Do you still feel for your early crush (s)?

[lightbulb27]

When you think of your crushes, the early and most substantial ones in life, do you still feel the same feelings? Can you identify those feelings?

Early childhood

Are they feelings of love (longing to be with), lust (desire for sex), friendship... still there? Or were they feelings of infatuation... they come and went?

For e, say of all these years, when I think back to the early crushes I had, my feelings are the same. Once they ignite, they don't die out. This is most true if I never got to know them at a personal level. I also have these feelings for prior GF's... as in, relationship may not work, but my feelings don't go bad for them, I still see them in their special light. I realized, I don't disconnect very well at an emotional level, I may be different.

Would it bother you if your GF/BF (committed) expressed there were still positive thoughts/feelings for past relationships? Feelings as in... I see them for their value to, positives, not that they intend to or want to go back.

[Genie23]

No, lol. I just laugh/giggle everytime I think of those days. I was only 6-7 year old shy girl who had a crush on a small boy named Rohit. I actually talked to other kids but the moment I used to see him, my cheek flushed and my tongue didn't seem to work. All I could do was nod and shake my head if he asked me anything and I used to look at him secretly but the moment he caught me looking at him, I just used to look down and he used to try to hide the fact that he was looking at me when I was writing in my book lol. Our hands accidentally touched when the teacher made us sit together at the class, I used to get scared. Now I just laugh at myself. It was one of the most funniest experience for me. 😂

I don't have feelings for him at all. It was merely a crush and we were kids. It's just a funny /sweet memory for me now, I've shared this with my ex even he smiled and found it funny and he shared about his.

[lightbulb27]

that's real cute. I'd call that infatuation... early feelings of chemistry/connection in a mind not yet formed. Ty for sharing the sweet memory. I wish we could ask him:)

[Genie23]

No, I'm pretty sure it was a crush I used to think about him a lot 😳 lol

Oops, I meant shy boy**

[Genie23]

And you're welcome :)

[Genie23]

Thank you for MHO!

[Cynicaldreamer]

Most of them are fleeting memories, or now that I'm older I know wouldn't have worked out.

There's one guy had a crush on in college, I still occasionally have fleeting thoughts about- not a lot, but say when I jump on Facebook every 3-6 months (if that) and see his feeds. I wonder what would have happened if we would have dated.

But he's way across the country now and if I'm not mistaken, dating someone, so meh, no point in thinking about "what ifs." Just have to live in the present, and learn from your mistakes.

[StingRayxoxo]

In 6th grade, I had a crush on this boy named Gustavo. He used to sit behind me in English class (he couldn't speak english) and he played with my hair. I can picture his face and I think back fondly but there are no feelings there.

[ChiTown33]

That's cute

[lightbulb27]

What a lucky kid! Gustavo's feelings I bet remain and he's married to a tall blonde! ... he had touch and sight... he was toast, probably failed that class. this is the classic dark complexion romantic latino and hot looking blonde.

Me I had a black dude with pee funk in his hair and a big affro, could barely see the chalk board and the aroma has never left my mind... lol! I still know his name although we only said 2 words. This is child abuse... being forced to inhale pee funk (doubt anyone knows what that is, you don't want to) and it resulted in falling behind a grade. I should have filed suite:)
but in HS I had a girl in front who had a really nice rear, so I guess that was God's way of paying me back for my suffering?:)?

[OlderAndWiser]

I would rather have a girlfriend who does not need to hate all of her exes, who can appreciate that it didn't work but that doesn't mean he was a bad person. However, I would also hope that she still has a very conscious awareness of why the relationship didn't work and that all of her appreciation for exes is done at a distance.

As for crushes, those are relationships that never developed. That means that your memories and thoughts about that person represent fantasies, not reality, and no real person can ever compare to your fantasy. . . but a fantasy will never keep you warm in bed at night.

There is a thin line that can be crossed when you will provoke the jealousies of your partner and you must always be mindful that your current partner is the one who is right for you NOW. Any expression of feelings for exes must be done in a way that does not make your current partner feel insecure.

[lightbulb27]

Fantastic points! Agree. I harbor love fantasies for sure. Ever have... how do you shake them?

[OlderAndWiser]

I kept reminding myself that harboring fantasies like that made me rather pathetic and I refused to see myself that way!!

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[GoodManDave]

My earliest ones, it depends on the girl. Some I have a sense of nostalgia about those feelings, but I recognize them as being silly crushes that wouldn't amount to much these days. The feelings of infatuation or whatever are gone. Some, while there may be some negative feelings (like after being hurt), there's no crush (10, 20 years removed), there's a disappointment still, but it's like an echo. I'm not hurting over my earliest crushes, even if they really hurt me back then.

[Piteka5]

I only fell in love hard once before my current situation, it ended no where but hell no, that girl showed herself to be terrible to a lot of people I know, and seeing her best friend crying in a corner because of her totally killed it for me. To me, she never did anything bad, but I can't stand people who it to others

[lightbulb27]

interesting... women can really be tough, very hurtful.

[Piteka5]

Yes, she was really sweet to me, even after I realized she wanted nothing with me, but seeing her being a jerk was a huge turn off, saved me a lot of suffering wich I suppose I would have had

[DeeDeeDeVour]

:) I'm about to marry the only super crush that I ever fell head-over-heels for in high school. <3

[lightbulb27]

ooo la la!!! thats exciting. tell us more in a mytake or whatever. very happy for you:)!

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Thank you. :) Maybe I'll do that.

[Karthik_1411]

I was aged 4 when I met n fall in love with my crush😊
We used to be my one n only bff 😄
I used to give gifts n she used to surprise me too...😆
Even our moms used to talk about arrangement for our marriage..😂
But when i shifted, I barely miss her after several years...😅

[Jesslin412]

He was my best friend. I miss him because I don’t don’t talk anymore

[lightbulb27]

it's hard to lose those best friends. so this was friend, not love not lust.. there are different types of connections, diff times of life. I get that... when you feel like you can talk and someone else totally gets you and accepts you as you are.

[The_Dean]

Used to have a massive crush on a girl back in 2nd and 3rd grade. She liked me too, and we even had a small faux kiss at that age.

She moved away, and when I see her at this current age, she has changed too much for the worse for me to want to reignite an old spark.

[DDpsy]

I still remember the first one. First day of school crush... had a thing with her 9 years later. . Can't remember her damn family name at all though.

[lightbulb27]

must have been one hell of a kiss to wipe out your memory bank!;)

[adolescentswede]

I feel strongest for my last crush. I can however feel an echo of every type of attraction i have experienced whether protective or lustful, curious.

[Mia_pearl]

Yes I do. I was a 12 year old girl a preteen when I had a crush on a boy. I still remember his face, voice, mannerisms and every time I think about him, I still feel those feelings. He’s probably married by now.

[GreenGold1992]

The first girl I ever had a crush on way back in high school, I liker her and tried to get close to her at first, but my feelings for her changed years later from infatuation to friendship. She went from a simple crush to one of my best friends.

[Balcazaurus]

For the girls, I remember them. Not fondly 'cause I never did anything about them. Especially in my late teens and mid twenties.

As for the guys, it always felt like a dirty secret. But I don't worry anymore.

[Snakeyes7]

Yes. It’s just so cute how one of them is pretty much married already and the other hardly acknowledges my existence.

[psychosam]

Nope, don't even talk to her anymore. Hadn't even thought about her for years until I read this question

[Anonymous]

I had my first crush when I was like four and I have absolutely no feelings left for him. I still see him every day.

[Davidkane]

Most definitely, just can’t let go, I’ll take it all the way to the grave

[red_knight]

I don't remember their faces and do not waste time on crushes as it will produce nothing but nothing

[Alesi]

Fondness and wistful for what could have been, but we aren’t the same people we were then and if it’s meant to be then it will be.

[Anonymous]

I’m a high school senior and if my freshman year crush asked me out I’d probably scream yes in a heartbeat. I don’t like any of my childhood crushes tho.. I got over them a LONG time ago.

[madhatters4]

i think fondly on it but my feelings are only that they are doing well

[Sweatyotterr]

Her name was sarah in 5th grade it was good times first kiss and all but i have not seen her since lol

[humanearth]

No, but I still think about her. My first crush was my high school English teacher.