Have you given or received the silent treatment?

[Goodwifie]

I'm not a fan of this sort of treatment at all.
Never dished it out but I've been served it a few times by my husband in the past.
But not anymore thank goodness.
It's a way to avoid problems without any form of resolution.

received it and hated it.

received it and loved it.

gave the silent treatment.

I would never give my partner the silent treatment

[GoodManDave]

I dated a girl very briefly who was often trying to give me the silent treatment. I thought it was annoying and immature, but I just acted as if nothing was wrong. Which got me more of the silent treatment. Lol.

One time, I left the girl at the store because she ran off so I wouldn’t have been able to make it to a meeting (she had her car, so it wasn’t completely heartless). She gives me the silent treatment because I had told her I needed to go to a meeting and she didn’t want me leaving.

then gets up and walks off in a huff, probably thinking I would follow her and beg for forgiveness (riiiiight), or I’d be all dramatic and start an argument (riiiiight). I finished my food, left any way, and went to my meeting.

The silent treatment is obnoxious and childish. And my reaction, past trying to talk about it in a grown up way, is to ignore it and act as if nothing is wrong... if she’s mad, don’t try to humiliate me or constantly undermine me in public, but talk to me in private like an adult. No name calling, no manipulation games... and I’ll work through it with you. If I’m wrong, or made to realize I was in the wrong, I will apologize. That’s what nature grown ups should do.

[Shaft50]

I have given it and received it... currently receiving that from my family, for reasons unknown

[Goodwifie]

well you won't find out unless you talk to them.
persistence pays off.

[Shaft50]

I have spoken to them. They insist that I must have the problem. I'm the one who is always initiating contact.

[Goodwifie]

well keep doing what you are doing and never give up.

[Shaft50]

That's exactly right... do the right thing regardless of what others do

[Shaft50]

Thanks for mho :-)

[Goodwifie]

I hope things get better with the family.

[Shaft50]

Thanks heaps

[neurolove]

yes, I've done it before when I was young and immature. it's a form of control and attention seeking. it means they need to work on themselves before getting into a relationship with all that baggage. Nobody deserves the silent treatment. That's stonewalling and the death of a relationship. A normal healthy person would walk away. And if you do manage to control someone with the silent treatment, it just means you both are weak and in need of professional help to deal with past issues.

[Goodwifie]

My husband gave me the silent treatment last year because my dad gave him a stern talking to.
He quit a job without really giving it a try he was in and out of work for 11 months.
Such a stressful time for us both.

[neurolove]

wow he sounds like a child if your dad gave him a stern talking. how are you still with this guy?

[Goodwifie]

It was a hard time for him, he had worked with the same company for 12 years so doing something completely different was difficult..
He has since learnt that he needed to learn something new and is in a good job now doing something different.

[neurolove]

yeah, times are tough. that's good he finally learned.

[Goodwifie]

Learning something new has given him more confidence.

[MindYourEyes]

I’ve done it and received it. They both suck to the core! But at the same time sometimes I just feel so angry I am at loss of words and need to walk away to gather my thoughts. When I receive it, it’s kind of a relief but the same time it hurts so bad because instead of tackling on the problem it’s just sitting there in the pit of your stomach :/

[Fitness-Fanatic]

I'd never use the silent treatment to control my boyfriend , friends or family coz that's a form of bullying.

If someone is manipulative, or I dislike them because they are an awful person , I'll use the silent treatment on them. I'll totally cut them off , or ignore them completely when I see them. Silence is more deadly than harsh words.

[MissLogical]

For a little while it's not too bad, but eventually you will have to talk to the other person and work out your problems. But, when done often or for an extended amount of time, it's a form of emotional abuse; you're withholding love and attention from someone to make them upset.

[hahahmm]

If you mean pretend not to hear the other person in person: never done that. But I like to think before I speak so if I get really upset I will not talk about the topic till I know what to say. Also if you treat me like crap I may cut you off 100% so you have time to get that it’s not cool. Have not done that in a relationship but have done it to a few a-holes

[Alessus]

Have received it a few times, never given it unless you count walking away. I'm not the type to be silent if I'm really angry. But when I've received it, I've usually felt frustrated, but on the other hand I also see it as a signal to give them some time to think so I suppose it's situational on what I think about it.

[admles]

Recieved it, never given it.

It is very, very immature to give the silent treatment, and just shows you to be a terribly childish person.

If someone gives me the ST, I'll ask them 2-3 times to tell me what's wrong, and if they don't, then fine, I go out and have fun without them. I'm not going to waste my time!

[goddess87]

I don't do it. I think it's the ultimate form of disrespectful communication. If they are ignoring you like that then they lack the necessary communication skills to be in a relationship

[girlygirlyyes]

I would never give silent treatment to my partner coz it kills me and I wouldn't do the same to him...

[Blondie80]

I got it and gave it back. Mine are usually longer. Bad but it did happen.

[whoop12345]

My wife will give it and it just pisses me off more

[Jo1991]

I've received it. It's the most pointless shit ever. Especially when you don't know what the fuck you've done!

[Wi_Fi]

I get it like once a week. TBH I do deserve it 90% of the time. lol

[Flower-petal]

I have and it's awful. I'd rather cool off and talk about the problem

[rigger2]

That's a type of emotional abuse (Google it)

[Goodwifie]

I know it is.

[pizzalovershouse]

silent had happen to me

[NoOne_Special]

I have received it

[Volvagia]

...
*crickets*

[cupidkisses]

I gave it

[BronzedAdonis]

received it