Most if not all of my relationships have begun with instant mutual attraction. Perhaps you're barking up the wrong trees, as it were, and pursuing women who would never find you attractive.
I felt a connection with my crush right away, the first time I saw him and we talked. So it's possible. There is love at first sight! It's crazy to think that we like each other so much! :)
@Poppykate the desire to reproduce, social conventions etc Keep in mind i said the intensity men feel, implying there's still attraction but no where near as strong.
@Poppykate sorry i should have specified i meant the desire to reproduce etc was subconscious instinct. Also i strongly believe if society where to say women could date women as much as they do men, most women would go both ways, where men are specifically attracted fo men only and i doubt they would or coukd go both ways.
@Poppykate yes I believe women aren't attracted to men, they are attracted to dominance because they likebto be taken care of and are turned on by the way the way men are turned on by them cause they desire to be desired.
So, with your theory, it would require a lot of constant and considerable effect on your behalf to retain a woman... so do you bother with them? Women that is. Lol 😂
@Poppykate Thats why men do the approaching, men are ready for sex first, men do creepy perverted shit. Its why men pay for the dates and try to impress women so she will develop feelings back. Women dont crave men, they like personalities.
@Poppykate men would love women to do more approaching but thats never gonna happen. Women just don't desire men. They like personality of people who happen to be men
yes majority cases it will happen but they don't carry on because they mightbe already in a relationship
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I guess for me, it's both personality and looks, but looks come second. I don't think mutual attraction is just wishful thinking because it happened to me before.
It happens, but it takes a perfect storm of conditions for it to occur, kind of like a tornado.
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It happens all the time but only to good looking males (top 20-15% of males) who dress decent at least. To the rest of 80-85% of males it's just wishful thinking
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Also they feel the intensity of attraction as much as the guy does. (Be super good looking and you can fuck a dude within an hour) also they're open to you if you are goodlooking
Women, with the exception of outliers, can absolutely feel strong sexual attraction due to visuals - but we are also known to take fewer risks due to lower testosterone. Without impulse pushing us to move right away, more things factor in.
Men act first and decide what they actually want later, it seems.
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Most if not all of my relationships have begun with instant mutual attraction. Perhaps you're barking up the wrong trees, as it were, and pursuing women who would never find you attractive.
You don't know if they're attracted until you approach them.
@red324 right. There's an aspect of social interaction that needs to happen for any kind of relationship to begin.
I felt a connection with my crush right away, the first time I saw him and we talked. So it's possible. There is love at first sight! It's crazy to think that we like each other so much! :)
it's rare.
i have always dated boys i find most attractive. it's up to them.
it actually takes 2 weeks on average to fall in love, so realistically you're looking at 3-4 weeks of seeing someone regularly
Instant ridiculous attaction is extremely rare but is so awesome when it does happen, people want to capture that in the movies.
I thought my boyfriend was really cute, its the reason i asked him out.
Women may think a guy looks "good" like a flower but I doubt they feel the intensity of attraction men do?
Then why do we even bother with men? 🤔
@Poppykate the desire to reproduce, social conventions etc
Keep in mind i said the intensity men feel, implying there's still attraction but no where near as strong.
I am not sure.. 🤔. All I know is that I have once felt quite strong for a man. It had nothing to do with social conversion or desire to reproduce.
@Poppykate sorry i should have specified i meant the desire to reproduce etc was subconscious instinct.
Also i strongly believe if society where to say women could date women as much as they do men, most women would go both ways, where men are specifically attracted fo men only and i doubt they would or coukd go both ways.
Well from a psychological perspective, a woman's sexuality is considered to be more liquid than a man's.
@Poppykate yes I believe women aren't attracted to men, they are attracted to dominance because they likebto be taken care of and are turned on by the way the way men are turned on by them cause they desire to be desired.
So, with your theory, it would require a lot of constant and considerable effect on your behalf to retain a woman... so do you bother with them? Women that is. Lol 😂
@Poppykate Thats why men do the approaching, men are ready for sex first, men do creepy perverted shit.
Its why men pay for the dates and try to impress women so she will develop feelings back.
Women dont crave men, they like personalities.
That makes sense. But it flies in the face of the other 'mytake' where men wanted women to do more approaching. Lol 😂
@Poppykate men would love women to do more approaching but thats never gonna happen.
Women just don't desire men. They like personality of people who happen to be men
yes majority cases it will happen but they don't carry on because they mightbe already in a relationship
I guess for me, it's both personality and looks, but looks come second. I don't think mutual attraction is just wishful thinking because it happened to me before.
It happens, but it takes a perfect storm of conditions for it to occur, kind of like a tornado.
It happens all the time but only to good looking males (top 20-15% of males) who dress decent at least.
To the rest of 80-85% of males it's just wishful thinking
Also they feel the intensity of attraction as much as the guy does. (Be super good looking and you can fuck a dude within an hour) also they're open to you if you are goodlooking
*fuck a women
Mutual attraction happens.
I think it is for good looking people.
Women, with the exception of outliers, can absolutely feel strong sexual attraction due to visuals - but we are also known to take fewer risks due to lower testosterone. Without impulse pushing us to move right away, more things factor in.
Men act first and decide what they actually want later, it seems.
Yeah
I think it's possible
Yes. Romantic love is wishful thinking in itself.
Yes it's normal
I hope it isn't
I am not too sure
um nope