Will ghosting my boyfriend get his attention?

[Anonuser2020]

I know a relationship is not all about texting, but mine is long distance. I knew that this would be hard, but what makes it even harder is the lack of communication (on his end). He was never a great texter to begin w/, but he was the one who wanted the relationship exclusive and the one claiming he will be the one calling/texting/skyping all the time. He has only been away a couple of weeks, but I am losing interest in this (as in considering seeing other guys) and my frustration is increasing daily. I'm not expecting texting all day, but just texts checking up on how I'm doing and the few texts that I do send throughout the day to be answered (if at all) and not like 5 or more hours later. I know he is busy w/friends, but otherwise at the moment he doesn't have school or work. What can I do? Should I tell him I'm losing interest?

[the_boss]

I'm very sorry to hear about this firsts of all. Before I begin I do want to say I hope your relationship with each other takes a turn for the better. But... to be on your side he doesn't have a reason to not be texting you... and that's what you're thinking right? It's not like he's in the military with restricted phone talk time? Yeah he can hang with friends but where does that put you? Aren't you supposed to be a little higher ranked than them? The real question is does your guy share the similar concept of what's important, whose higher ranking. I just did a post similar to this. If he puts his friends as an excuse, girl let me tell you... your profile says your 29. There's no time to be playing around if you're wanting things serious. Not that there won't be time in the future but we people handle now better than the future. Now to answer your question... ghosting yourself to him... to get his attention? Sorry for the following YOU'RE ALREADY FAR FAR AWAY HOW MUCH GHOST DO YOU NEED TO BE? I'm sorry if that statement was hurtful but I'm still on your side. My opinion , maybe run it once to remind him but not more than that. You shouldn't have to be disappear for him to notice. He should be perfectly aware something IMPORTANT is missing from his life. Yes I capitalized on purpose. I guarantee you he doesn't forget to grab his phone when he goes out and hangs with his friend but he forgets to text right? And if you allow this you're doing exactly what you say you're doing, ghosting yourself. Randomly once a while haunting him. You need to have a talk with him, and I know you want it to really work but here's the kick, try it twice and when you try each individual time judge about 2 or 3 months just in case he does text and call to just avoid losing. He needs to be doing the opposite, trying to be with you if you guys are serious. Is serious what you want? Then look for serious devoted. Hope this helped oh and by the way before you go on the offense, try to really find out why he hadn't been able to tall or text. They're might be a LEGITIMATE reason... ex., phone bill not paid, dead phone on occasion

[Anonymous]

In a nutshell, no it won't. He probably won't even notice. And that just pisses a girl off even more.

Ghosting hurts girls. It doesn't hurt guys. If you want to hurt guys, you use a different set of tools.

The question is, do you want to hurt him, or do you want him to connect with you? Because you can't do both. Hurting a guy is a fast way to get dumped.

Anyway, it sounds to me like you're realising why LDRs usually fail. There is no substitute for a person here with you in the flesh.

[lumos]

No. For future reference, if you EVER want a guy to understand your point of view, your opinions, how you're feeling etc, you need to TELL HIM. This kind of passive-aggressive bullshit won't get you anywhere. If he doesn't understand that he's doing something wrong, then "ghosting" on him won't make him any smarter. He'll just be confused and wonder wtf you're doing, possibly think this is your way of breaking up with him and not doing anything about it.
Talk to the guy. Explain how you're feeling. Try to get him to understand that even if he's busy, he should still be able to have a minute to spare to respond to a text, or even send one to you to let you know he's thinking about you. By avoiding the problem and "ghosting" on him, you're not addressing it directly and you're just creating more problems and more tension than necessary in the relationship. So have a discussion with him. If he doesn't change after that, or if the change only lasts for a little while, dump him. Then he clearly doesn't have the time or the effort for an LDR.

[phil2]

Guys don't chat and talk much. I played on Skype with my guy, hang man extended version of tictakto and we will watch movies together on Skype. I never texted him. Instead we wrote long letters getting to know each other through Gmail. Good luck with your relationship. If you put in the hard work you will reap some good benefit from it but just remember no relationship is problem free and you will always have issues

[Smmyskittles]

Schedule a Skype chat. Let him know that you miss him and want him to make time for you. Explain that you do need more from him or else it won't work (for you).

If you just "ghost" then he can blame it on you. He'll likely get pissed and might end up 'ghosting' you in turn.

[Kelsilane]

I wouldn't start with telling him that because you know how guys are they'll just get mad and be like okay whatever fine then and then you'll break up. Maybe you could just start with a full day of not texting him and see if he notices. If he doesn't you might want to re think the relationship. I've been through this same thing and I had to end it. But it's never bad to just tell him hey I've been feeling a little upset about us not talking. And make sure to point out that communication is key in a long distance relationship. If you let him know that you're not happy with how the relationship is going and he really cares about you he'll try and turn it around, if he doesn't, end it.

[EllieLexis513]

Ghosting is going to make you look like a game playing bitch honestly. Just tell him how you feel. If he doesn't adhere, then be a woman and break it off to him. But ghosting is a bitch move, both literally and figuratively. Don't play games. You are entirely too old for that.

[ryanfyfe]

Personal opinion... If you ghosted me, I'd end up dumping you for someone who doesn't.

Not the way to go about it, tell him you want him to message more because you miss him. If he's a good dude he will, if he's not, he won't obviously and you should probs find aomeone who's ready.

[Cmasterson]

Not really, I mean it will be the same, then he will do it to you etc. Its not hard to send a text or even an e-mail. If you're losing interest this quickly then it actually may be best for you to move on.

[Red_Arrow]

Just tell him how you feel and that if it does not improve you will be seeing other guys. No games, just honesty.

[meatballs21]

Tell him how you feel. Ghosting will just drive you further apart. If you're at the stage where you're thinking about seeing other guys, this might be an indicator that your relationship needs can't be met by a long distance one.

[MrAssHat]

As i am really on the edge of wanting to start a real long distance relationship i hope it can work.. what do you think @Hawaiikai are long distance relationships doable?

[Hawaiikai]

Yesss!

[MrAssHat]

@Hawaiikai =D

[RedRobin]

It's a very immature way to get his attention, just talk to him about it

[Anonuser2020]

I don't want to seem clingy or annoying.

[queen_in_the_streets]

Tell him there's a lack of communication that he needs to work on or else.

[SovereignessofVamps]

No. If I was ghosted I'd assume he'd been cheating on me and didn't want me anymore!

[Seawoman1]

no but using actual words might help your relationship

[Anonymous]

Up to you girl but in all honestly how do you know he is not cheating? Now a days guys are snake and so are girls. Most girls don't give two shit if guy taken

[Noideawhat]

Never ever play games. Be honest and tell him what's up.

[matt1209]

Yes you should talk to him about the lack of interest on his part before ghosting him. If that doesn't work maybe give him no contact for a week or 2.

[SleepingSnorlax]

Just break up with him
Dont gove the cold shoulder it won't work

[cchris989]

It's a good way to end the relationship

[Anonymous]

Playing games don't worj

[SatyricLord]

Online dating is useless.