"So, I met this guy in a bar and we ended up hooking up" did you exactly expert prince charming or a great boyfriend material? he just pumped and dumped.
girls who have casual sex are easy, they're not taken seriously by guys, and as you admitted yourself him cheating with you means he didn't take you nor his long distance girlfriend seriously , is he a shitty guy? maybe he is or maybe he just finds easy women, does his thing and moves on its hard to tell really depends on what kind of girl is his girlfriend, is she easy as well? Does he love her or just dating her cause he hates staying alone.
as for telling his girlfriend, iam leaning towards yes but at the same time its way too much of a headache to get yourself into with a guy you met once, plus after your fb message if he seemed really nervous then he wants his girlfriend if he didn't even care then its safe to assume that his girlfriend is not important to him and he can afford to break up with her.
@Z-Spark " is she easy as well? Does he love her or just dating her cause he hates staying alone. " At this point and from a side of the @splashofyellow it doesn't matter and shouldn't concern her what type of relationship this guy have with his girlfriend as it's none of her business, you know how it looks like regardless of her relationship status? Guy cheated on his girlfriend and @splashofyellow shouldn't care beyound that as I said it's not her business.
What I'm trying to say in above paragraphs but might fail to is that in a public eye it just looks like he cheated on his girlfriend and anyone concerned (OP) beyond just "is this his girlfriend or not?" shouldn't get involved in the aspec of their relationship but just give his girlfriend heads up that she's dating a cheater. Also it's a noble thing to do.
what if she ddnt react well to what u said or what if that lead to a divorce what if she ddnt care what if she was a mean person what if she have a heart condition and he cabt have sex with her
@And "snitches get stitches." It's not sniching mate, she doesn't even know him plus you can't snitch someone if you didn't had any deal with them. Seems fair to me.
It's hard to put myself in her shoes because I don't know what their relationship is like. Sure, cheating is never acceptable but he was drunk. Maybe he just made a stupid mistake.
I know that I should tell her but I don't know how. But as I'm part of this whole mess, I should let her know. I want to do it in a friendly way, if that's even possible. I can easily sound like I'm just spreading nasty rumors or making shit up. I need to think what's the best way to approach this. I guess it doesn't really matter whether she believes me or not but I want to word it just right.
yeah just tell her that you're not trying to sabotage their relationship or something.. you're just doing what you think is right and she can either believe it or not.. it's her choice
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Well hang out with his girlfriend, let him walk on edge of knife for once ;)
Her girlfriend lives in another country and I don't know either of them.
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"So, I met this guy in a bar and we ended up hooking up" did you exactly expert prince charming or a great boyfriend material? he just pumped and dumped.
Just because we had casual sex doesn't mean we are automatically bad people.
girls who have casual sex are easy, they're not taken seriously by guys, and as you admitted yourself him cheating with you means he didn't take you nor his long distance girlfriend seriously , is he a shitty guy? maybe he is or maybe he just finds easy women, does his thing and moves on its hard to tell really depends on what kind of girl is his girlfriend, is she easy as well? Does he love her or just dating her cause he hates staying alone.
as for telling his girlfriend, iam leaning towards yes but at the same time its way too much of a headache to get yourself into with a guy you met once, plus after your fb message if he seemed really nervous then he wants his girlfriend if he didn't even care then its safe to assume that his girlfriend is not important to him and he can afford to break up with her.
@Z-Spark hello there mate xD
@Z-Spark " is she easy as well? Does he love her or just dating her cause he hates staying alone. " At this point and from a side of the @splashofyellow it doesn't matter and shouldn't concern her what type of relationship this guy have with his girlfriend as it's none of her business, you know how it looks like regardless of her relationship status? Guy cheated on his girlfriend and @splashofyellow shouldn't care beyound that as I said it's not her business.
What I'm trying to say in above paragraphs but might fail to is that in a public eye it just looks like he cheated on his girlfriend and anyone concerned (OP) beyond just "is this his girlfriend or not?" shouldn't get involved in the aspec of their relationship but just give his girlfriend heads up that she's dating a cheater. Also it's a noble thing to do.
well if he did it once hed probly do it again maybe when she even deeper in love with him so yeah id say so it would save her pain in the long run
I mean not knowing them or their relationship at all, I'd say not doing anything is the correct way to go.
I think you did the right thing by letting her know. If i was being cheated on I would want someone to let me know.
Yeah she deserves to know that she's wasting her time with that shit.
let it go unless you think you will see him again. not worth the grief
why would she see his sorry and sour ass again?
You're better off having said nothing and just forgetting about it now.
i have to say that i feel it is good you told her
and it s just because i would want to know so yeah
You should tell her everything. Otherwise, the girl will fret more when she gets to know all of these.
a lot of possibilities their so i think dont tell her its safer for u this way
Safer? I don't think I'm the one who needs protecting.
what if she ddnt react well to what u said
or what if that lead to a divorce
what if she ddnt care
what if she was a mean person
what if she have a heart condition and he cabt have sex with her
a lot of what ifs here
But none of those concern me. You said "safer for me".
what if she got very angry at you for some reason or without any reason
women tend to this while very angry
There's nothing she can do to me, though.
its ur choice after all
but if i was in ur shoes id forget about it
but thats just me
I think you did the right thing. She needs to know what kind of guy her boyfriend is.
None of your business. We all as individuals have enough to worry about ourselves.
No, don't tell anyone anything. That would be very rude. And snitches get stitches.
@And "snitches get stitches." It's not sniching mate, she doesn't even know him plus you can't snitch someone if you didn't had any deal with them. Seems fair to me.
YES. He will do it again and again. Until he gets caught officially.
put yourself in her shoes and decide
It's hard to put myself in her shoes because I don't know what their relationship is like. Sure, cheating is never acceptable but he was drunk. Maybe he just made a stupid mistake.
I know that I should tell her but I don't know how. But as I'm part of this whole mess, I should let her know. I want to do it in a friendly way, if that's even possible. I can easily sound like I'm just spreading nasty rumors or making shit up. I need to think what's the best way to approach this. I guess it doesn't really matter whether she believes me or not but I want to word it just right.
yeah just tell her that you're not trying to sabotage their relationship or something.. you're just doing what you think is right and she can either believe it or not.. it's her choice
I would tell her. She deserves better.
Update: good call. Would have done the same.
You did your part. You can't save everyone.
Thanks, I guess there's really nothing else I can or should do about this situation.
Yes you need to tell
Great job you did what was right
Thank you. I hope it's not too late now.
Yes I agree but she needs to know the truth and you were brave to do it hopefully they can work things out
no dont try easing your guilt by bothering her.
No. It's not your busy to do so.