My girlfriend works too much, should we stay together?

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My girlfriend just started this job 4 months ago and about 2 she started to work everyday 12 hours a day, she's always sleeping and working and barely has time to see me, our relationship has become text and call, is it worth it to stay together? She is saving money to go on vacation for 3 months with her family and school when she comes back from vacation.

BeeNee · Accepted Answer

If she just started the job, it could be the initial push where she has to work to establish herself and prove herself. She's also as you mention, saving for a trip. None of that can be easy. You have needs and want to be a priority in her life and that is very understandable. Before you give the axe, I would suggest talking to her about it. Not blaming, not whining, not making her out to be bad here, but just talking to her about you missing her and wanting to see more of her. A lot of couples work in time in their busy schedules that is unbreakable, like this day and that day, we agree that this is our time, and things like that. Just talk to her first, and if she and you can't seem to make the schedule thing work, at least you will have tried.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That is... if u want to be wealthy or have a good amount of income coming in.. like ik it would be upsetting, by ur wife to come home all tired and sleepy and want nothing to with u but sleep.. like that is sad. But thats basically life... everyone was put on here to make a difference. And make the world a better place, and to work hard during the day and come home tired asf, relax and repeat.. even tho i dont like working or jobs.. But somebodies gotta do the job... well A job. I know its not always about money. But it would be easier if u both made the same amount of effort. Gotta try so hard to live man... ugh life.. some people are workaholics and some.. like me.. aren't and lack the motivation...

Poppykate · Accepted Answer

What field does she work in? Unless it's the medical field, it's unusual to be working EVERYDAY of the week. Even then, they like you to take days off so you recharge. Also she is placing this holiday as a higher priority than you! That would be enough for me to break up with someone!

Lelaila · Accepted Answer

Even though your girlfriend can't change it, talk to her about your feelings. Communication is important in your case, because if you don't, your doubts will become more and you guys will probably break up. Think about what you need from her, and find a solution together.

FemWorship · Accepted Answer

The only way to find out where you stand will be when she returns from her "once in a lifetime goal" she's obviously killing herself to achieve.
That said, your patience can be shored up by developing your own short term diversions, which includes extra hours @ work/studies (in like kind), new friends, even gals, dance lessons and other investments you might share with her when more free time comes to her or your friends to shore you up if she dumps you.

I wonder IF you could also work extra & save up enough money to invite yourself on their vacation or simply show up there.

Matti_Jr · Accepted Answer

Talk to her first. Explain that you understand she has goals right now, but if she could set some time aside for you. It takes two to make a relationship and two to break it. If she can't compromise after a couple conversations, you may have gotten your answer then. :(

MargaritaPeach · Answer

I'd say she's already made the choice for you. Even if you are working two jobs, going to school and pulling an internship as well, you will make time for your S. O. if they are a priority to you.

LisaMia · Answer

Talk to her about how you feel and if she's not willing to make time end it

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

Well you have two choices:

Hold on and wait for the future, where she will clearly be more successful, happy, and able to spend time with you.

OR just leave. If you feel you can't be bothered or that it's too much don't waste time.

bc1989 · Answer

make the most of your evenings together, get a nice dinner ready for her to come to at least once a week and try to tell her you appreciate how hard she works, it must be difficult for her too

madhatters4 · Answer

how long have you two been dating? what's her work schedule like? like does she have any days off?

mindreaders · Answer

life is bigger than money and people don't like the life they're living.. so as a deflection they tend to work more! Just move ON!

synthonaplinth · Answer

Like everyone else has said, talk to her about it first and explain your feelings. If you do not feel that she is making you a priority, staying in the relationship will only fuel resentment; you have needs, as well.

Anonymous · Answer

Well yes? a lot of people have shift work jobs. doesn't mean she won't have days off

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe you should get a job and shit your whore mouth?

Anonymous · Answer

If your serious abotu her work through it if your not end it.

Jason7mge · Answer

Sounds like slave labor to me. Please tell us who she works for lol

Hidden_P · Answer

Just break up. You clearly can't be arsed.

mooky06 · Answer

Have you spoken to her about it?

2Trainman · Answer

Give her time to get use to the job

rairai · Answer

is that even legal?

Anonymous · Answer

how old is she?

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