Why do I crave his presence every second?

[Anonymous]

there's this guy that I'm dating right now and he's in the navy so he wanted to make it official once he comes to my city soon. We're on the phone everyday and we flirt with one another. We were talking about kissing each other for the first time and how magical it would be. Out of nowhere he told me he was wet and I was as well. What is this feeling? How are we able to have a emotional connection and have so much in common? but we never met. It's like we've known each other for years. I think about him every second , I hear his voice continuously , and I continuously have visions of us spending time with one another and he always says : " when I see you I'm going to show you how I'm feeling." Now I have visions of us making love to one another and it makes my stomach feel nervous.

[MrOracle]

That's called a CRUSH. It's exciting at first, but it's going to wear off over time. Make sure that he is the guy you're looking for as a whole. It's easy to be compatible and exciting online, when you don't ever see or have to deal with a person's real-world faults, but once you see them in person, things usually change at least a little.

No one is perfect, of course, but some people are closer to or (sometimes much) further from the ideal. Don't let your excitement cloud your judgement too much.

[Asker]

But I am not infatuated by his looks.. it's because he invests a lot of time in me and respects me and doesn't rush into things nor pressure me. I was always told because I consider someone make sure I can see myself with them in the future and I can. I usually don't have crushes that was middle school.

[MrOracle]

A crush doesn't have to be on looks - in fact, it's usually that you've created an idealized version of a person in your mind that no real person could live up to. I'm just saying to be careful.

It's possible that he's exactly the guy you think he is, but you need to realize that it's also possible that he isn't. The danger is that you get so emotionally invested that you ignore or refuse to accept warning signs, and end up getting hurt emotionally or otherwise.

I just recommend caution and moving a little more slowly, for your own safety.