Do you believe men love women a lot more than women love men and it tends to be more authentic and unconditional?

[Anonymous]

From this male gager's quote: "You'd be the first girl to ever admit to this. Before someone calls me out like some have with you, men love pretty much unconditionally. Other than not getting sex or getting along with the girl, there's generally nothing else that will make a guy change their mind about a girl. Turn the roles around, and think of how many things can affect a woman's love, it goes beyond sex and getting along. Guys definitely experience love very differently and more passionate than girls do, specially the younger they are. That's not to say you won't get hurt along the way by a guy, or that there aren't guys who play with women. But generally speaking, guys get easier attached to girls, it's a male trait and one girls shouldn't exploit but use it for making good/solid relationships. It's admirable that you recognize this trait, to be honest."

Yes

No

[Anonymous]

Yes. It all comes back to how we evolved as animals. If you look at our ape ancestors, their sexual hierarchy is that of one dominant male of a particular tribe fighting to maintain his dominance over the tribe and have his pick of the females who he will protect at all costs from rivals - he loves them because they are his.
Whereas the females have a more passive role. They don't care about the dominant male enough to not be open to advances from other males who they can see as potential future dominant males.
Big corporations have been on to this for years as it is this instinct which causes women to always want the latest fashions even though there is nothing wrong with their old shoes or handbag.. but I digress.
This behaviour is still exhibited among women whereas men have changed a bit. We just want to be the dominant male of our own family now and are happy to love just one woman and can get along with men who want to chase other women as long as they are not our own. So we don't want ALL women anymore.
On the contrary, women have not changed since prehistoric times and they are always instintually open to the advances of other males other than their husbands or boyfriends if they see those other males as future dominant males and they will cheat very easily. Some women are so good at hiding it that their husbands live their whole lives throwing money into a proverbial hole. Pun intended.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHO

[raspberry0416]

Most ridiculous thing I've read all day

[Opinion Owner]

@raspberry0416 Then you find the truth ridiculous.

[MargaritaPeach]

I guess Tiger Woods is the dominant male of the 'hot models' tribe. ;)

[raspberry0416]

If you think this post is remotely accurate or logical, well, then I don't even know where to start.

[MargaritaPeach]

@raspberry0416 Apparently in whatever alternate universe they are from, we have been easily tricked into buying purses and shoes, and falling for every man who looks our way, since prehistoric times--and nothing has changed! That's great news, isn't it? And guys love us and protective of us and their ownership of us; so why should we care if they also love and protect the other 38 women in their 'tribe' at the same time? You know, since they love us with their whole heart and soul and all that good stuff.

[Opinion Owner]

@MargaritaPeach you haven't understood

[raspberry0416]

@MargaritaPeach
Yes exactly. Because women are all supposed to love the one alpha male, even though he is also having sex with all the other women around, and never think about any other guy. Oh what a lovely fantasy it is these guys have.

[Opinion Owner]

@raspberry0416 that's not what I wrote at all

[MargaritaPeach]

You stated very clearly that men have evolved to want only one woman (yeah, right! If that were true we wouldn't all be getting cheated on), and that women haven't evolved a bit since prehistoric times, and so we are, in your words, 'always open to the advances' of other men. So what you are saying is that at our core, all of us women have no self control. That men have narrowed it down to only wanting one woman, but in terms of evolution, women just aren't there yet?

[Opinion Owner]

@MargaritaPeach no you've misinterpreted it. Men love what they have because it is theirs and they only want to keep it unless it's broken. Whereas women are more open to future possibilities instinctively even when there's nothing wrong with exhibit A.
It's a proven fact women are more polyamorous than men. And it's because that's how we as a species survived in our tribal structures for millenia

[MargaritaPeach]

"they only want to keep it unless it's broken"

Thank you for clarifying that. So we are valuable to you as long as we are young, healthy, thin, pretty, etc. and then you start to see us as being broken, or less than ideal; at which point you toss us aside and begin to look for someone more ideal. You then keep her for a while... until THAT person becomes 'broken'. And the cycle continues. So the 'for better or worse' vow we take during our marriage vows is one-sided, then? And applies only to women, since men will want to toss us aside once we become broken?

If we are more geared towards polyandry, it's probably because so many women get cast aside once the sparkle of youth starts to fade, leaving us to seek out a new partner time after time as we continue to be rejected. Very sad, if you ask me.

[Opinion Owner]

@MargaritaPeach I didn't say anything about growing old. I was thinking more along the lines of going crazy

[MargaritaPeach]

I will give you credit for that--you did just say broken, which could be interpreted as any number of things. :)

[anonman32]

it depends what values you subscribe to.

for some men honor and unquestionable loyalty are values held in high regard. it is important to know that this is simply being blind and naive. nobody should love anyone without any conditions.

where is your sense of integrity and self worth? you are going to be like a dog that follows every command of its master. if you dont have any sense of self ownership and you love someone unconditionally you risk being exploited and used. how is that having self respect? its not. unconditional love is not good.

[Mayamoon02]

On a world scale we can see how hetero relationships tend to work and we have patterns. Polygamy in most cultures is a man with many wives not the other way around.
Its accepted to acquire a new wife once the lust runs out.

Men are not unconditional in most cases. You have to be with one to know this.

All relationships require maturity and forgiveness from both sides for them to work but the majority of the time - If a man cheats on his wife.. she often looks past it in many cultures.
If a woman cheats on her husband.. its worth extreme punishment in some countries and no room for forgiveness.

Men are raised from an early age to have pride and ego to be respected.
So if a woman makes a transgression - she is stepping on him.

Women are raised to be themselves and that love is happiness - so married women learn patience and devotion more naturally as there is less pride.
Women try and fix relationships most of the time. Believing they can help their man.

That is why we have more domestic abuse towards women who refuse to leave because of love.

It is the exception for a man to be unconditional.

[SinghSong]

Riight. So "women try and fix relationships most of the time, believing they can help their man"?
www.telegraph.co.uk/.../...orce-more-than-men.html

And "we have more domestic abuse towards women who refuse to leave because of love"?
new.mankind.org.uk/.../...ale-Victims-Mar-2016.pdf

[Mayamoon02]

Just because a woman initiates a Divorce that doesn't mean she no longer loves him. If a man stops making an effort then she is leaving because it hurts too much being with someone that no longer desires you.

I've worked with many married men who say they don't leave a marriage because of the house and life built together - not because of unconditional love and passion.

[Mayamoon02]

I am open to believing that men are unconditional lovers but at the moment not convinced.

[PrincessofNohr]

To be honest, I think this has some truth to it. When a man does truly love a woman, and I mean from deep in the heart, not just being in a relationship, he'll give up his body and soul for her. It does feel truly unconditional. For women, I've seen many cases where the woman seems to have her partner on a weird set of rules, either to get what she wants or to just control him. That being said though, women can absolutely experience authentic, unconditional love.

I wonder if this is because of how girls are conditioned from childhood. Many girls are taught that's they're the princess and the queen, and she should be spoiled rotten just because she's a girl. It's not just young girls either; I've seen girls in high school taught the same thing. Maybe this lingers into adulthood and conditions women on how they treat men.

[MargaritaPeach]

I would love to believe this! I just wonder why, if they do indeed love with all their heart and soul, why is monogamy such a struggle? Why would someone who loves a girl with all of his heart and soul, cheat on a beautiful, kind, faithful wife? I have seen it happen so many times, and I don't understand that part of it.

[PrincessofNohr]

@MargaritaPeach Women cheat too, though, and in statistically similar numbers. I've known many guys who have had their girlfriends cheat on them despite a seemingly good relationship. There's selfish assholes for both genders.

[MargaritaPeach]

Oh, I don't deny that. Women and men both do it. I'm just not sure how.

[Asker]

Stats show women cheat more than men now.

[MargaritaPeach]

Men break up with women for a lot of different reasons... a hotter girl came along, he decided he enjoyed being single, my five brothers were too intimidating, he was moving and didn't want to try the long distance thing, his friends didn't approve, he was still in love with his ex, things were moving too fast (or not fast enough), I didn't have enough time to dedicate to our relationship outside of school and work, my religious beliefs were an issue, the spark just wasn't there... guys give just as many excuses for breaking up as women do, in my experience. I think men and women can love equally when the circumstances are right and the attraction and desire are mutual.

[ElissaDido]

No because I love men a lot❤️
Dear future husband, I don't know who you are but I love you so much.

[Omar5881]

Oh thank you for the futurstic message ☺
Sorry for the stalking I am bored #NotCreepyAtAll #iSweariamaNiceGuy

[Barrabus_the_Free]

Agreed, because women don't love men, they love the things they can get from men.

Women only love themselves. The closest they get to loving someone else is the bond they have with their daughters, but only until said daughter reaches puberty and becomes competition for male attention and resources.

All males, ALL males, are nothing more than a utility.

[Carefuloutthere]

I'm pretty sure I love my son more than I have ever loved or will ever love anyone or anything.
It wouldn't be possible for me to love anything more, it's incomparable and close to nothing.

I loved my ex partner but he let let us both down and thought nothing of it.

[Mollyxxx]

To be honest, I don't know!
What I do know Is I will not cheat - but I am tempted all the time. I have a weird primal urge to move on occasionally, but when I'm alone with him I forget all about the person I saw the day/hour before. My body is telling me to keep going, but my head and heart is always NO!

It's my instinct I suppose, but at the same time I love him and won't hurt him, and those feelings of love surpass anything else.

[MargaritaPeach]

I think you just put into words what most women feel, but very few are brave enough to admit.

[G-Daz]

Girls fall in love more quickly, girls fall out of love more quickly

Guys take longer to fall in love and it's more of a choice to allow themselves to. But it also takes longer to fall out of love, some research suggests men don't ever fully get over someone they fell in love with.

Ignoring the fact some people throw the word "love" around and this is a general fact, not always

[brocklee]

No. The big difference is the difference in hormones between the two. Hormones impact how we feel. Mens hormones are consistent, women's vary with their menstrual cycle. It creates an inconsistency via biology. Maybe women's are the deepest for that fact. Certain elements become a sort of foundation that remain consistent through all of the hormonal changes they are put through. Mens are not as tested internally.

[kittycat119]

Depends I've fallen in love and none of the reasons girls fall out of it or dislike there partners have I ever felt. My guy is a complete and utter butthole but I still love the idiot. Literally all I want in the relationship is just to love him and making him happy and him to want the same. So I'd if I feel the Sam way as men or not but I do know when it comes to falling in love you don't have a choice and falling out of it I don't think I ever will even if we broke up

[raspberry0416]

A lot (by no means all) of men don't really love women as people, they just love the fantasy of a trophy girlfriend/wife. And our culture actively objectifies women and encourages them to groom themselves into trophies instead of developing as people.

[BuchitaBuchys]

No. I think it's sexist to think we cannot truly love. Many of us do love men unconditionally and I'm tired of GaG making us out to be monsters.
Who the hell said that?

[steveguitar]

When they really find the right woman for themselves, yes. The man seems to have to prove his love and continue that forever. The woman just has to "play house" because she likes it. But I've never been in a relationship so what do I know

[ThisDudeHere]

I will get shit for this but I kind of sort of believe this to be true. The very fact that men are willing to sacrifice themselves for their women is already an big enough indication.

[Anonymous]

It's not *truly* unconditional, but it feels that way. It just has fewer critical conditions that need to be met.

But as I understand it there's also some data to back that up. Like men in love in the long term have more of the love neurochemical in the brain or... something... ok that sort of got away from be a bit but yeah.

Maybe it's like the the way men feel emotional pain, but in feeling love in it's place.

[Relentless_Hippie]

I think so, nonetheless I know for me I love my boyfriend so very much. He's all I ever want.

[Megabeauty]

I am actually at a loss. I have no idea. it seems like, well woman love more, but I never looked at it like you said, a man's love in more true.. hmm

[CosmicShores]

No. I believe people are people and everyone is different. I believe whether it's the man or women who cares more is probably 50/50 between all romantic relationships between men and women.

[Jeniferh21]

I think they do, not every single man, but yeah sometimes

[Anonymous]

This theory doesn't match with the pain of my many heartbreaks from men I loved who decided they didn't love or stop loving me.

[MargaritaPeach]

Agreed... I think it's actually pretty rare for a couple to truly love each other equally. Half the time he loves her more, and half the time she loves him more.

[Japanesebamboo]

I voted yes and I dont even have an opinion to write..

[Anonymous]

I think women get jaded about love and become more practical about relationships because men usually prove to be a bitter disappointment.

[Kuraj]

I don't believe women even love anything other than how they themselves feel.
Certainly not people.

[Anonymous]

Would it be really selfish to say " I hope so" because then maybe I wouldn't feel so insecure?