Why do women think it's OK to call men sweetie, hon, etc?

[scar1]

yeah I was just wondering because some times at stores I get called stuff like that and it p*sses me off. I've also had times in the community where some one said some thing like "thanks hon". so I wondering why guys get called stuff like this , considering if I did that to girl I would a horrible sexist. just want your thoughts are on the matter

and for the guys what are your thoughts on being called stuff like this. does on the age or how good looking she is?

the pole is guys and girls do you like being stuff like that?

I like being called stuff like that

I don't like it

I don't care, I'm indifferent to it

If the guy or girl is what I call good looking or attractive then yes

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[Simple-Simonette]

The only place a term of endearment would offend me was at work. Otherwise, I could really care less.

I do consider myself a feminist, but do not find "sweet names" sexist. Since people who don't know me have no idea what I find offensive, they are behaving the only way they know how.

I don't expect them to rearrange their thinking on the off chance that I might be a raging feminist who would set them on fire for calling me honey because I am a Womyn not a pot of sweets. Uhhh, yeah.

Live and let live, that's my motto. If they want to view me as something sweet - that's their mistake, not mine.

I use pet names all the time - from the grocery guy to the kid who mows my lawn. My brain cells have shrunk from parenting and I now have a limited vocabulary that consists of baby words. If people find it offensive, oh well.

Better than "Hey asshole".

[nermalinda]

I actually use a lot of these words, but mostly with my female friends. I wouldn't say it to a guy I didn't know, or even a guy I knew but wasn't dating.

In some parts of the country, it's normal to just call everyone "hun" or "sweetie", but I can understand if it bugs you, especially if strange women are saying it.

If a guy called me hun or sweetie, I usually don't mind it and figure they are just being nice, especially if they do it to other people, too, or if they just seem like an outgoing person.

But if it was a creepy guy or someone who seemed like they were just trying to hit on me, I'd be bothered by it, too.

If the people who are calling you these things are just older motherly types, then just ignore it and realize they're just trying to be nice.

[ThatActorGirl]

i think that when girls do that, its kind of like when guys say "thanks, man." you get so used to saying that to friends, and you start saying it to strangers.

[scar1]

Awsome comment that makes sense

[mef1975]

That happens to me everyday! I try to think it just a word expressing endearment, although, the double standard where it be okay for a woman to do it, but not a man, bugs me SEVERELY, as I have suffered much over this sexist double standard in my attempts to join society's workforce, a man with long hair. Why should "elitists" push a fellow man into virtual exile over the length of his hair when it be okay for women? Why should I be treated any differently because I have testicles AND long hair? And, why would any fellow man, or women, feed into a system that treats people so unfairly?

[scar1]

I can understand people thinking long hair is feminant since that's how its viewed where I live but that doesn't mean people should disciminate and know what you mean it happens all the time where I live. also the problem is that there terms of endearment and therefore makes me very uncomfortable when its random people and of course I pissed off because the double standard thing you mentioned aswell

[NMMan]

I work in a town where I deal with a lot of older people (55+), and a lot of the women I interview or speak with on the phone will say "hon", "dear" or "young man". I suppose it's just something people of that generation do, though the fact that I look much younger than my actual age doesn't help matters, lol.

[fellylove]

haha awwwwh(:

Dont get p*ssed because they call you sweetie, hon or babbeee or whatever.

its a really cute thingg tho say.

You will not be a horrible sexist, if you call her sweetie or hun

but , it kinda p*sses a girl off when yu say baby and all that. we don't like that.. lol

its a really good thing when girls call you that.. (:

embracceee those moments <3 haha

[Cool-Relax]

I don't like being called stuff like that either. It's not like they're feminine terms, they seem like something you would say to a child.

[scar1]

Some them like "hon or "honey" are common feminine terms but I totally agree

[Cool-Relax]

I don't see them as feminine.

[scar1]

A lot of times females call other females "hon" or "honey" as a disrespectful term, unless there friends.s

[biannnnnnn]

Yeah I wouldn't call my lover that. I hate pet names. some girls think its cute and some people don't think about when they call them those names. You know it comes naturally for them.

[Anonymous]

Kinda weird if you don't know them, its a bit to familar or fake...

[thisgirlisamazing]

I hate it. Especially when a guy is heavily flirting and five minutes into meeting them you're their "baby". Its like, hold on a sec. Give me a minute to puke because I know you just called that girl across the room the same thing.

[mrman23]

I actually enjoy being called sweetie or darling, etc, even by strangers. Call me weird or whatever but yeah, I like it. And I'm a dude.

[princess171717]

well what would you like being called then if you dnt like hon, honey, baby... and so on?

[scar1]

well you could just not call me anything but if you have to dude, man, you or anything else that isn't a pet name would work (I mean you in a general sense)

[larry69]

Its OK for women to do it...but not for men