Is it rude to ask a girl if she's a virgin?

[Anonymous]

Hi, I was just wondering if it's rude to ask a girl if she's a virgin? I know it's a very private subject and therefore I'll tell her that she doesn't need to answer if she feels like she don't want to. I'm just curious, that question kinda answers on every other questions I want to ask. But is it ok to ask such a thing?

[UnknownReflection]

In my perspective; it is fine.

This is actually an important topic to discuss. Regardless of the belief. We have two type of people; 1. Those who care about virginity so much according to traditional values. 2. People who don't really care but they just need to know. Also maybe a third group that might not care at all.

Personally i am part of the second group. This is very important to me. I do not judge anyone according to their virginity status. Virginity is a personal choice and the sexual history is not important for me either. But; i need to know this for two particular reasons; 1. To know how sexually adventurous and experienced my potential partner is. 2. This is an important info to obtain before establishing a sexual relationship with a new partner. If they have zero sex relation; you'd know they are most likely clean. But if they have had multiple sexual partner; we must run a little blood/urinate test to become aware if the partner carrying any STD's or not and if yes; what type and in what stage they are carrying forward. This would be important and beneficial for both of our health.

So despite this is a very private matter; at the same time it's very important. So two people must just behave entirely mature and discuss like two real adults. Private but necessary to be acknowledged. You have to just ask it step by step; politely and constructively to not cause discomfort and bad vibes. But it is definitely okay to talk about it and i really doubt anyone would get offended by this. It's more normal nowadays to talk about such subjects.

Good Luck.

[Mtina96]

I agree with you, but on the other hand it depend what their relationship status is. If they don't date it's none of his business

[Asker]

Thank you :)

[UnknownReflection]

@Mtina96 I agree with you as well. However; it didn't cross my mind to mention this part because according to the explanation of the Asker; i assumed it's dating and relationships since the topic refers to relationships as well. But you're right. If the relationship is not too deep and might not really click; it would be no one's business to ask and get into those details. Only when the relation established further.

[UnknownReflection]

You're welcome. :)

[Zinkster9O1]

Depends who you ask. I'd just find it awkward. Not rude.

[Asker]

I understand, I don't want to make it awkward either.

[Felicia5567]

I mean are you dating and about to have sex? Because that seems to be the only appropriate time to ask her that. Or if you're religious and virginity matters to you in potential life-long relationships.

But don't ask a girl you're not dating and will not have sexual relations with, it's none of you're business lol

[Michelle1992]

Yes it's rude. It's not your business to know. It's a private thing for all the girl. Unless your in a relationship with the girl i feel you can openly talk about that. If not don't ask.

[Asker]

I know it's not my business to ask, but I'm a virgin myself and I kinda want to know if she's one, before I take another step you know.

[Adam7890]

Cry louder.
I don't want a sold out as wife in my family.

[bloodyrevenge]

It depends on the girl. Some girls are really shy about such a personal question while others are very open.

Just approach the question casually and try not to make it to awkward.

[Asker]

Ohh, ok being casual about it, makes it less awkward. Thanks

[bloodyrevenge]

Basically dont make a big deal out of it. Good luck!

[cocaths]

Well if you're in a relationship with her it's fine otherwise not

[Asker]

It's not a girlfriend and boyfriend relationship yet, but we're flirting a lot and I kinda want to know, not to be like a playboy kinda guy. But i'm a virgin myself and I want to know if she's also a virgin before I take the next step.

[cocaths]

Oh alright well if you're a virgin maybe you should be in a relationship first especially if it seems she's interested too.

[Asker]

I understand, thank you.

[Adam7890]

Yeah first contaminate yourself with a girl who slept around and then you can ask if she is virgin or not.

[thecutejhanvi]

I don't mind. But it actually depends on how open the girl is and how close is she to you.

[Asker]

Thank you.

[Punch25]

No I don't think so, but depends on the person who asks

[Gwiz182]

I keep get whacked for asking their age, what to speak of. virginity. That's totally on a different next level..

[luckygirl2003]

Its ok but you have to try not to offend her

[BleepRawrsaurus_Rex]

It can be

[disgustingweebtrash]

Not rude