If a guy (or girl) is putting on a show, that'll die off as the relationship progresses. If someone really cares for you, that will not die off. My 1st ex was super romantic, but after a few months a lot of the sweet things died off, he wasn't super into me. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and its almost exactly how its been from the start. The sweet texts and talks still happen.
It's simple, since dating has been set up as a courting process where men win women over, the extra effort stops after they win the woman over. All this extra shit is reinforced by romance movies/novels and media in general, it's unrealistic to keep up forever and unnecessary. You should learn to appreciate the little everyday things a man does for you.
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Because they are still trying to win you over in the beginning. Once they know they have you then they feel like they don’t need to put forth as much energy into being romantic. Not all guys are like this.
Guys are romantic at first to lure you in, get past your defenses, and get you used to being with them. Once they have you, the romance slows down and usually ends.
Would you sleep with a guy that just told you he wanted you to come home with him, takeoff your clothes, spread your legs and let him have sex?
Or over time roses, cards, dinners trips, and special times together build your feelings with him, so when he kisses you, you melt in his arms and sex just happens?
Because we fall in love. Being "in love" is a mental state caused by hormones. A guy makes decisions based on hormones and all those happy emotions at the start of the relatonship. It wears off as the hormones wear off. It's not a fun answer but it's how love works at least in the sense that most people mean love.
They get comfortable with you and no longer put in the same energy they had to use to get you. Once that have you most guy just no longer try, it becomes a chore to them. It's rare to find a guy that continuously puts in that effort after he's comfy with you
Because nobody understands what love is. They think love is during the infatuation stage. So ALL people are romantic during that stage. Why do they change? because when infatuation is gone, the seeds of real love get planted. Real love is boring and raw and not magical... unless the seeds are watered. They will grow into a big trees maybe a forest of love that’s more magical than anything in the world and lasts an eternity. The catch is: you just have to water it, And most people dont
Because they are trying to impress you well enough to get laid.
Because they already got laid so they don’t need to impress you anymore.
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Dang! So many butt hurt gals here. Well I want to talk to a certain anonymous 18-24. Not all men are alike. Same goes for girls too. Every person is different. While you whine about his behaviour, what have you done to keep this relationship going? Are you ignoring him? If yes, then, ofc he will eventually give up and start looking somewhere else. Its a two way thing ladies. Put some god damn effort from your side too.
They don't change, the situation does. Getting to know someone and realizing they like you is exciting.
My opinion is that guys don't require as much romance, but if you feel that way, then doing something special and spontaneous can surprise guys.
If you want more romance, then be more romantic yourself and it will be reciprocated. The worst thing you can do is tell someone to be romantic since the effect is the opposite of what you want.
Because they realize their woman is taking them for granted, doesn't appreciate stuff anymore and instead expects a lot and gets angry when they don't do stuff for her, while the whole time she doesn't think of doing stuff for him because a guy's feelings usually don't matter much to women. Many women hardly ever do stuff to make the guy feel cared about. They think sex is all they need to do.
Pretty much all the guys have said it. Many times women stop being romantic just as much. Sometimes we like a girl to put some thought into it too instead of just leaving it all up for us to decide but for you to be hopefully impressed.
You can have a conversation with him about it for starters, secondly, most of that may initially be fueled by lust and then once y'all are over the attraction phase its time to try to be compatible as partners more than anything but that's just how I feel about it and it can differ per person
They don't change really not more than women do anyway There is the exciting new relationship phase that invariably gets replaced by every day life and normalcy phase New love hormones in overdrive neurochemicals all out of whack at first But go back to their normal state after a while You may see far less romantic gestures in the latter phase but those you see probably are far more sincere
I have never changed The mood does. Think of it this way, whe. You meet someone you know little about him or her. The more you learn about each other the more the relationship evolves. So no one is changing. Its the comfort level that changes. If you want that romantic level back you might need to shake things up a bit. It takes two to tango. So make them dance.
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He puts in a ton of effort, she shows no appreciation or reciprocation, he figures out that the effort isn't worth it and tones it down.
How many of you ladies have gone the extra mile to show him how much you appreciate his romantic gestures? The common attitude is that he's supposed to do everything he possibly can with no expectation of anything in return.
If you have a guy who is romantic in the beginning then changed.. he was probably using it as a strategy and pretending. It's really not his personality.
Because it’s new and fresh and honeymoon phase.. women go they that phase but not quickly they stay in that phase for longer.. men gets over very soon.. that’s y there should be other things in relationships that keep it interesting
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If a guy (or girl) is putting on a show, that'll die off as the relationship progresses. If someone really cares for you, that will not die off. My 1st ex was super romantic, but after a few months a lot of the sweet things died off, he wasn't super into me. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and its almost exactly how its been from the start. The sweet texts and talks still happen.
It's simple, since dating has been set up as a courting process where men win women over, the extra effort stops after they win the woman over. All this extra shit is reinforced by romance movies/novels and media in general, it's unrealistic to keep up forever and unnecessary. You should learn to appreciate the little everyday things a man does for you.
Because they are still trying to win you over in the beginning. Once they know they have you then they feel like they don’t need to put forth as much energy into being romantic. Not all guys are like this.
Very true
Guys are romantic at first to lure you in, get past your defenses, and get you used to being with them. Once they have you, the romance slows down and usually ends.
Would you sleep with a guy that just told you he wanted you to come home with him, takeoff your clothes, spread your legs and let him have sex?
Or over time roses, cards, dinners trips, and special times together build your feelings with him, so when he kisses you, you melt in his arms and sex just happens?
Because we fall in love. Being "in love" is a mental state caused by hormones. A guy makes decisions based on hormones and all those happy emotions at the start of the relatonship. It wears off as the hormones wear off. It's not a fun answer but it's how love works at least in the sense that most people mean love.
They get comfortable with you and no longer put in the same energy they had to use to get you. Once that have you most guy just no longer try, it becomes a chore to them. It's rare to find a guy that continuously puts in that effort after he's comfy with you
Not just men. Women do this too. It’s called taking your partner for granted, and it’s the cause of most discontent within relationships.
It's not. It's not normal for a relationship to be romantic constantly. That's a fantasy built up in women's heads from the media they consume.
I agree with her.
Wow, thanks for admitting this isn't something exclusive to men!
Because nobody understands what love is. They think love is during the infatuation stage. So ALL people are romantic during that stage. Why do they change? because when infatuation is gone, the seeds of real love get planted. Real love is boring and raw and not magical... unless the seeds are watered. They will grow into a big trees maybe a forest of love that’s more magical than anything in the world and lasts an eternity. The catch is: you just have to water it, And most people dont
Absolutely beautiful explanation
@Hello1216 i know right
Because they are trying to impress you well enough to get laid.
Because they already got laid so they don’t need to impress you anymore.
Dang! So many butt hurt gals here. Well I want to talk to a certain anonymous 18-24. Not all men are alike. Same goes for girls too. Every person is different. While you whine about his behaviour, what have you done to keep this relationship going?
Are you ignoring him? If yes, then, ofc he will eventually give up and start looking somewhere else. Its a two way thing ladies. Put some god damn effort from your side too.
They don't change, the situation does. Getting to know someone and realizing they like you is exciting.
My opinion is that guys don't require as much romance, but if you feel that way, then doing something special and spontaneous can surprise guys.
If you want more romance, then be more romantic yourself and it will be reciprocated. The worst thing you can do is tell someone to be romantic since the effect is the opposite of what you want.
Because they realize their woman is taking them for granted, doesn't appreciate stuff anymore and instead expects a lot and gets angry when they don't do stuff for her, while the whole time she doesn't think of doing stuff for him because a guy's feelings usually don't matter much to women.
Many women hardly ever do stuff to make the guy feel cared about. They think sex is all they need to do.
Pretty much all the guys have said it.
Many times women stop being romantic just as much. Sometimes we like a girl to put some thought into it too instead of just leaving it all up for us to decide but for you to be hopefully impressed.
You can have a conversation with him about it for starters, secondly, most of that may initially be fueled by lust and then once y'all are over the attraction phase its time to try to be compatible as partners more than anything but that's just how I feel about it and it can differ per person
Guys have to try EXTRA hard to woo you initially.. because that is how gals are conditioned to be shown that a guy takes her seriously.
The "phony" part is the beginning! The post-honeymoon phase is the real version of the guy. :-D
They don't change really not more than women do anyway
There is the exciting new relationship phase that invariably gets replaced by every day life and normalcy phase
New love hormones in overdrive neurochemicals all out of whack at first But go back to their normal state after a while
You may see far less romantic gestures in the latter phase but those you see probably are far more sincere
I have never changed
The mood does. Think of it this way, whe. You meet someone you know little about him or her. The more you learn about each other the more the relationship evolves. So no one is changing. Its the comfort level that changes. If you want that romantic level back you might need to shake things up a bit. It takes two to tango. So make them dance.
He puts in a ton of effort, she shows no appreciation or reciprocation, he figures out that the effort isn't worth it and tones it down.
How many of you ladies have gone the extra mile to show him how much you appreciate his romantic gestures? The common attitude is that he's supposed to do everything he possibly can with no expectation of anything in return.
If you have a guy who is romantic in the beginning then changed.. he was probably using it as a strategy and pretending. It's really not his personality.
Because it’s new and fresh and honeymoon phase.. women go they that phase but not quickly they stay in that phase for longer.. men gets over very soon.. that’s y there should be other things in relationships that keep it interesting