How you make a man see you as “wife-material”?

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Just curios, when u meet a girl or start dating her, is it “yes she is totally wife material” “I can see myself with her long term” or is it something that grows? 🤔
on the other hand, do u date her and maybe not see her as “quality” but later on the timeline u go to “wow yes I can see my future with her now” ?
Or can u go from “lol nah she just girlfriend material, nothing more “ to “nvm, she wify”

sorry if im confusing, hope you get my question

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And if you say men can go from nah she ain’t it to she totally is. How does that even make sense?
How can u go from someone who hates tomatoes to loving tomatoes

JackSmy · Accepted Answer

I'm an old guy, so maybe you don't care what I say, or think. I take a lot of time, just dating, getting to know her! I like going places, and seeing how she reacts, and I want her to suggest things she likes, and maybe she is testing me, too!! Talking, A LOT!! Personal things, and when I really like her, and maybe think she is the one, I play the 'Alternative Advocate' AKA "Devil's advocate" to see how she responds when I say things I TOTALLY Don't believe!!
Does she challenge me, and question, and argue? YES, PLEASE!! Or does she just go along, and not stand up for what she believes-Bye, BYE to that!!
I need her to like some things I like, but also bring in new things, that I don't know!! I want to learn and grow, and we should offer that to each other!

markscott · Accepted Answer

I can only speak for me. For me, when I would meet a girl, I would not bother dating her unless she was wife material. Not to say my plan was to get a wife with every date, but that my standards for a woman I would date, were the same as what they were for wife material. When dating, as time went on, she would either more, or less, fit into wife material, depending on what developed in the relationship and what was revealed in her character and personality. Again, this does not mean I was wife hunting with every girl I dated, just that the criteria for one, was the same as for the other.

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

Good question lol...

I rememeber my first boyfriend in college said that to me.
Then my next boyfriend then became my husband. Also said that to me.
A few other guys as well... but I had no idea what they meant.

They all said I am wify material lol.. They saw how I was very loving/caring toward my family, and I also cared for my little sister throughout my teen/young adult life.
One who can take care of their offspring.

We are still quite primitive.
Man wants a wife (loving, caring)
Woman wants a husband (loyal, protective)

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I don't remember who said this but it was some ancient philosopher - he said if the woman is beautiful - she will make a good concubine and if she is virtuous - she will make a good wife.

Robertcw · Answer

It's not universal. It depends on each individual person.

For me, it's her charachter. I look for genuine kindness and empathy. But today, I think it's very hard.

It's very difficult to compete with the other guys. Especially with social media and apps providing easy access to people who are very attractive. Even if your going for IRL connections, as you get to know each other over the weeks she could potentially be using an app to make plans to netflix and chill on the weekends with other guys. Which could be painful if you're not doing the same thing.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Well it's a really difficult decision. Also, a lot of the time a girl starts out one way and ends up another. In fact, I would say women are constantly changing. Maybe thats better.

Guys wanna feel like they're with someone who they can trust, a little like a hand-rail made of properly cemented stone. Your trustworthiness needs to be akin to the hardness of a diamond. lol

It's about simplicity, and enjoying each others company and knowing how to communicate before things get out of hand.

mattdzz · Answer

A guy rarely chances his opinion on things, particularly a girls character, and that's what we're talking about: a girls character. IF she is from a good family, cares about them, is mature, has good morals (and has always, i. e. no "hoe-phase"), and carries herself respectably/ supports him, and has her own goals she is wife material.
Otherwise it's just bs rhetoric a guy will use because she's really attractive, but if that's the case (and the guy is ghetto) he's not gonna marry her.

Anonymous · Answer

It's something that grows over time. Also depends on the guy and his views on marriage in general. I've never had those thoughts because marriage isn't a priority to me. I don't believe you have to be married to live happily ever after, nor does it say ANYTHING about how much I love her, or how serious I am about her. Doesn't mean I'll never do it, it's just not on my mind and something "I have" to do. But if she's my girlfriend, there's always the potential of "wife-material".

MrCommodore · Answer

For me, the "Wife Material" thoughts are based on her character and personality, and usually are based around key questions like the following
1. Do we get along well and have common views etc.
2. Can I trust her, is she trustworthy?
3. Would she be a good mother?

I don't care too much about her past family life or career etc, not if she as a person is solid.

IIGrifterSixII · Answer

First of commit to the 3 Fs
Frack me , Feed me , Fix up the house

Understand Respect and Loyalty mean more than "love" Love is nice but to be loyal and respectful its the more solid foundation.

Embrace femininity and reject feminism.

Remember you catch more flies with honey than vinegar

Aethereal · Answer

If I'm interested in a girl (as in, I want to date her), it means I see her as "wife material". Spending time on someone I don't see a long-term future with is something I just can't do. It's a waste of time.

Anonymous · Answer

She has to be someone who makes his life easier and better. It's not just about love and support. If she makes life more complicated and stressful, she's worth nothing more than a fling.

cavmanier · Answer

Either of those scenarios can happen. I think way to make a guy feel that way is to be sexually attractive to him while him loving your personality and how you treat him.

Arct1c_Ch0k3 · Answer

Well if she loves me, has a job, works hard, respects me, dosnt cheat, actually lets me help her when she is upset. Then ill see her as wife material. But if i see the opposite of the stuff i mentioned (i have dated girls like this before) you are not gonna last long with me

GoodxGuyx · Answer

It's purely situational. An old fling of mine had made herself food and warmed up my leftovers without even asking. I thought "dam this is wife material." Little things like that.

RenegadeSailor · Answer

Improve on yourself, educate yourself, your looks will appeal to him sexually, your mind will keep him interested in you. You need to have both if you want to suceed.

winterfox10 · Answer

It's definitely something that grows on you with time. I'm not married, so I can't speak to what makes wife material, but I CAN tell you that honesty and genuine caring will go a long way to making you wife material.

FakeName123 · Answer

Loyalty, monogamic mindset, no promiscuity, feminine energy, mother instincts. You get the idea. All the things women are told to be bad nowadays

Truthatanycost · Answer

In this culture, there is no longer such a thing. Promiscuity and taking part in hookup culture in any way = not wife material.

jermaineatl · Answer

So my criteria and I think everyone is different. I really like kind/humble people so that's kinda a must and if we get along sexually that's wonderful too. If those two are good and you're attractive then I could marry someone like that.

YHL6965 · Answer

Anything that would make you a great housewife and mother will make you wife material basically, but only if you are a stable individual (relationship wise) with whom it is possible to build a long term relationship.

BadAnswers · Answer

you can't just SEE someone as Wife material , i thought i had that with my ex but guess what , that was only on the perfect moments and i think wife material needs to be when its on the good moments and maybe some in the bad too

osili · Answer

what i look for is someone who is there for me and the more time together i see and feel if i let here in to other areas of my life

Floyde-72 · Answer

Well, be there and support him actually be there for him even if he falls flat on his face. Sometimes all we need is to see is that your there, is that to much to ask!

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