A spark lights a fire, it does not keep it lit.
All of this depends on what butterflies mean to you. I've heard people say similar things about their boyfriend, when in reality they couldn't just admit to themselves they didn't like him anymore. I've also seen it used by people who spend more time focusing on the narrative and drama of the relationship instead of focusing on their partner, which is not a great habit.
The butterflies will diminish for everyone at some point. If you are in a good relationship, they probably should. What's left after they go away is what's important.
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whats wrong with just acting normal, it doesn't have to be super special or anything. its not like omg this is the greatest food i have ever, you can just have it and enjoy it quietly. i dont think anyone would like it if you extra emotional about everything either. what im saying is... chill girllll, if you like him you like him if not then there's that.
Distance creates some kind of alienation so much so when you eventually hang out. That built up anticipation fails to live up to what you thought it'd be. Boyfriends make good friends too. Being in a relationship isn't all about dramatic emotions ie crying your lungs out when you part or feeling these consuming emotions when you're together. Sometimes, that stillness is normal.
... you're overthinking it. I never felt butterflies yet I know I love him.
Butterflies isn't some super specific love symptom. It's mostly nervousness and anxiety. Take it like this... you are so comfortable around him that you dont need to feel anxious. ain't that great? Just allow yourself to sail the calm seas of deep mature love.
I've been with my boyfriend for a year and I feel the same way. But I still love him and he's definitely who I'm meant to be with. You're probably just confused because the "honeymoon phase" is over.
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After a while you grow accustomed to him.
If you leave you'll feel the butterflies initially with another guy, sure. But it'll eventually be the same again.
I wouldn't recommend judging your relationship on whether u get butterflies.you've been together for 10 months. i think it's rather normal not to feel butterflies after 10 months in a relationship
Basing your relationship on "butterflies" will ultimately end in disaster every single time. Butterflies/honeymoon pahses always end.
Evaluate his presence with presence of other friends
If you feel
He is special for me
Then fine
Otherwise he is just a friendThe fact you still get butterflies means there is still hope. Sit down and talk to him, as scary as it may seems, the best option is always to talk about it and k ow how the other person feels.
Because being in love is an illusion that always ends this way.
If u don't feel special when you're with him then you are with the wrong person
whats the sex life like?
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