Why doesn't my boyfriend take care of me when I'm hungover?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is a great guy in almost all aspects - funny, handsome, generous, good job, athletic, healthy, trustworthy, family-oriented - but this one thing really irks me!

If I'm hungover, his attitude is basically "self inflicted, no sympathy", and that I shouldn't have drunk so much.

He rarely drinks himself, and never more than two, so he's never had a hangover and doesn't know how bad it is.

What can I do?

[chrisbigman]

Are you sure he's never had a hungover? He may have had one, and promised himself to never drink that much again. Maybe he believes you should know better than to drink like crazy to the point of hangovers. Plus, you two aren't married. He doesn't HAVE to take care of you, especially regarding hangovers. Do you get hangovers often? If so, that would explain why. He got sick of taking care of you with your drinking problem. What I suggest to you is stop getting hungover. Don't drink so much. Just because you are old enough to drink, doesn't mean you should over-drink. Even healthy things you shouldn't over-consume.

[chrisbigman]

Thanks very much for one of the MHGO.

[mrbobz]

Not a lot i suspect, like he said you did it to your self... I am in my 30s and i been hungover maybe a handful of times in my life, i learnt early on its not fun the next day so i learnt when to stop. Only you can control this situation, you dont need to drink to excess to have fun.

[yucychan]

I think he knows how bad a hangover is, which is why he chose not to drink. On the other hand, you knew it's gonna be bad but still you did it anyway.
He could have thought that you asked for it yourself so why should he feel symphatize with you.

[XRabbitHeartX]

He is probably annoyed that you get drunk as you have different outlooks. He is not a drinker and you get drunk. Tbh I would also have little sympathy as someone chooses to want to get drunk which is unhealthy anyway. I do not get it.

[DivineMatriX]

He probably looks down on you for drinking irresponsibly aka too much. But he doesn't want to tell you to stop becuase your an adult and its your choice what you want to do to your health. Try to calm down on the heavy drinking and guarantee he will take care of you in ways you didn't think he would, mostly because it would make him proud of you. In return making you happier.

[wankiam]

he does have a point but the bigger issue here is what are you expecting him to do about your hangover? surely if you drink regularly you know the only way through is to ride it out and thats often better done alone

[Redstang88]

What exactly do you expect him to do? It’s a hangover, take a Tylenol and go back to bed.
And I agree with him. If you can’t handle the aftermath, don’t drink that much. At least don’t expect someone to babysit you after.

[luvstoned4him]

Well he is right and maybe he thinks if he encourages it you will never change and continue. He probably doesn't enjoy it

[boggboss]

People are made differnt he don't like entertaining your drunk ways by looking after u because u decided to drink too much

[Blondie80]

Stop drinking! It is very disgusting when a woman is drunk!

[name_is_eric]

Maybe because it's your responsibility to take care of yourself, after you drink too much.
Alcohol is not for everyone.

[debbiehong795]

it's because he doesn't like people who drink, he thinks you worth feeling hungover

[Sevenpointfive]

what do you consider as being taken care of? how much are you asking of him?

[howlyz]

Yes, what kind of treatment do you have in mind? Like a massage, sex, some specific type of food?

[LuWe22]

He has a point. You should not have drink so much, it was self inflicted so no sympathy. Drink responsible and you don´t have that problem.

[murdanyc916]

nuturing = a womans job. maybe he's just very manly and not gay

[admles]

What can you do?

Drink less. Act responsible.

You're welcome.

[WalterRadio]

"What can I do? "
Don't get drunk.

[EmmaMary]

Cut down on your drinking.

[slatyb]

"What can I do?" Seems obvious. Drink less.

[outside_Toronto]

What can you do? Stop drinking

[IntuitiveMuffin]

Break up with him what a jerk.

[Coachtom]

Just be careful if blackouts