Girls, Severe anxiety and depression and relationships, could I be loved?

[ChrisFinn86]

Okay so first off, I obviously suffer from Severe anxiety and depression. My question is mainly for women. I was in a relationship for 3 years. I asked her to marry me last year in August... she said yes, then in September she took it back because I'm to "Sick"

So I don't think a woman will ever love me again, my illness scares women away.

Okay so here's my question... do you think a woman could love someone like me, broken... illness and all?

- Chris

[jane16]

It's emotionally draining for someone in a relationship with someone who has depression and anxiety but that does not mean it's impossible ( I dated a guy with depression) You can be loved. you do have to be willing to put in effort, to share what you are feeling as best you can, communication is so important. And if you love someone in return, even if you have these illnesses, you will help them to. You will support them just as much as they support you. Relationships can't be one sided. Don't give up hope :)

[ChrisFinn86]

Yes I totally understand that it is. I still live with my mother and I can tell she's having a hard time with me, all the Dr's and medication bills. I write on my really bad days, it's a good outlet. I just don't want to drag another person down with me. I want to be alone but I'm terrified of being lonely... if that makes sense.

[jane16]

I'm sorry it sounds like things are really hard right now :( please don't give up hope. I know there are so many women out there who are capable of loving you and you are capable of being a great partner. In the meantime, if you are not already, you could possibly seek counseling. I went through a really difficult time and counseling helped me so much.

[anon1116]

Yes, you can be loved by the right woman. Being that you have conditions, she would need to be strong enough for the both of you. You would have to let her in and be completely honest with her about how you're feeling.

[ChrisFinn86]

Thank you very much for you response and advice. I hope I can find the right woman someday. I feel like I'm running out of time. I'll be 30 on the 19th... its just upsetting most of the time.

[Melissa_b]

I also suffer from severe anxiety and depression, as does my ex boyfriend. When we were together it was very comforting to have someone that truly understood what you were going through. There are definitely women out there that will love you for who you are and will understand what you go through each day with your illness. You will find somebody that will understand and who will love you, illness and all.

[Anonymous]

I am in love with a guy like you, but he's pushed me away. As long as you let her in, the right girl will accept you the way you are.