I turned my location off in Snapchat and the guy I'm seeing noticed right away, later turned his off to get back at me, and doesn't trust me now?

[Anonymous]

This sounds ridiculous, I know, but we've been seeing each other for about a month, exclusively. We had our locations open for one another to see at all times whenever we check in to Snapchat. I wasn't aware he checked mine so often but I guess he does because last night for about an hour I turned my location off because my friend and I were going to surprise another friend of ours and we didn't want her to see our locations. Maybe 10 minutes after my guy snapped me, he must have noticed. But he didn't say anything. And then I snapped him back but I kept my location hidden for like 1.5 hours. I got home and turned it back on. That's when he stared giving me short responses and left me on read for the night, and then he turned off his location for me to see. This morning I asked if we were okay and he responded that "trust is hard to build I guess" and he never turned his location back on yet. I see him tonight. What do I do? Don't you think he's being dramatic? I guess I would wonder why he turned his off if I was in his shoes too, so what do I tell him tonight? I feel like he won't believe me.

[Darkener]

He's insecure. Or controlling but I'll assume the best rather than the worst. Yes he's being a drama queen but usually there are reasons why people react the way they do

[Asker]

I think it's mostly insecurity because a lot of guys hit on me, and we work together and he sees and hears it happen at work a lot. But I wish he'd trust me when I say he is all my focus and adoration is on and for currently.

[Darkener]

Just try to express it to him. Eventually im sure he'll understand. It's tedious but is worth it because if you try to build it and then undermine it's usually point of no return. I'd just recommend doing what you're doing now. Like be understanding and compromise. Though I'm sure this is all stuff you already get

[catmandu222]

Honestly, if he doesn't trust where you are and what your doing, he's not worth it. you need to trust each other for things to work

[Asker]

That's what I thought too. Like he checks in on me a lot it seems because he notices little things like this a ton. But I care for him and can't say goodbye so I don't know what to do

[catmandu222]

If he's upset about something this small, then fuck him. He's going to fight with you about little things and I dont think you should put up with it. Maybe he should spend more time with you rather than worrying about where you are. He needs to trust what you're doing.

[Asker]

I agree with that fully. I suggest to see him more and then he tries to act all cool and busy. I'm really getting fed up.

[catmandu222]

Then you need to tell him to spend more time with you or he won't have someone to spend time with. Say you'll find someone who trusts and wants to spend time with you. ( Such as myself) :)

[Asker]

Heh why thanks 😊 I'm going to tell him that tonight since it seems like when we're together it's great but when we're apart assumptions are thrown left and right.

[catmandu222]

You're welcome! If youd like to PM, I can help you through it more :)

[Trust_]

He's being a drama queen. Just stand your ground, and make it seem like it wasn't a big deal.

[Asker]

Right? I'll do that. It seems so stupid to me, I see his side but at the same time it seems beyond petty