IMO? and what will 2 or 3 days do? what should I be looking for? and am I stupid to think there is even a chance he wants to be with me at all being that he lives 4 hours away? he said he wanted to still see each other and that he wants me to stick around for a while and just gave me high hopes. I miss him like crazy already though if he felt the same way wouldn't he be contacting me?
2) 2-3 days might set in stone his position, if he doesn't contact you within that time frame, I'd say he used you.
3) I think it's possible to have a long distance relationship, however the fact that you spent less than one week together makes it that much easier to forget you and move on.
4) He might be busy at home, hence the one word replies, give him space, and return to # 2.
However, chances are you made a mistake, and he used you for sex, seeing as you had sex within the first week. He got the prize in a extremely short amount of time, with very little effort.
Ok thanks. well I did text him today and got the one word replied then I asked him if I could call him later because I had to talk to him about soemthing and he called me. I said I didn't want to talk about it now and that id call him later he said he'd text me when he got up from his nap if he doesn't text should I not call? I was gonna ask him where he stands and what he wants so I can see that we are on the same page and if he really saw us seeing each other again. is that a bad idea?
I know this sounds dumb but I gave him sex hoping it would make us closer and we could have that emotional attachment being that he was leaving in a short about of time. I wasn't proud of myself but I wanted something to keep him holding on to
I'm the type of person that likes to talk about things directly so that method would work with me, but I can't say that about the majority of guys. I don't know what the guy is like. Also, I understand your position to give him something to cling on to, but it would be best not to go that far, seeing as the position you're in right now would be the dictionary definition of a "fling". I reread the whole question and it seems in the second to the last Paragraph, that he's a player.
I think this is where the comment that helped change me would be put to use. I would still ask his position, but be prepared for the worst possible response. Good luck to you though.
I mean I think he just knows he has me whipped already so he was taking advantage of it and I was crying because I was gonna miss him and he was just so tired from the past nights that he was falling asleep which is understandable and he did keep kissing me but I just seemed more upset I know he cared but I don't know if it was just the way I was looking at it being a girl and being really upset about it vs him being a guy and really tired or if he really didn't care
Like I said, I'm all for direct questions regarding relationships. Having said that, I'm not good with questions that have implied meanings. It's up to you to decide that, all that matters at this point is his response. It will either continue, or give you closure so you can move on.
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What a prick! To me, it sounds like you got played. That's why you really should get to know someone quite well before having sex with them.
Sorry he used you I know many military peoples when they become horny they f*** to everyone whether guy or girl.
I just needed to read the first line. He's in the miltary? Yes he did use you for sex.
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OK WELL HE SOUNDS LIKE DESPERATE PHYSCO...NOT BEING A BITCH BUT SERIOUSLY HE IS CRAZY AND YES HE PROBABLY DID USE YOU FOR SEX
I think he just wanted someone to sleep with. Sorry!
he mite of ben useing you but who knows he mite of ben in love whit you
i have a feeling he did... srry. and it was prob sweet tlking to get you to fall for him
You got played like a fiddle.
Too early to tell, give it 2 or 3 days, IMO.
IMO? and what will 2 or 3 days do? what should I be looking for? and am I stupid to think there is even a chance he wants to be with me at all being that he lives 4 hours away? he said he wanted to still see each other and that he wants me to stick around for a while and just gave me high hopes. I miss him like crazy already though if he felt the same way wouldn't he be contacting me?
1) IMO = In my opinion
2) 2-3 days might set in stone his position, if he doesn't contact you within that time frame, I'd say he used you.
3) I think it's possible to have a long distance relationship, however the fact that you spent less than one week together makes it that much easier to forget you and move on.
4) He might be busy at home, hence the one word replies, give him space, and return to # 2.
However, chances are you made a mistake, and he used you for sex, seeing as you had sex within the first week. He got the prize in a extremely short amount of time, with very little effort.
Ok thanks. well I did text him today and got the one word replied then I asked him if I could call him later because I had to talk to him about soemthing and he called me. I said I didn't want to talk about it now and that id call him later he said he'd text me when he got up from his nap if he doesn't text should I not call? I was gonna ask him where he stands and what he wants so I can see that we are on the same page and if he really saw us seeing each other again. is that a bad idea?
I know this sounds dumb but I gave him sex hoping it would make us closer and we could have that emotional attachment being that he was leaving in a short about of time. I wasn't proud of myself but I wanted something to keep him holding on to
I'm the type of person that likes to talk about things directly so that method would work with me, but I can't say that about the majority of guys. I don't know what the guy is like. Also, I understand your position to give him something to cling on to, but it would be best not to go that far, seeing as the position you're in right now would be the dictionary definition of a "fling". I reread the whole question and it seems in the second to the last Paragraph, that he's a player.
I think this is where the comment that helped change me would be put to use. I would still ask his position, but be prepared for the worst possible response. Good luck to you though.
I mean I think he just knows he has me whipped already so he was taking advantage of it and I was crying because I was gonna miss him and he was just so tired from the past nights that he was falling asleep which is understandable and he did keep kissing me but I just seemed more upset I know he cared but I don't know if it was just the way I was looking at it being a girl and being really upset about it vs him being a guy and really tired or if he really didn't care
How would you reccommend asking it?
Like I said, I'm all for direct questions regarding relationships. Having said that, I'm not good with questions that have implied meanings. It's up to you to decide that, all that matters at this point is his response. It will either continue, or give you closure so you can move on.
Okkay thanks. if he doesn't text me when he wakes up should I just call him later? I don't wanna annoy him but I wanna know
Sounds like it :/
Yes.