Do you think the price of love is loss and pain?

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soleil2666 · Accepted Answer

Why would it be if you are emotionally available and healthy?

It is only pain if there is loss, and loss happens when the other person is unavailable (for any reason or number of reasons).

We must get away from 'saving' people who are unavailable (from themselves - so we can feel like mommy's good little rescuers/white knights or nurses) to forming relationships with people who ARE available and so WON'T disappear.

Granted, the therapy required for all those who are suffering trauma-induced unavailability needs to exist, and should be given when you can, but you always attract a person with a similar level of availability - so if you digest your own traumas and become available, you will find someone equally available.

The love&loss relationships serve only to remind you that you could be whole (and available to others as an attractive healthy person) IF you dealt with your past hurts so you can remain present in front of others interested, with all of your interest and affection readily available to be given (and who exactly doesn't like that - except those traumatised previously and scared of going there who need that care/understanding component more).

hollowo · Accepted Answer

Love is a gamble, where we seek good times and fear them bad times hoping those bad times don't ever get to us never.
Love could one the happiness they seek it could alse give one the gloom they never wished for.
Sometimes the bad times teach us the importance of love in our life and there are times when it seperates one from the world, yet there's always that spark in our heart which looks for the fuel of love.
I read some openions and they were real good.
: )

Rei02 · Accepted Answer

Nowadays there are more probabilities that a relationship won't last "until death do us part", besides that everyone, including us, always change and not all love is requited, so one must be aware that there is going to be a moment when the pain and loss are going to appear.

However, if you really, really love someone, meaning you are not just looking self-gratification nor you are selfish, stubborn, egotistical, nor harrassing, and you will love this person for real without idealizing her and looking her as how really she is, then taking the risk will be worthy.

Cherokeehp · Accepted Answer

Duhhhhhhhh. Love hurts. Anyone who says it doesn’t is a liar. Even if you fall in love and stay with that person for the rest of your life, you will still have to experience pain. Couples fight. And couples have to compromise and sacrifice. No relationship is 100% perfect, because no two people are 100% compatible. Love is trusting someone enough to put your own heart in their hands. The entire concept of love is one huge risk, because they could end up completely breaking your heart. But without risk there is no reward.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Sometimes it is. And when it's because of life circumstances/unintentionally still worth it. But not when people intentionally cause the loss and pain

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Not the "price of love" but the "risks of love". You leave yourself open to loss and pain by loving someone. But by no means is loss and pain something required for love.

sejla · Answer

A love has to end because we die. So even if we have one love we have loss and pain. But it is better to have loved...

SpacedCharr · Answer

Yes, inevitably. Either through death or the end of the relationship. But I think it's worth it.

razelove · Answer

That's the price, but much like cocaine the rewards are incredible.

vintagegirl90 · Answer

No, I don’t agree, never it’s unfortunately a cynical way to look at this. I think it’s really to put yourself in a vulnerable position and open your heart to the possibilities that this is what the reality relationships are about, there’s plenty of ups and downs, but it’s always worth it in the end if you’re with the right person they make it the best waste of time. If it’s not the case, well then it’s just learning the lesson, healing from it and taking care of yourself, but trying again eventually when you’re able to!

lernulo · Answer

Depends of the person, everyone have a different price.
For some people price of love is to recognize what they really love and fight against some established rules.
To other people, the prize of love is to recognize they aren't the center of the world and there are people because of it deserves to give all.
To other people the prize is stop being a victim and fight to be the best versión of themselves...
Depends of the situation prize will be one or other.

ClayDude · Answer

I think the price of personal relationships of any kind is loss and pain. I have been dump as much as I have dumped. Both my parents and can have past away and I had decide when to let them go. I in love with my wife more then anyone else and I know one day she will be gone.

These things have caused me great pain and loss in my life and I would not change want to not have them in my life. All my friend, exs, co-, workers, parents etc. Have made me who I am.

Vasius · Answer

In my experience, yes. Even in long relationships, it only takes one of them to change their mind about their relationship and it ruins the life of the other.

Diémo01 · Answer

Yes I do think so. But were talking about love so the loss and pain you're supposed to feel is at the end of your partners life. That's how I see it❤

Phoenix98 · Answer

I'd say it's more that the price of finding love is loss and pain since you may have to go through a few relationships to find it or to find the one you'll spend the rest of your life with.

But couples no matter how great of chemistry they have or how compatible they are will fight from time to time and that can cause pain, temporary but pain none the less.

Rica_ChicaUSA · Answer

No, but the price is putting your heart and hope into it as a risk. Obviously if it doesn't work then those things cause serious pain, but if it works then you never really paid a price but gained. :)

arabgoddess · Answer

Being in love in painful.. And not being with the one you love is a great loss!

Taylor_C · Answer

Yes, not only do I think it, I know it from experience.

Anonymous · Answer

yes, the movie Wyatt Earp dad said it best when he bailed him out of jail " get use to it son because your going to have a lot of loss in your life but you got to keep moving" quote above referring to Wyatt Earp when he lost his first wife to chicken pox.

FreyaRed · Answer

The price of love is to feel lonely when the bubble of togetherness bursts. You created it with naive wishes and future plans in your mind but his intention was from beginning to abandon you like many others before.

SydneySentinel · Answer

Yes. Sounds accurate.

I-C3_ME · Answer

Everything has good & bad sides, sure if a couple breaks up and u really liked her/him u'll feel had but that would also mean u had some good times. Maybe it's a price, but personally I'm willing to pay it if the person was worth it

brandon7912 · Answer

My grandma always said "when you take a dog, you take a heartbreak". I find that to be a succinct description of love.

Cupcake_eater · Answer

Or is, love the benefit of pain and loss?

What comes from what: the chicken or the egg?

Maybe love can result in either pain and loss or joy? There seems to be a negative and also positive as possible alternatives...

elite665 · Answer

To people who rush into it yes but if your careful and truly care about finding a special person no cause you will most likely avoid those losses

OGxtra · Answer

An education and experience should be included in that price ! Although when calculating the cost of something it's easy to overlook what's gained when considering a loss !

KieranByrne · Answer

One person is always in the relationship for 'Personal Gain'! Very hard to find a relationship that is both people putting in effort or 'The' effort needed!

alice55 · Answer

Is it so it's not really worth it in the end.

pigoat · Answer

Wow big deal Tanthony you can say that about a lot of things in life

Carbon-12 · Answer

Love is free, it doesn't cost anything. I would say they are not the cost of it, but can be caused by it.

Stockton · Answer

I think that the price of life is loss and pain. Oh well

slatyb · Answer

Change is inevitable. No relationship lasts forever.

NineBreaker · Answer

Indeed. If you're not willing to pay the price, don't buy the product.

Omar5881 · Answer

Yup but eventually there's a price for EVERYTHING even if you decide to just sit at home and do nothing , eventually you'll suffer in life you just have to find the poetic pleasure of that pain

fonduegirl · Answer

Yes. Speaking pessimisively, there's nothing more you can get outta a relationship.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

No. To me love is a gift to be given. If I feel loss or pain, then that would mean it was a trade, not a gift.

Anonymous · Answer

NO, for men the price of love is absolute destruction of himself. A man who gets in a relationship puts all things on the line, because when she leaves she takes everything.

elduderinosupreme · Answer

Love is a chemical reaction. If you attune yourself correctly and train yourself to not care then you're golden otherwise sure. Love equals suffering.

Exorcist_Rampage · Answer

Yes, love on Earth is but one day in Heaven, all pain and suffering will be conquered and over with.

Wowgirl30q · Answer

Yessssssssss it kills part of you if lost

funkit46 · Answer

Hell no!  It should be fun kinky sex and family.. Oh and skeet shooting lol

joy_omogbai1 · Answer

Both. The price of love it's either you win or you loose, it's both ways...

Sir-Buddy · Answer

Well if it hurts to lose your love one or the other way it means it was true love so I gues yes

oldguyincanada · Answer

The price of life is loss and pain.

Avicenna · Answer

It usually is, yes, as I recently experienced.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Price, no. A risk, yes. It's worth the risk.

Shark_61695 · Answer

If only it were that simple...

crazy8000 · Answer

Nope. Not even real or healthy.

Dragonqueen03 · Answer

Pffft ain't no point in love

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

That would depend on the cost..

widyrtno · Answer

Its not cost but its two sided coin so yea

Golden_shine · Answer

All cheap, can't decide.

Slim57 · Answer

Sometimes it can be, sometimes people are lucky

Agape93 · Answer

Yeah

Harmseygrace · Answer

Yup.

Aiasis · Answer

Nope.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Sounds logical.

francesco_g · Answer

Yes and then growth.

Jessi_Clem · Answer

Not always.

shadowlhyn · Answer

Its the art of life

rajesh_leo · Answer

Yes, that's true.

lizagavz · Answer

Yes..

AkkiBS · Answer

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