Is it bad if my boyfriend doesn't want to go shopping with me?

Question

So there's this event coming up next week and my boyfriend needs my help to choose what clothes to wear So we went shopping today It only took half an hour to get all his clothes from one store So then after that, I said "lets go shopping for me" And he said "what? No. Its gonna take ages for you. All you girls take a day to go shopping. Go with your girlfriends" Then I got upset Is it bad if my boyfriend doesn't want to go shopping with me?

Alex31 · Accepted Answer

My jerk ex started shouting at me after I entered three shops instead of "a couple of shops" I mentioned I wanted to go to. If shopping is the only thing he doesn't deal with in your relationship, then it's okay. But if there are other moments where he doesn't show enough support and enduring either, then break up with him. Also, he could come shopping at least one in a while if you are already at the mall together, he wouldn't die of it. But again, if this is the only time you feel neglected by him, don't make drama.

Jaye234 · Accepted Answer

No guy wants to go clothes shopping with any girl- doesn't matter who the girl is.  Don't take offense to him not wanting to go, it'll be so boring for him. Get one of your friends to go with you.

yourdarksecretx · Accepted Answer

I can totally feel him. That's my girl Every weekend. She goes shopping and keeps me waiting for hours while she tries each and every god damn dress and is like "ohhh baby this looks good on me? "" and im like yeah yeah whateves.
You women take ages to try stuff lol.

Logorithim · Accepted Answer

Guys usually don't have any interest in shopping when it comes to buying feminine stuff that they can't relate to, but in this case he should have reciprocated.

englisc · Answer

No, most guys find shopping to be incredibly boring, whereas women tend to enjoy it. When men shop for clothes we're usually quickly in and out, we just want to get it over with because we have better things to do. Whereas women enjoy it so they take forever.

NickoN · Answer

I personally do not like going shopping with girls, they can never make their mind on what they like , they pick up the same item many times over, go back to it hundreds of times, buzz around the store in unbelievably difficult ways basically like chooks without heads, and for all the things they try or pick up to have a look, they finsh up with none or only few things.
And those things irritate most guys LOL
When I go to buy something I know exactly what i want and make a straight bee line for it, pick it up and go to checkout to pay, or if not sure where it is I ask a shop assistant to find it for me, and then proceed to pay for it and finish with my shopping. If going for grocery shopping I always have a list and spend minimum possible time in grocery stores.

Ben_Mark · Answer

I always enjoy shopping with my girlfriend. We make it a weekly thing to go to a random store and pick out an outfit for her. Sometimes we go twice a week. Instead of thinking it as a chore, think of it as a sexy game where you can both decide on what looks best on her.

GingerGuy · Answer

Guys aren't shoppers. We don't enjoy it at all (most of us anyway). I don't like shopping for myself even, never mind for someone else lol. Don't be too upset with him about this. We're all like this (most of us). Plus, we're not going to give you opinions etc that would be helpful either, not like if you had a girlfriend with you, because we don't care. We don't look at clothes the same way you women do (like they have to match, etc) lol.

Miristheiss · Answer

Yes and no. I agree with him. The most boring thing a person can do. That being said, I never said he should never go shopping with you maybe just not a lot AND it should be a short shopping excursion, not one of these 3-5 hour affairs. You shouldn't expect him to do it a lot nor for a long period of time but he should still do it from time to time because it is something you'd like him to do.

Welshman2 · Answer

I hate shopping and will do anything I can to avoid it. When I was with my ex, she'd go into the shop, get what she needed and then phone me when she was at the checkout so I could carry the bags.

Most men don't like shopping - it's no reflection on you or your relationship

winterfox10 · Answer

I can understand why you got upset, but his reaction isn't a reflection on you on your relationship with him. Women take a crazy long time to shop, it's more of a social thing for them. Just cut your guy some slack and have him make it up to you some other way.

RenegadeSailor · Answer

Shopping with a woman for a man is hell. It is boredom boredom and more boredom while we sit and wait for you to agonize your way through the decision making process.

I can buy a pair of shoes, 8 shirts and 4 pairs of jeans inside of 15 minutes.

At the end of that 15 minutes I already want out of the store!

Anonymous · Answer

OK I voted A but only if his plight is 30-60 minutes!
Beyond that even sports car shopping is a bore to guys

I get it that gals really need a more gay guy for things like this and some entertainment venues and probably better taste & company night go with that, even better than GFs

Sooooo most long term deals find mutually attractive things to do outside the bedroom... focus on that, not this

MajorEasy · Answer

I don't go shopping with my girlfriends...

We can go to the mall together but she goes shopping... I'll find a place to have coffee or a bookshop to read a bit...
It's been like this for the last 8 girlfriends...

Caaarl · Answer

Would you do something you find equally boring to you? Like shop for sports equipment for hours or something else? I don't know why you would drag someone to a place they don't enjoy at all and wouldn't be of any help either.

AtLeast3GendersExist · Answer

You shopped with him. For pure fairness, he should shop with you for the same amount of time: you can shop together for you for about an hour, then if you take longer, he can go wait outside.

Losalt · Answer

A lot of men (me included) and some women *hate* shopping with a passion... Would you *really* want him to be there with if he's just going to be misserable?

Anonymous · Answer

If it had been me, I would have said it a little nicer. i would have said no still, but what I would have said was "I don't want to do it with you because, I would rather you surprise me when time comes.. there's nothing like seeing a girl walk down the steps, as we wait for her, and see her in her dress for the very first time. Sorry, i sound like a romantic, but, it's true

alice55 · Answer

Men hate doing shopping (most of them) and I can totally understand him. I personally love shopping but with some people it can become horrible and if you don't like crowds / noises it's even worse.

Julia420 · Answer

Most guys hate shopping. It’s the last thing they want to do. Maybe he should have stayed just to entertain you but I can understand why he didn’t.

AyushMate · Answer

Guys don't like to go to shopping with girls. That's universal truth😂😂😂

GREY6 · Answer

It do usually take ages but it doesn't matter if he skips one time. If it happenes all the time than fuck his clothes

Zenurus · Answer

WHY would you want to go shopping who's already negative about it? Do you think he'd suddenly feel positive about it, or propably make it worse for you too?

DualityGreen · Answer

He should spend the same amount of time helping you shop. But, I can see why he wouldn't want to get roped into a multi hour shopping affair.

laddsk8er · Answer

^^^ we now have the plot to a new mission impossible. Lol jk

ABadger · Answer

No boyfriend you have ever had wanted to go shopping some were just better than lying than others, it is mainly because girls take 10 times as long to buy one item...

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Actually not about you. Men have tiny attention spans and being in a clothing store with nothing to do will make him stir-crazy. Let it slide.

Syrian_survivor · Answer

I'd always go shopping with my girlfriend tbh, would be fun and personally i like shopping and fashion xD Just means i'll spend more time with her ❤

Anonymous · Answer

Not all men want to go shopping, and women do tend to take a while. Me on the other hand, I'd love to go shopping with my girlfriend/wife if I were in a relationship. Get to enjoy time together.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes and no i see his point , sometimes people take forever to go grocery shopping.

Anonymous · Answer

Well he does have a point, but it's not good enough if he says 'you're going to take ages'. Unless he's been with you before and it's the truth

maxcates · Answer

I hate shopping and only do it if I really need to but I'd consider clothes shopping for an event important so I don't know.

BeHappy1985 · Answer

Perfectly normal.

Bachnalian · Answer

My personal favorite, "How does this look on me?" Oh the humanity, what should I say?

VaIiant · Answer

If you went shopping with him, it’s rather rude for him to do the same. He sounds like a selfish prick.

Anonymous · Answer

Going shopping with a girl Is like going swimming with someone who can’t swim.

Anonymous · Answer

His attitude was ridiculous especially after you helped him

ejazs · Answer

He says the truth to you, its not a matter, you have to force him to come with you

Walkerrose · Answer

Lol XD it's just not their thing :P

SodaInACardboardBox · Answer

maybe he doesn't like to go shopping

Jackblue · Answer

We get very bored shopping with women.

belowbreathing · Answer

Some guys just hate shopping so no

Ottis · Answer

He should reciprocate, but do guys hate shoping.

danny2774 · Answer

Do not make him go 😂

Surya_ · Answer

He should have his own space and time

Seppelson · Answer

No guy ever likes to go shopping with girls

jacquesvol · Answer

I too hate shopping

cupidkisses · Answer

You can go a

BonnieBunny · Answer

Well, he's not wrong

BOUNTYGUY9 · Answer

bad guy

Anonymous · Answer

is he paying?

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