bro a fear a weekness I have a fear of spiders and I willl never get over it... but a fear of giirls mmm that is a tough one
what I think is you think every girl is your mum there is always sick and twisted wimen out there some that will manipulate you in to thinking things,but there are others that love you for you I think if you find one that loves you you willl get over your fear
Hey dude. I was once afraid to even talk to girls. But I found that the reason I was afraid of them was because I thought they wouldn't accept me, Because I fealt bad about myself unnatractive ect. But what's interesting is that I found if you don't go for your goal you can't hope to achieve them so if you want a girl go for it if she doesn't want you the worst she can do is tell you no then move on, there are more girls on this world than you can imagine dude, just be confident in yourself.
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Not all women are the same.
Think of it this way!
You just said you had a fear that women think you are like the typical stereotype of men, think with their penis, etc.
Well, all men, like you, are not like that!
So whatever you think of all women, chances are most are not like that.
Just talk to someone about it, and don't be scared. There is someone out there for you. (:
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well a lot of it is self-esteem too...like maybe I DO think with my penis...maybe I am a stupid neanderthal who loves footbal and is inconsiderate of others...maybe I deserve the hatred that I feel towards women...maybe its my fault.
first of all, remember that women are not all evil and if they are mean to you, they are just human and not perfect... give them some slack, tell them you do not like them to "say" or "do" certain things, and hopefully they'll ask why and you'll be so kind as to tell them...
second of all, yeah I did not lose my virginity until marriage at 24 so it happens, you just have to wait and wait and wait, at 20 you should focus on school and a career.
didnt know there was a term for this. I have a bit of contempt for women across the board. mostly cause every single one I've dated used me financially, socially, etc, before cheating on me and running off. I have no trust in any woman at all. I'm done giving the benefit of the doubt to their gender. not worth it. I'd rather just go find a slut for a one night stand than continue treating them all with respect, love and dignity like I have. obviously that doesn't work.
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Therapy can help you let it, you never know until you try. As w everything in life, there is good and bad...and I feel like you are missing a piece of life. You never know if therapy will work unless you fully give it a try. Good Luck from a nice girl! :)
Hate to give it to you like this but suck it it up and be a man damn it, you shouldn't be trying to pick up girls online anyways go out make friends meet people.
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You poor thing. You need some counseling or this is gonna have life long repercussions on all of your relationships.. from your neighbor to co-worker, to friend and daughter. Please get help, there is nothing wrong w asking for help.
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Yea...i get along with girls at work and stuff...but like I never try ng et to know them..its kept strictly business..also I don't think ill ever have a daughter if no girl wants me lol just saying...i just worry therapy won't help...and honestly...i still believe that what I think is true to a large extent...i mean how could girls like a movie like that unless they were sadistic...sigh...but I guess I just have a warped point of view
For a long time, I was convinced that they were all lesbians. That got rid of it for me. If you're scared of a girl, just think of her as a confused/closet lesbian and you'll feel normal.
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bro a fear a weekness I have a fear of spiders and I willl never get over it... but a fear of giirls mmm that is a tough one
what I think is you think every girl is your mum there is always sick and twisted wimen out there some that will manipulate you in to thinking things,but there are others that love you for you I think if you find one that loves you you willl get over your fear
Hey dude. I was once afraid to even talk to girls. But I found that the reason I was afraid of them was because I thought they wouldn't accept me, Because I fealt bad about myself unnatractive ect. But what's interesting is that I found if you don't go for your goal you can't hope to achieve them so if you want a girl go for it if she doesn't want you the worst she can do is tell you no then move on, there are more girls on this world than you can imagine dude, just be confident in yourself.
Not all women are the same.
Think of it this way!
You just said you had a fear that women think you are like the typical stereotype of men, think with their penis, etc.
Well, all men, like you, are not like that!
So whatever you think of all women, chances are most are not like that.
Just talk to someone about it, and don't be scared. There is someone out there for you. (:
well a lot of it is self-esteem too...like maybe I DO think with my penis...maybe I am a stupid neanderthal who loves footbal and is inconsiderate of others...maybe I deserve the hatred that I feel towards women...maybe its my fault.
first of all, remember that women are not all evil and if they are mean to you, they are just human and not perfect... give them some slack, tell them you do not like them to "say" or "do" certain things, and hopefully they'll ask why and you'll be so kind as to tell them...
second of all, yeah I did not lose my virginity until marriage at 24 so it happens, you just have to wait and wait and wait, at 20 you should focus on school and a career.
just be positive and keep an upbeat attitude
you can always talk to a counsellor and sort out issues that way.
this is hard to over come but not all girls are going to bad and it's too bad your mom wasn't a good example and you should try to be more positive.
didnt know there was a term for this. I have a bit of contempt for women across the board. mostly cause every single one I've dated used me financially, socially, etc, before cheating on me and running off. I have no trust in any woman at all. I'm done giving the benefit of the doubt to their gender. not worth it. I'd rather just go find a slut for a one night stand than continue treating them all with respect, love and dignity like I have. obviously that doesn't work.
Therapy can help you let it, you never know until you try. As w everything in life, there is good and bad...and I feel like you are missing a piece of life. You never know if therapy will work unless you fully give it a try. Good Luck from a nice girl! :)
Hate to give it to you like this but suck it it up and be a man damn it, you shouldn't be trying to pick up girls online anyways go out make friends meet people.
You poor thing. You need some counseling or this is gonna have life long repercussions on all of your relationships.. from your neighbor to co-worker, to friend and daughter. Please get help, there is nothing wrong w asking for help.
Yea...i get along with girls at work and stuff...but like I never try ng et to know them..its kept strictly business..also I don't think ill ever have a daughter if no girl wants me lol just saying...i just worry therapy won't help...and honestly...i still believe that what I think is true to a large extent...i mean how could girls like a movie like that unless they were sadistic...sigh...but I guess I just have a warped point of view
So this happens to women too, we have the same fears and some have the same problems but some get over it.
i didn't even know such a phobia exists...!
anyways the way to deal any kind of fear is to FACE IT!
welcome to life my friend...shut the door on your way in .
For a long time, I was convinced that they were all lesbians. That got rid of it for me. If you're scared of a girl, just think of her as a confused/closet lesbian and you'll feel normal.
Yep I 2nd that most look like lesbians any way. But i do not mean that in a nasty way. But 90% of girls do not know how to dress.
So...you're consumed with fear?
How's that different from any other guy?
You're completely normal.
except I've never kisse a girl or had a gf
We're not so bad, give us a chance. Not all women want to hurt a guy...
Dude, I feel bad. How can you be afraid of girls?
I explained that above...not afraid in a sense "omg run! a vagina"...but afraid in a sense of bein trustful, resentful and a need to feel distant.
Go see a therapist
Most therpaists are women...I canrt tell how awkward that will be