Why are you so worried? If you keep on going like this it could possibly ruin your relationship. I am 33 years old and have had sex with 11 women, done sexual things with 2 but not sex. Does it me I love my girlfriend any less no. She means everything to me. Yes I heave had sex with my girlfriend. What I am saying is stop worrying about his past especially if he has not done anything major that is illegal.
The past is the past. Bonding with a mate involves far more than the sex you have with them. Focus on the here and now or you'll never get the opportunity to bond.
You don't. It's none of your concern. And where ever you heard all that bullshit it's just that. There are many WAY bigger concerns to consider. For one thing, DATE him. Spend time together BEFORE you jump in the sack. And discern whether it's a match or not. Get some commitment BEFORE you have sex with him. Make sure he's worth investing any more of your time and effort into.
"The more people you bond with in that way, the less you can bond with, cherish, and love your future wife"...
Okay firstly: no. Secondly you're 20 and you're very very insecure. Why ask a question you didn't like the answer to? You're projecting your own insecurities onto this issue. You're clearly not ready for a relationship and you're not ready for him. Break up with him, he honestly doesn't deserve this kind of judgement from you.
It's just one of those things. I've never asked my man how many women he's been with because I simply don't care. All I wanted to know is that he was clean and ready for a relationship with me. He is the only guy I've been with sexually. I love the bond we have and when he looks at me I can tell how much he cares about me. I don't let my mind wander and think about his past relationships because he's with me.
A lot of partners is a lot of baggage, which everyone has, but it depends on how he handled it. If he thinks only about you, then you are good. If he has pictures of his exes to jerk off to, that's something else. What do you two talk about when you are together?
I agree and I haven't talked about it with him because I really don't know how to. I don't want to sound judgmental if I bring it up. He has opened up to me about him having a low sex drive which is why he never initiates sex with me
Bruh, I can't get past that lady's hair in the photo. Uhm, I don't think 10 at his age is weird. And if you two are trying to work on something long term, it won't matter about the past.
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What you just described applies more to women than men, we aren't the same. It takes a lot more for a man to lose the ability to bond than it does a woman. Of course, if a man sleeps around enough then eventually he will end up the same way.
By realizing that the past is the past and NOTHING can change it so why think about it and/or worry? Even if your boyfriend wanted to change it he couldn't so you just have to accept that it's over and done with and move on.
You are asking this question because you think he is not good enough. That's the truth. The best solution is to leave. There is always someone better out there. You can also lead him on until you find someone better or treat him like shit while he belongs to you. I date non virgins and I proudly treat them like shit because they are not good enough. I try to be the worst boyfriend they ever had. If I can't be your first, I'm going to be your worst.
Stupid girls voting me down. At least I'm honest about how I feel unlike most guys here on this website. No political correctness and fakery. If I can't be your first, I'm going to be your worst.
I dont think thats too horrid. My current boyfriend is 21 and had more partners that, meanwhile he was my first and it rarely bothers me.
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it wouldn't bother me, as long as he's clean.. see i'm virgin and when I find the guy i want to give myself too, I want him to know what he's doing so if that means having sex with 10 women to figure out his moves out, so be it, as long as he knows what to do with my body.
@MysteriousDarkness most guy i've asked or heard from says it excites them to be in charge and kind of "show her the ropes", so... and if I find a man who doesn't like to be in control then I guess im not the one for him.
What you said is a lie. The only problem I see is that he has nine women to compare you with, and probably he enjoyed sex more than with you with at least one of them.
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Why are you so worried? If you keep on going like this it could possibly ruin your relationship. I am 33 years old and have had sex with 11 women, done sexual things with 2 but not sex. Does it me I love my girlfriend any less no. She means everything to me. Yes I heave had sex with my girlfriend. What I am saying is stop worrying about his past especially if he has not done anything major that is illegal.
I wouldn't worry about it too much. Think about highschoolers now. They have 10+ partners before they are even 18!
The past is the past. Bonding with a mate involves far more than the sex you have with them. Focus on the here and now or you'll never get the opportunity to bond.
You don't. It's none of your concern. And where ever you heard all that bullshit it's just that.
There are many WAY bigger concerns to consider. For one thing, DATE him. Spend time together BEFORE you jump in the sack. And discern whether it's a match or not. Get some commitment BEFORE you have sex with him. Make sure he's worth investing any more of your time and effort into.
"The more people you bond with in that way, the less you can bond with, cherish, and love your future wife"...
Okay firstly: no. Secondly you're 20 and you're very very insecure. Why ask a question you didn't like the answer to? You're projecting your own insecurities onto this issue. You're clearly not ready for a relationship and you're not ready for him. Break up with him, he honestly doesn't deserve this kind of judgement from you.
It's just one of those things. I've never asked my man how many women he's been with because I simply don't care. All I wanted to know is that he was clean and ready for a relationship with me. He is the only guy I've been with sexually. I love the bond we have and when he looks at me I can tell how much he cares about me. I don't let my mind wander and think about his past relationships because he's with me.
A lot of partners is a lot of baggage, which everyone has, but it depends on how he handled it. If he thinks only about you, then you are good. If he has pictures of his exes to jerk off to, that's something else. What do you two talk about when you are together?
I agree and I haven't talked about it with him because I really don't know how to. I don't want to sound judgmental if I bring it up. He has opened up to me about him having a low sex drive which is why he never initiates sex with me
Bruh, I can't get past that lady's hair in the photo.
Uhm, I don't think 10 at his age is weird. And if you two are trying to work on something long term, it won't matter about the past.
What you just described applies more to women than men, we aren't the same. It takes a lot more for a man to lose the ability to bond than it does a woman. Of course, if a man sleeps around enough then eventually he will end up the same way.
By realizing that the past is the past and NOTHING can change it so why think about it and/or worry? Even if your boyfriend wanted to change it he couldn't so you just have to accept that it's over and done with and move on.
You are asking this question because you think he is not good enough. That's the truth. The best solution is to leave. There is always someone better out there.
You can also lead him on until you find someone better or treat him like shit while he belongs to you.
I date non virgins and I proudly treat them like shit because they are not good enough. I try to be the worst boyfriend they ever had. If I can't be your first, I'm going to be your worst.
Stupid girls voting me down. At least I'm honest about how I feel unlike most guys here on this website. No political correctness and fakery. If I can't be your first, I'm going to be your worst.
I dont think thats too horrid. My current boyfriend is 21 and had more partners that, meanwhile he was my first and it rarely bothers me.
it wouldn't bother me, as long as he's clean.. see i'm virgin and when I find the guy i want to give myself too, I want him to know what he's doing so if that means having sex with 10 women to figure out his moves out, so be it, as long as he knows what to do with my body.
What about you knowing or not what to do with his body
@MysteriousDarkness most guy i've asked or heard from says it excites them to be in charge and kind of "show her the ropes", so... and if I find a man who doesn't like to be in control then I guess im not the one for him.
Oh lord stop that. Past is the past leave it there. If he has been with 9 other women and still chooses to be with you then that should be enough.
Its more like the more you fuck around before settling down the less you want to cheat while settled down.
i'd think about it, i'm pretty sure if the situations were swapped he'd have second thoughts. its okay to be critical.
What you said is a lie. The only problem I see is that he has nine women to compare you with, and probably he enjoyed sex more than with you with at least one of them.
Well do you like the sex he gives you? I'm sure he hasn't experience all the extra stuff yet.
"How do I get over my boyfriend's sexual past"?
By growing up.
hmm if his past is really gonna haunt you then end things