Have you ever developed a romantic or sexual interest in someone who was already a good friend? (Page 2)

Question

So many people say that they want their SO to be their best friend but, if their best friend says "Hey, let's try to be more than friends, we often hear that cheesy line: "But I don't want to lose you as a friend." That seems to result in an automatic "urge to kill" for some of us. Sometimes, of course, it is a transparent excuse that your friend uses because they don't want to say, "But. . . I wouldn't have sex with you if you were the last guy on the planet." But, sometimes, I think people legitimately think that they want to hold on to the friendship and not take any chances. If you already have developed sexual or romantic feelings for your friend, can you simply ignore those feelings and remain in a purely platonic status? Ladies, will you be okay with hearing your guy friend talk about the new girl and how cool she is when YOU want to be the one at the center of his universe? Guys, how will you handle it when she inadvertently says something that reveals she spent the night with the new Mr. Wonderful? "How can she fuck that jerk?" you think to yourself. Girls, do you want to be there to receive an invitation to his wedding and watch him walk down the aisle with someone else? So, what do you do when you develop feelings for a friend? I think the friendship probably isn't going to continue if your feelings are rejected or spurned, so why not just go for it because a. if you lose the friendship, it was probably going to be lost anyway, but b. if you go forward and start dating and it works out, isn't that the best of all possible worlds? Have you ever been in this position? How did you handle it?

skateranon123 · Answer

My first girlfriend was like this and we ended up dating and well now we dont talk anymore so it kinda did ruin a childhood friendship.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah I have. We both did, but then after I blew him we drifted apart. Now we're friends with occasional benefits.

monicasagi · Answer

Well, I voted for C here. And yes I did and it did kind of sucked but anyways we are cool now plus I don't feel that way about him anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

With my cousin. It couldn't work out because we were related and she was underage but I was happy she let me be her first.

HaveNoName · Answer

Very nicely drafted poll. I have fallen into B many many times.

QueenofCups · Answer

I voted B. Great question!

Bismarck_96 · Answer

I revealed but she never wanted to date she just wanted me to be her fuck buddy

McKellar · Answer

& be in the friendzone all because I'm not their type? To hell with that noise.

PapaFranku · Answer

No, I have never developed a sexual or romantic interest in someone who was already a friend.

SarahsSummer · Answer

I voted E and learned better.

WildNekoWolf · Answer

I revealed my feelings to a friend and she turned me down but we remained friends. And then about 5 months later, my current girlfriend came into my life. And we've been happy ever since. So maybe it was for the best that my friend turned me down.

Anonymous · Answer

I developed a romantic interest in a good friend. For a long time I never told them. When I finally did, it didn't end well.

ivanhunterjo · Answer

I did in college but I never revealed it in case it ended badly for both of us

John13131 · Answer

I chose last on the list as it was closest, only difference is that it has always been them that has revealed their feelings to me.

Bruce_VVayne · Answer

No. I didn't stay friend with those I would have feelings. I told them I liked and I started dating

OldDad · Answer

I married her, but then she left.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Usually the other way around.

LifeEqualsLove · Answer

Yes stuff like that doesn't always work out

Piteka5 · Answer

Yes, so I decided to stay put and ignore it immediately

Jltakk · Answer

The only times i had really interest were with friends of mine. Didn't share the same feelings

Massageman · Answer

Yeah, it kinda sucked.

LonewolfMeme · Answer

C and D. I was happy with it.

LadyAvon · Answer

I think it depends on the friend.

douride2 · Answer

No it has never happened.

BHooper · Answer

None that I can think off.

Decentguy · Answer

yup, I hate my stupid feelings

Anonymous · Answer

No I'm not friends with guys in real life.

cuteness89 · Answer

No , prefer not to cross those lines

ChronicThinker · Answer

Nope.

ChloeStarfire · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

No never had friends cuz friends are for the desperate

RIVERTAY888 · Answer

no never

BronzedAdonis · Answer

I almost did

littleshady99 · Answer

Because its true

LeoMessiAndre · Answer

not at all if you do that you're a weirdo

Anonymous · Answer

Vote A

Slim57 · Answer

Yeah I have

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