My boyfriend Unexpectedly Came While We Were Dry Humping?

[Anonymous]

Ugh, okay, even posting this anon I feel bad about it. I wanted this to stay between my boyfriend and I, but I just need to rant/get advice about this. All I can ask is that you're nice and respectable in the comments please!!

My boyfriend and I were making out for a while before we started dry humping (gross to some, but it's what happened) and all of a sudden my boyfriend came. We had our clothes on but I could feel the wetness through his shorts. He wants to wait until marriage to have PIV sex, so this is the first time something like this has ever happened. He's open with me and has said he can control himself until I leave if we're fooling around, but this time he just couldn't.

After he was finished, the first thing he said was that I'd have to grab his other pants. He didn't seem embarrassed about it or anything along those lines, and I didn't act any differently I just told him I'd grab them. After he changed he kind of implied what had happened so he brought it up. I didn't want to because I was unsure if he'd feel weird or not, but he seemed really comfortable. I'm not sure if he knew I felt it or if he just assumes I knew what happened because of him saying he needed to change his pants. He was kind of like, "you know what I'm talking about." and I still wasn't sure if he was going to become embarrassed so I just said jokingly, "no and I'm not sure I want to" which he laughed at so his feelings weren't hurt by that.

I'm not weirded out at all, I'm glad he's so into me, but I was just surprised. It turns me on but at the same time I'm surprised! Has this happened to anyone else? He hasn't brought it up since (only happened yesterday), just said he had a good night today. We're comfortable and open talking about sex, but this is the first time it's happened so I'm just not really sure what to do! I think I'm just still surprised because I didn't expect it. Plus he never asked me if I had had the "big O" so he got to fi

[Kyren]

This is a pretty common thing to happen to couples at least once in their life if not more. There may be certain days when a guy feels really intimate and/or horny with you and super sensitive to the point where ejaculating can happen, even with clothing on! He probably got caught up in the moment and fantasized about you so intensely that he couldn't hold it in anymore and let it loose.

I've had this happened once with my girlfriend before we ever had sex. I was hugging her from behind and felt a little bit of sexual temptation by dry humping her. She didn't mind it one bit since she knew I was in the mood. Before I knew it, I started to feel horny and rubbed myself on her until I came! She was very flattered by the idea that I was so turned on by her yet respectful enough to not initiate sex with her until she was comfortable enough to do so.

He probably still feels embarrassed about the incident but I'm happy you liked it since that's a healthy sign of affection! Dry humping happens quite a bit but for a guy to ejecuate from it is uncommon. This is something completely normal and nothing to worry about! If it does happen again, you'll know why :)

[Asker]

Thanks so much! It can be hard to know what he’s thinking and since he didn’t mention it after it happened, I just didn’t know how to feel about it. He’s said this happens to him all the time, but it’s never happened when I’ve been around so I was kind of like a deer in headlights while he handled it well, which he should cause there’s nothing wrong with it.

[Kyren]

He probably didn't know how you would react to the situation since you wanted to hold off sex. If you both liked it a lot, just openly talk about it with him! He feels comfortable enough around you; he might just want closure from you to ensure what is considered appropriate to you so nothing awkward happens!

[Asker]

Okay this helped so much, thank you for everything!!

[Kyren]

You're very welcome! I wish you and your boyfriend a happy and healthy relationship for years to come :)

[scottalanmiller]

This happens to loads (pun intended) of couples. especially those attempting to wait! So some things for you to understand...

1) This is NORMAL. VERY, very normal. Super normal. Neither of you should be embarrassed or worried.

2) Guys do NOT have control of that, especially not guys that haven't had loads of sex. And never do you have full control, just better control. This isn't his fault nor yours, it's just something that happens because he really, really likes you. It will also happen, possibly, while he's asleep and no one can be at fault for something while you are asleep!

3) You should think of this in only one way... hugely complimentary. He didn't even have to have sex with you or even halfway have sex with you or even be naked and you got him THAT excited! Good job, you go girl! Instead of "is this okay" you should be like "hell yeah, I've got it goin' on!"

[Asker]

Thanks so much for your help! I still think I’m just surprised because it caught me off guard. I’m still in that mindset a bit of “did that happen?” And not in a bad way, like I said, just surprised. It’s never happened before but he’s used to it so he was totally comfortable with it where I was like “uhhh what do I do?”

[scottalanmiller]

Or he just handled it well. Remember many guys are quite logical and if he thought through the situation, there was nothing bad that happened, no call for embarrassment or worry.

Honestly, no reason you should worry about it and, if anything, why not attempt to make it happen again! Clearly he enjoyed it, that cannot be denied. And it is super flattering for you. Might as well actually make that more of a goal.

[scottalanmiller]

Also, worth mentioning, I've had a girl dry hump me pretty hard before and comment that she couldn't believe that I had NOT cum from it. So apparently she'd done it a bit and guys often cum that way with her. So definitely a thing that some girls attempt to make happen.

[Asker]

Okay, true! And you’re right, it’s not bad so that’s probably why he didn’t get uncomfortable. I wasn’t either, like I keep saying, just surprised! Should I attempt to talk to him about it? Not sure what I’d say or how I’d bring it up

[scottalanmiller]

Well, I would first decide what you want. If you want to avoid it in the future, don't talk about it. It needs nothing further said.

But if you want to make it more comfortable, you could tell him... "you know that thing that happened accidentally... maybe it shouldn't be an accident this time..."

[Asker]

Goood idea!! You’ve helped more than you know, thank you so much!!

[scottalanmiller]

Well awesome, glad to help out.

[kingdong1]

This recently happened to me I think I was just super horny and you are gorgeous and you are rubbing against me I would have done the same do you ever do other foreplay

[Joker8]

It's normal, sometimes when your so attracted to someone just them sitting in your lap can make up you cum... but don't let this make you both lose control... if you both decided to wait until marriage for sex then stick with your decisions

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VLnWf1sQkjY

[Asker]

this made me laugh so hard, thanks!

[Opinion Owner]

My pleasure xD

[ItsTimmy787]

How old u guys

[Asker]

He’s 18 and I’m 17

[ItsTimmy787]

He has low endurance if he came just from a little grinding

[Asker]

well it was building up haha, we were doing more

[ItsTimmy787]

Was it a lot or a little bit like a lot as in weeks of build up?

[Asker]

no, like an hour or so haha

[ItsTimmy787]

Yo what is ur username I need advice in something

[Asker]

melissashere

[ItsTimmy787]

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