What do you think about your partner having an opposite sex best friend? (Page 3)

Question

While it's great when you're single it's a problem when you're in a relationship, so Does a long term opposite sex friendship pose à threat to your relationship with your significant other? Do you get insecure and jealous and set boundaries between them or you just try to act cool?

mjsbiggestfan1997 · Answer

If you trust your partner, them having friends of the opposite gender shouldn't be an issue, but if it is an issue for you, you might be insecure. Controlling who your partner is friends with won't end well.

babygirlash1 · Answer

Girl I'm having the same problem but my boyfriend insists it's just a friend no matter how much I hate it I can't force him to block her so just go on his phone and look at his messages with permission of course I do it and it keeps trust in the relationship

Sorathevilone · Answer

I would love to have a best friend guy would be so much fun and if my boyfriend had a problem with it then I'll tell him straight my friends are my friends you don't like it there is he door

h3llb3nt · Answer

this is definitely a difficult one because i've always believed the "best friend" status requires some level of intimacy (even if not necessarily romantic) so it's hard to have a best friend of the opposite sex and not have some feelings that would cause issues in a romantic relationship. that being said, i'm sure same-sex relationships deal with this all the time!

Mariouch · Answer

Shouldn’t your significant other be your “best friend of the opposite sex”? If you feel closer friends with another person of the opposite sex besides your mate, then you might as well call that other person your significant other instead.

LordOfAdventure · Answer

I have several very close friends of the opposite sex and even the though of having sex with one would be like doing it with my sister. While some girls would have a tough time handling it, I honestly have a hard time relating to the average guy and most my friends are women. For the few men friends I have, they are few and far between I honestly couldn't have a relationship with with a very jelous woman

Sleepyzombie · Answer

It might be nieve of me, but I'd be fine with it. In my mind it would only be a problem if my partner refused to introduce us or was ditching me for her.

A5KM3 · Answer

As long as they know their limits and boundaries, the person in a relationship make sure that his/her partner is more important then its fine and that friend respects that.

AwkwardlySarah · Answer

Depends!! If I've met her and know how things are, I'd totally be okay with it. Otherwise I might be a bit fearful but I won't tell him n make a deal out of it.

TheOnlyAriii · Answer

Nah my boyfriend grew up with some girls that I totally trust him around. Some people become family. It's weird if I get jealous of his siblings, yenno?

BeastyPanda · Answer

Well if she's a friend for a long time , i knew my partner finds perfection in her in a different perspective , id still be jealous Yes, but i won't set boundaries cause they should both know their limits, after all she came into his life before me , she's been there for him before me Ill just show how grateful i am for that but i wnt be controlling him... Loving doesn't owning a person

taleswapper · Answer

I encourage it. Can't have too many friends. Plus, i don't find the idea of her indulging in extramarital sex off=putting. Sex isn't a zero-sum game. In my experience, the one's you allow the freedom to stray are the ones most likely to return.

soupfairy · Answer

I have a long term best male friend. honestly, it causes problems sometimes, but idc. bros before hoes is still a thing, my best friend is going to be there when a new boyfriend is long gone.

Troleckh · Answer

Best friends talk about everything and may be the possibility of sex. Sex not being attached to a compromise, as some girls and boys are not attached. That then may be good friendship. Or in the other hand talk about the urge of being with the special one.

Sleepy32 · Answer

Most of my friends have been women and are women that I've seen nothing but friends. I'm not in a relationship, but if my SO had a major problem with it then it wouldn't work out. I personally don't think I'd get jealous.

anuragk033 · Answer

nope i don't care about anything, i believe in my love and there is a reason i love her, i trust her and even if she wants to go it will be painful for me but i won't stop her because her happiness is mine 😊

Khzir · Answer

It's 100% okay to have an opposite sex best friend. It only matters if there is romantic/intimate attraction between the two. If you feel jealous or insecure, do not hide that feeling. Talk to your partner about it and express why it makes you feel that way.

potatoisme · Answer

It's fine as long as it's really just friendship 😊 My boyfriend does have female friends and best friends and I'm completely ok with it, I don't mind at all

Komsur · Answer

Depends. My ex had a guy friend who was literally the biggest third wheel ever. He invited himself to EVERY date we went on and wouldn't leave and just followed her around like a stalker.

She actually stopped talking to him for a while and he sent her a message that said "so you'd rather talk to Alex than me?". Like, duh. I was her boyfriend you were some creep.

Otherwise, it's fine.

vonjoua · Answer

I have guardrail in place for myself, not because I am the type whip would cheat, but because I don't want to put myself in a position of temptation, or allow the perception that I am unfaithful. I avoid ever being alone with the opposite sex other than my partner. I would how my partner would have similar standards in place for herself, not for lack of trust, but for commitment to each other

cth96190 · Answer

I do not mind, or care. She can either be trusted, or she cannot be trusted.

centaur31 · Answer

I agree with the quote above by Tony A. Gaskins Jr. I don't mind it really but have seen it is always the way that Mr. Gaskins Junior has described. That creates issues.

JDavid25 · Answer

I would be coo wit it as long as I knew him.. Plus, I wouldn't want to get in the middle of their friendship.. Although, I really wanna be her best friend first before any other guy..

icedragoom · Answer

If my girl had another guy friend I would like to know if he is dating some one and or if he was gay if there is a yes to either of those I have no issue of there is a no then we got a problem

sodaseven · Answer

If you are feeling uncomfortable with it maybe you should discuss it with your partner. Since not all of his opposite sex friends going to make you feel this way right?

melanieeeB · Answer

No problem with that lol   I do have a few male friends and I wouldn't drop them for any guy, not happening

LydiaRose1110 · Answer

Well the fact that your partner isn't your best friend is your first problem. Woman was made to be man's Companion.

studDMuffF1n · Answer

It's never good she has some one to compare to all the time. For example, why can't you be more like such and such, she can grow as a person with him but come home to you. Which isn't going to end well.

Gavyn · Answer

I would trust my partner, but I don’t trust the other person and I don’t trust where they could go if they ever got into a situation where the temptation was there. So, I still don’t think it’s a good idea.

born2lose · Answer

Doesn't bother me. I have female friends. But that kinda insecurity and jealousy is a turn off. I'm not gonna cut off a long time friend I've known longer than my partner because they think I might cheat. It's a red flag for me

whydoyouask · Answer

I agree with Mr Gaskins Jr. Its a dangerous situation. Especially if you and your friends have a sexual history. If its totally platonic, more power to them, but you must put your partner first. How do they feel?

Anonymous · Answer

Liking someone as a friend (even if you are attracted to them) doesn't mean that you would consider dating them. For someone to be your partner, there should to be much more than just attraction. If they have been friends for a long time and didn't start dating, the friend should not be perceived as a threat.

Anonymous · Answer

Some people believe you can't be friends with the opposite sex. Sure people do cross the line, but 9 times out of 10 it's the other partners insecurites

kxnzie9674 · Answer

This.

Solias · Answer

It wouldn't be an issue with me I can keep friends and lovers separate, even if my friend was considerably more attractive.

Wonder89 · Answer

I think old friends that you’ve never dated are fine but sudden new girl friends aren’t good.

derek2017 · Answer

I personally don't give a shit its the same thing anyways unless you have some kind of sexual attraction towards her

AzureGirl · Answer

I don’t see a problem with it. A friend is a friend. Gender shouldn’t matter.

_JobiSan · Answer

Don't play with fire is right, all I'm saying is shouldn't you be your partner's bff otherwise why you with that person

Mikey_Ramone · Answer

I'm kinda jealous sometimes when the girl I like she'd talk to the other dudes. But, as long as she still focuses on only me then no problem at all. Let her have a private moment. I won't disturb her.

Browneye57 · Answer

No such thing. One or the other will ALWAYS want more.  No, have couples friends, have your girl friends, he has his friends. If you have a guy friend next you'll be having an affair. Promise.

VeryConfused987 · Answer

If I love someone I'll trust them. Most of my friends, including my best friend, are women, so she'd have to return it.

rskinney · Answer

If you're wise enough, you can spot a cheater pretty easily. If you have a loyal partner, no need to be jealous of any of their friends (male or female).

BlackieJ · Answer

I guess it would depend on how much you trust your partner unless it's another couple then sure but no I wouldn't like it

xerosagas · Answer

The majority of my friends are opposite sex as are some of my closest friends, and it's never been a problem apart from one particularly jealous girlfriend. It's understandable to feel that way.

Futron · Answer

Trust your partner. Even if it's hard. I would hope that the 3 of us could be good friends. It'd help me trust her if I knew her.

Anon85 · Answer

I think it's possible but it should be avoided. Like the quote says, it's better to just keep yourself from being in that situation in the first place

Captain_goalpost · Answer

Doesn't bother me at all. If they haven't been physical in the past and have been good friends for a long time, I see no problems with it.

KingJoe88 · Answer

Well i have 3 best friends, they are all females... So if the girl i date doest like it, she can leave. Idc. My best friends are like my sisters and if my girlfriend dont trust me then we have nothing and she can stop wasting my time

jwstox · Answer

I'm friends with a girl but my closest friends don't mind too much. Only downside with this opposite gender friends thing is I usually get picked on for being friends with her... (Yr8 so people haven't yet matured)

Bandit74 · Answer

Depends on what he looks like, what his personality is, and whether or not they have hooked up in the past.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd gauge it, if they are hanging out all the time or oddly close than i'd talk about it with your SO and try to set some boundaries, but you have to have some trust.
If the guy has a girlfriend already i'd personally be less worried, but i'd err on the side of caution if she's acting out of ordinary.

kmanpreet · Answer

I would say it depends how attractive the other guy is. If he is then if hate him lol. If not then I'd just be a little cautious.

zahriawalker · Answer

I don’t hate it until I sense something more in the background.

TiredMonkey · Answer

I wouldn't trust a guys intention with my SO. I know men's thought processes, he would not see her the way he sees his male friends.

askmegirlagain · Answer

No harm or judgement but it becomes a problem when you notice your partner is weak in maintaining healthy boundaries in life.

SweetgirlNS · Answer

Would not bother me. She can have all the BF’s she wants - she’s a lesbian. lol

r4ngeF · Answer

Every girlfriend I had.. Had a best friend from opposite sex. Most of the women I had got along with men more than women.

ashishreddy · Answer

It is based on how much trust you can provide to your partner in your relationship...

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