My boyfriend joined the military and left home at 18. He was in the military for 10 years, and in the process gained a lot of work and life experience, and became very worldly. He is largely self-taught and reads extensively to try and better himself. He is a successful professional and supervises a team of over 50 people.
His family doesn't care about education. Most of them have menial jobs. His father and brother have been convicted of poaching. His sister is divorcing her third husband and already has two grandchildren at 42. His uncle has been convicted on weapons charges.
He is very self-conscious about his roots, but at the same time chose to return to his hometown after leaving the military, even though his family is here. Most of his own friends are engineers or other professionals, as is my family.
I feel uncomfortable with his family and I know he knows it, which only makes him more insecure. I would like to have a good relationship with them for his sake, but we have nothing in common. I also don't understand their values or life choices. I'm 31 and my boyfriend is 39.
His family doesn't care about education. Most of them have menial jobs. His father and brother have been convicted of poaching. His sister is divorcing her third husband and already has two grandchildren at 42. His uncle has been convicted on weapons charges.
He is very self-conscious about his roots, but at the same time chose to return to his hometown after leaving the military, even though his family is here. Most of his own friends are engineers or other professionals, as is my family.
I feel uncomfortable with his family and I know he knows it, which only makes him more insecure. I would like to have a good relationship with them for his sake, but we have nothing in common. I also don't understand their values or life choices. I'm 31 and my boyfriend is 39.
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His family does tend to such him into their drama (sister break-up, legal problems). Also, my bf's job requires a government security clearance and is very demanding. I don't want him dragged into this stuff.
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