Transparency in Relationships: What does that mean to you?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of 3 months expects me to be transparent with him. I have asked him what does that mean, but all he says is that he will tell me later. He has a very hard time trusting me and thinks that I'm messaging other guys and even have had other guys come over when I stay at my place - which I am not - and this has caused a lot of arguments between us.

I have been nothing but honest and loyal to him (really, I have). I have even told him about my past relationships, with more details than I probably should have. But he just can't move on and is constantly asking if I'm alone when he calls or if I had just come from a date or any other questions along those lines. He says that he's just asking or joking, but I'm just annoyed now. He feels that he has every right to asks questions of me and that I should be transparent with him. I feel that I have been transparent enough considering it's still a fairly new relationship. He even wants to have the keys to my place already. I have nothing to hide, but how can I trust that he won't overreact to the most innocent things?

So, what does transparency mean to you in your relationships?

[potatoismee]

Oh my that's not transparency, he's misusing the word.
Transparency means being honest about your feelings, thoughts, not hiding something that makes you uncomfortable, not hesitating to tell him things you wouldn't tell someone else, because you trust him and you trust you won't be criticized over it. And the same goes for him. Trust is really important in a relationship and he doesn't have that so he's misusing the word to control you. It's a toxic relationship and it won't end well.

[amityfan]

He sounds like a dick