Does getting revenge make you feel better?

Question

Personally, I've done it a few times and I admit it felt great at that time but I always regretted it later. It didn't feel so good after a little while. In fact, I got even more miserable because now I can't take back the words I said and I can't undo what I did so I've damaged the relationship forever.

I think it's a very immature thing to do. I've really learned my lesson.

Stellastarling · Accepted Answer

revenge feels good. it makes you feel slightly 'bad boy/girl'. However it depends a lot on certain aspects.
1. girl friends. breaking the girl code. if a girl friend breaks the girl code then end the friendship immediately. No one is worth anything after they break the girl code.
2. Your ex-boyfriend. Did this guy cheat on you? Don't sleep with his best friend, be the bigger person. Live life, enjoy. He's in the past and the future is all about you.
3. You're best friend. This one is tricky. If she did something wrong she might have had a great reason for it. Then again, she might not. But, you know that it's hard to let go. After all, you're best friends. This is one person you never take revenge on because they've been with you through thick and thin. At first distance yourself from her, and then see how things turn out.

writikaa · Accepted Answer

I think it's very important to understand your own body... this is natural... when you are aggressive... along with aderaline, there's an increase in testosterone too. I know males hormone but we have it too... just 1/5th of it... anyways.. these hormone are responsible for us to give punishment to people who have been bad.

but once this peak subside and you reach the normal level of oxytocin which was inhibited by that spike...
you regret. .

it's Normal to feel this... however... if you don't want to do rash things again.
keep your oxytocin levels up... keep hugging 😐😐 and whatever your sense of charity is...

I know weird... but that's her body works...

xHoneyxBeex · Accepted Answer

I've never actively tried to get revenge on someone... but I would assume that it would be only a temporary satisfaction. It may feel good right after you do it but then you'll realize that it was pointless and didn't really help anything. I think trying to get revenge on someone ultimately only hurts yourself. If someone does you wrong, it's better for your own peace of mind to just let it go. Don't keep spreading the negativity by trying to get revenge, that just stops you from being able to move on.

kambo_trick3y · Accepted Answer

I only take revenge if the person fulfills two criteria:

A - They drew first blood.

B - They had every intention to hurt me. Premeditated and all.

If they fulfill these two criteria, then yes, I can honestly say there has never been a time where revenge didn't feel GREAT.

People say you should turn the other cheek, and to that I completely disagree. You should only turn your cheek to people who DESERVE it. One of the biggest reasons bad people get away with some of the things they do is because good people are always forgiving them. I always take time out of my day to teach a valuable lesson, even if said lesson has to turn ugly for a second.

DizzyAster · Accepted Answer

Short term, yes Long term, no. Also, you can lose a hell of a lot more doing so.

Genie23 · Answer

To be honest, I've never really tried to take revenge. I just say to myself. "7Don't waste your energy. They're not worth your time. What goes around comes back around anyway.. "
So I just move on. 🙂

Abooz · Answer

It depends on how you get it. If you get your revenge by hurting that other person intentionally, then Yea... you'll feel guilty. But if you just do your thing and prove to him/her that you are actually better than them, then they feel bad about what they did to you. You will feel pretty damn good :)

chattycathy12 · Answer

Honestly I think it's a waist of energy that's focused on someone that obviously doesn't deserve it. We have this need to punish people for hurting or betraying us but honestly I think it stings more when you just walk away and go about living your fabulous life without them.

rjroy3 · Answer

Depends where it's coming from. If you get revenge for the exact person of getting them back, then generally it won't make you feel better outside of fulfilling the urge to get revenge. But if you get revenge, because that action is the right thing to do then it will make you feel better. Like if someone were to pick on you, starting a fight and then you kick his ass.

If he starts a fight with you and you kick his ass, then you start a fight with him later on that won't make you feel better. But if you just kick his ass the first time. In a way that is revenge, but the reason is different and coming from a different place.

DodgersGM · Answer

I like getting indirect revenge.

Like, imagine a time where someone put you down, or tried to make you feel less-than. If you use that as motivation to win at life, then that's honestly the best revenge.

Right or wrong, I get a massive rush from proving people wrong. It feels like revenge to me.

Anonymous · Answer

I almost never seek revenge, however there was someone in a position of authority in the company I used to work for, who did something anti-social that affected my job. Simply because she didn't like a woman who worked at my facility, she caused my facility some issues. It was difficult to resolve the problem because of her position in the company.

I ended up leaving the company, because it was time to go. Pissed off as I was, I sent her a "Manuregram" that you can order off the internet. It is like $30 and they'll send the person a container of horse or cow manure anonymously. Too bad she lived in a different state and I couldn't see her open it.

Other than that, I am not into revenge. LOL

levantine99 · Answer

Indians have a saying. If you are seeking revenge from your foe, dig two graves. one for him and one for you. thats the result of revenge.

Robsinsf53 · Answer

Revenge is a temporary fix, depending upon what it is you're seeking the revenge on. I'd rather let Karma kick in. Karma is a Motherfu****! I knew a guy who killed this other guy and the dudes brother wanted to and was going to kill the guy who killed his brother. Before he could do anything, the guy was shot in a botched burglary! Karma!

singhlicious · Answer

learn to let go!!
leave short term or long term... thats bullshit
it's your fuckin life not some sort of an agreement. Ooh you did bad to me, now I'll take revenge !! this process will go on and on... so learn to let go !!
you'll feel good and remember karma is a bitch... believe it or not at the end of the day what goes around comes around!!
cheers 😊

RandomPandaz · Answer

To be honest not really for the short term maybe it does but for the long term I end up feeling bad about it and I apologize
I personally am not a person who gets revenge on people cause I believe at some point in everyone's lives if they've done something wrong to another person they will pay for it one way or the other. Either way the answer is clear
Short term-Yea
Long term-No

Mega_illuminati · Answer

I have trained myself to not take any revenge. It hurts a lot at that moment, but in the long run, it is always good. Time heals all wounds. But time does not heal regret. You can only forget it temporarily, and you will be reminded of it again when you see that person.

mac97 · Answer

Not at all. I'm a strong believer in karma so I just let it be and move on with my life. As you get older and responsibilities start to pile up, you'll soon begin to realize that you can't afford to lose yourself in pointless BS. There is no point in wasting your time and energy on something or someone that will impact you negatively

backtoblackkkk · Answer

Getting revenge just isn't the mature thing to do. Makes you look like a petty bitch. The best revenge is to move on and delve yourself into something that will bring you success.

Kru2020 · Answer

People will do what they do, revenge will never mend anything. Just live your life and move on. Drop those people who cause stress, anxiety or if they aren't willing to make time for you. Life is much easier if you keep good people around you and revenge is never the answer. It will only make things drag on, its better to just forget about the people who "deserve it" and don't worry too much about them.

WantAnswersNow · Answer

I was raised to pick my battles wisely. I like to let Karma do her thing. But sometimes I have let my anger get the best of me and intervened with Karma. Luckily the people who I've been mean to still loved me. even though I didn't deserve their love for being a bitch.

thedarknight88 · Answer

I like getting even revenge is more of a child like mind set also revenge is malicious getting even means you're at the same plane level and letting the person know you can meet them on the same level they met you on and there's also no join Revenge because you hurt innocent people in the long run that nothing to do with it

chethi · Answer

keeping a thought of revenge is harmful for us only. it may effect others r may not be. but it will defnitely goin to effect on ourself n keep us low n anger about ourself always. so my opinion is u shld nt think about revenge. Jus ignore such thing n move ahead.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I like the more subtle revenge. Like my new boyfriend ended up being the manager where my ex works. And i think its funny.
To be clear, my ex tends to be self employed most of the time but for some reason got a job. My boyfriend changed jobs and ended up being his manager.

Jay_Lauren · Answer

A little bit in the short term. It can give you a moment of happiness.

moonism · Answer

Yes! Revenge is the best thing but you need to be patient and calculate your moves in order to achieve whatever plan you have. Also I only take revenge if the person screwed me or one of my friends over big time... but most of the time I try to let it go and not waste my own time scheming a revenge plan.

misswierdo · Answer

Yes and after that like a few moments later, I'd feel bad about it..

xxxtav · Answer

I think walking away can do a lot more than revenge. I once had a friend I wanted to get revenge on for what she did to me but I just walked away and it feels much better because you lose the negative person and can feel better about yourself after

1Anon · Answer

I don't believe in getting revenge because it doesn't solve anything.

prajeshvikram · Answer

The very basic logic is if you take revenge, it hits you back the same way just more harder. It's a universal principle too, whatever you do comes back to you magnified, whatsoever the nature.

MarkGerrits · Answer

agree with yah 100% procent. unless I really hate the person.

Angel_Kat · Answer

Revenge hurts yourself the most

Ignoring is the best way to show someone you don't care about them. If you're taking revenge, you're showing the other person matters and impacts you in some way, even if it's negative.

Cccgala · Answer

No. It would make me feel less of a rational being because that would mean I've taken the time to prioritize revenge when I could have used the time to do something productive that will benefit me in the long run.

mupli · Answer

I always knew revenge doesn't do any good for anybody. In fact it would be like putting more fuel into the fire. so I don't do revenge. I'm glad you find your way to the truth.

crypton · Answer

That's why they say when getting revenge, dig 3
2 graves. Revenge is never really worthy it. Because other than making you feel bad, it consumes you and gives those people you're hating power over you.

taurus10j · Answer

I dont go out of my way to get revenge on people. but paybacks a bitch. you get back what you put out

joejoesyodaddy · Answer

if i like a girl sometimes ill crush a girls self-esteem if she acts stupid & cutts me off for dumb reasons. say she getts bitchy. because im busy working and she thinks im cheating. &decides to dump me without talking about it i get upset and call her fatt n ugly lol

noone123 · Answer

am the type of cold blooded persone, never actually thaught of taking revange on any one, i think trying to face them and find a compremise would actually make you feel better with your inner self , and you would totaly spare you of those poisonous midnight thoughts.

Chrizly73 · Answer

Short term, yes, there is no better feeling after revenge. Then you start thinking what you have done and what could happen

Lillyhope · Answer

used to do it, but it seemed that a sort of karma sent it back to me.. If someone offends you, better to cut them out of your life

karupted · Answer

Revenge poisons your own soul, and really doesn't resolve or makes things even. It goes with the saying that forgiveness isn't for the offender, it's for the offended.

PreppyQuestions28 · Answer

Absolutely for the short term however after I feel guilty afterwards

Anonymous · Answer

In the short term, but I feel worse in the long term

lstef · Answer

Not really. For me the best thing to do is to show that you're a better person and that he/she doesn't deserve you. Plus it boosts your ego a bit

HandsomeRaj · Answer

Honestly no. The feeling later only sucks. I'd action something if the outcome is worth it - but nothing emotional about it

Vanjasper · Answer

Due to parking difficulties where i live, my car has been keyed a few times. I've filed a few notches in a screwdriver, and tonight i'm going to have some fun revenge.

Wonderer89 · Answer

I don't think so. Dignity, self respect and being awesome instead of a low life wasting time on another low life make me feel much better

TheStaleMarshmellow · Answer

Am I supposed to care about the person I took vengeance on? If you do, your doing it wrong.

melanieeeB · Answer

not revenge I let karma do the dirty work and I just enjoy the satisfaction

Eternallylucky · Answer

Many moons ago, I would but now I do not think it's a good idea to wish bad things for them whether it's minor or big.

ol_mac_dayo · Answer

as long as your revenge isn't hella negative and malicious. the best revenge is to live your life way sicker than them. then they turn into giant jelly monsters. then you shit on their porch 😀

DamnSam · Answer

depends, at relationships a clear no... but at other things sometimes I do because some people need to learn that the world spinns not only around them...

xandra248 · Answer

iv said things and i totally regreat it afterwards but it makes me better and happy

LaFemmeFatale · Answer

No It doesn't my best revenge is to be in the position of being merciful to the one who hurt me.

Emnessa · Answer

I can't be bothered to actually take revenge out on someone but I love plotting it out in head lol

kaylaS91 · Answer

I agree that the only thing getting 'revenge' will do is make me look crazy and petty af.

OlderGuy965 · Answer

Good for you. I don't seek revenge, but I have to admit, when I hear about something later that gives me revenge without me being the one seeking it, I smile inside. If that makes any sense.

redxiii74 · Answer

never regretted it at all. love it took that gnawing need to bring wrath. I'd do it again. must be Well planned. Best is when they didn't know it was you.

deguerre_ · Answer

At first it feel amazing then like a day or hours later you will feel terrible later...

Vyrakh · Answer

If you're getting vengeance for the sake of your feelings, you shouldn't feel good because you're making a foolish decision to begin with. Vengeance has its place and time, and it's always best served cold.

BlueEyesWD · Answer

If it's about mosquitoes then yes, I want my blood back!

nonaa87 · Answer

revenge makes things even more bitter than giving satisfaction revenge was never a solution i almost always forgive

Mr_Kapstar · Answer

Depends. If its out of a relationship then, in all honesty, yes. If its in a relationship then I would try to know my boundaries.

Anonymous · Answer

sure it's great and fun but then after it don't make sense. like why do revenge. leave that shit for karma

vzsam619 · Answer

I dont recall when was the last time I took a revenge some people are just assholes but there is no need to get on their level.

You be the bigger and better person.

Do good without an agenda and positive things will always happen.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

No revenge isn't always the answer to our problems and let downs in life.

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