When a woman pursues a man, is that wrong? (Page 3)

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Society and social rules for hundreds of years dictate the man is the one who must chase, woo and pursue a woman if he is interested in her because that is the polite and gentleman thing to do, but if the woman does the chasing and all those same things first, it could mean she may be desperate for a men´s attention and that ain't good. As the man is the one who must those things first.  What is the difference then if a man does it first than the woman does it first? So a woman can’t do the pursuing if she is interested in a guy because that is the man´s job? So if a guy is the one pursuing, there is also a chance the woman could not be interested isn’t it? Guys, if a woman does that first, will you feel bad and believe she is desperate for your attention? Or indeed there are guys who still in these days believe it is their duty to pursue not the woman?  I am not saying is bad if the man pursues first but a woman can do it too I believe. Lets take one example a man and a woman in their mid or late 40´s both single, no kids, neither one had been married before and in these days many women are bold, confident and pursue guys first, if you take that the woman is almost in their mid or late 40´s do you think she will behave like a teenager waiting for the grown up guy to go first?

BeMuse · Answer

That’s one of the tests… It’s a pretty simple pass or fail. If she’s not in it, she fails.

Truthatanycost · Answer

Women do go after the guy they want, they are just more indirect about it.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

No. It shows she is very interested and not jerking the poor sod around like a lot of women do.

Anonymous · Answer

I have an opinion - what on earth are these options? do you know how many question marks are in your passage - what am I agreeing to or disagreeing to. I want to write I don't think it's wrong that a woman pursues a man, but I'm not sure which button to press..

Belgie · Answer

You vary the question so much it's impossible to say what Agree means in this context.

Coryn-of-the-year · Answer

Darwinistically, women are the gatekeepers to sexual relations. I think that it would be wonderful, and wholly natural, for women to pursue men. When they feel like it.

Daylight7550 · Answer

I personally couldn't go along with a woman pursuing me. I'd instantly be suspicion of their intentions immediately.

Exorcist_Rampage · Answer

Disagree. Women should have the unction and proclivity to go after men she values is a great and wonderful fit for her in relationships that may lead towards marriage.

Avicenna · Answer

It's perfectly fine. I've seen some women do it really skillfully, too.

Anonymous · Answer

In todays age of false female victim culture... women SHOULD do the pursuing so that they don't have the excuse of claiming sexual assault when a male shows basic interest.

genericname85 · Answer

obviously no. if you want it, go and get it. if you don't do that, you have not understood what life is xD

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I think its wrong and thats the exact reason why a 40 year old man shouldn't date a 40 year old woman.

Anonymous · Answer

I think there are a lot of unhappy women out here because they waited for the guy to come to them and ended up with a charming loser.

AlexanderBrunnrgaard · Answer

Not wrong. But regardless there should always be a level of initiave on the man's part.

Ian849 · Answer

Of course it's not wrong, it's nice if the woman asks the man out, it's nice

Hazelstar · Answer

Women would be seen more as desperate if they try to pursue for a man.

kwaza · Answer

Not at all. I'm dating a lady now she was the one who pursued me, and I'm a kind of proud, and I loved her dearly.

Anonymous · Answer

Weak betas want girls to chase them cuz they either too lazy and stupid or they can't get any girl when they chase, pathetic soy boys.

alaska123 · Answer

Well I don't really feel liking humans and having feelings for them should be a gender based aspect ! It should always remain above the grounds of all sorts of discrimination!

Baobei · Answer

It's definitely not wrong, but it would never be my choice. Preferences are different.

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