though
Cool 😊😊 Still adorable~ Gosh am I so jeapous right now!
Haha sorry if I made you jealous
It's okay! I more happy for you both than anything 😀😀😁
Most men are sick and tired of women that just take take take and never give any romance or anything in return. It is a two way street which most women need to learn.
Then there is all the sexist things and put downs many women say about us men all day, every day of our lives. We just get fed up with it all.
😢😢 That truly is sad. I'm sorry you guys had to suffer through that. I'll be honest, sometimes I do take what guys do for granted but I'd make sure to give some back if they really cared enough
Yes, you should see how us men get treated when we approach a lot of women. We get called all the names you can think of.
😦😦 I see. . . So most women just see guys who are nice or flirty as oerverts or man whores. . . Well that is really terrible. I'm not like most women. That really does break my heart. I'd hug you if I could. This world just seems more darker when I look at it like that.
Most women see the nice men as actually bad people and because they see us like this they treat us like we are the scum of the earth when we have actually done nothing to them. This makes us nice men give up on women, we go and hide which makes it hard for the good women out there to find a good man because we have given up and are not around.
😦😦 *sigh* Wow. . .
Sadly yes. I have really hidden for a year now from women.
There is a lot of truth to this. I only have 1 happily married friend, 2 unhappily married friends who tell everyone who will listen not to get married, 2 divorced friends who will never "commit" again in their lives, their words (both their wives had affairs then divorced them and took every thing) and the rest of my guy buds, 5 guys, are mid thirties or older and have ZERO desire to date at all let alone have a relationship, they are all average normal dudes with good jobs etc..
I know that's subjective but I think that it's not abnormal anymore, there are even books written on the subject now.
@Jager66 Yes, you are correct. I don't think I ever want to get married. It is a bad deal for men.
Id say its more the guys you date aren't. Not guys in general. And no you were not to picky, gifts should involve thought and show you know your partner. Not show you dont care what they like enough to find out.
nothing personally im not very romantic my self its disgusting dont come to with that emotional bs and ill probably end up trying to hit him and crying smh
Okayy? Why did you even comment on this anyway if you just hate romance all together?
bc i realized after thinking about it damn why you so cracky like chill
Lol Okay 😅 Sorry
I'm afraid you ladies are extremely difficult to please , we are damned if we do , damned if we don't. When married , I stopped giving gifts for my ex birthday , even Christmas as she never appreciated my effort / thoughts ( also I HATE shopping )
I've lost romantic interest in women ages ago. Not being nasty but, women just don't seem worth it any more. Too bitchy and spiteful.
I was/am very romantic, and extremely passionate. But lets face it, most girls aren't appreciative of those things anymore, and the big majority won't reciprocate the same way.