My girlfriend wants to lead the relationship?

[Shyboy27]

She told me that she wanted too lead the relationship like controlling the finances, planning the holiday, etc etc. But would that be awesome? I hope she is not dominant can this go out of hand?

[Anonymous]

Bit weird how she's upfront with that. I mean I control my relationship but that's more because my boyfriend's got special needs and knows himself he isn't organised or can plan as it's a lot for him to make a decision. Yet the fact she's just telling you to means yourleaving yourself submissive

[Shyboy27]

So if I accept this, would it go out of hand?

[Opinion Owner]

It could do as your basically giving her all the power. There has to be a limit

[Shyboy27]

Well it is not that Im going to do the chores but is only because I work 50 hours a week so she sad that she wanted to do this.

[Shyboy27]

And she likes it when she can have a little bit control like when we where at the first weeks of our relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

That's not a little control if she's taking over your finances. And pretty sure she shouldn't of had that the first few weeks either...

[Shyboy27]

No she didn't had finances in the first few weeks. But even if the bankaccount is on my name would that be also giving power because she can't do anything else with the account only payments. But I think im not going into this.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't get what the last part was? I take it English isn't your first language?

[Shyboy27]

No it has nothing to do with you, it is only that I had a bad day at work. I can't read with a clear mind but I understand what you're saying. Im going to talk with her to say that Im not going to accept this.😊

[Opinion Owner]

:) glad to hear it (not that you've had a bad day. I'm sorry to hear that, at least it can only go up from there)

[Shyboy27]

Well if it wasn't you're help I think I would have accept it. Maybe I didn't wanted to hurt the feelings of my girlfriend. It looked like if I was in sleep oresomething😊

[Opinion Owner]

:) glad to help

[kaylaS91]

any relationship can get out of hand in terms of who's been overly controlling, whether it be the guy/girl filling the more dom/sub role.

[Shyboy27]

Well I say she is only going to do the administration work and sometimes planning a holiday or a weekend for doing something would that even ve wrong to led her the relationship?

[kaylaS91]

no, that's very unlikely the only reason why she decided to start a relationship with you. She's probably just like that by nature, to not just you but all of her friends/coworkers as well.

[Shyboy27]

So then I have to talk with her again?

[kaylaS91]

if that kind of dynamic or her telling you that she wants to be in 'control' of the things you listed above wouldn't be cool with you, then yeah you should definitely let her know how you feel.

[Shyboy27]

Well if we try would i be late then?

[kaylaS91]

yeeah of course it would've been better to have let her know before even having started dating but then again, she waited till after to tell you she wants to be in control of all those things so at this point, the sooner you tell her, the better.

[Shyboy27]

Himm I think Im going to talk with her, that would be the best idea. Thanks for you're help😊

[serious]

There is nothing wrong with a woman having the power in the relationship as long as you don't lose your respect, confidence it should be fine. Just make sure her assertive nature doesn't turn into a controlling nature.

[Atreyu]

sounds shitty. why does she want to control your life?

[Benjamin7]

a lot of breakups and divorces result because the girl is a crazy feminist. watch out