Unpopular opinion: Honeymoon phase doesn't exist. What's your opinion?

[mikylahhutcheson]

Is it real or not real?
In my opinion it doesn't exist, you either give it your all and stay with that person or you dont, you dont just stop loving someone in a single day, if you stopped loving them you didn't really truly love them at all.

Real

Not Real

[Wonderer89]

I don’t agree with the quote. The honeymoon phase refers to the getting to know you stage when everything is new and exciting, you can talk for hours and hours about nothing and sex is an exploration. It’s not about falling out of love when that phase is over, it’s that life settles into its own form of almost mundane routine and your partner is now part of that. A lot of the time it’s comforting but there can also be a shift in accountability as people become comfortable they can also become complacent.
We all think we know our partner had flaws in the “they leave the lid off the toothpaste” kind of way but there are quiet issues that come to head over time. Are we on the same page for where our life has headed? Why hasn’t he proposed? Do we want children on the same timeline? Money issues when one is a saver and one is a spender but it didn’t matter when your finances weren’t combined.

Unconditional love doesn’t exist. If your spouse emptied your bank account on a new computer because they really wanted one and you said no... do you still love and respect them? If they cheat on you with seven women? If they punch you in the face? It’s all conditional, everyone’s conditions are just different

[Dashee]

It does exist. The honeymoon phase is the crush phase. Eventually it will turn to love and you get more used to them. You don't love them less, you just get more used to them.

[razelove]

I like to call it puppy love, where anything the other person does you look at with puppy dog eyes. Aww, you came over drunk again to have sex with me, you're the best! You only shower once a week to save the environment, how thoughtful! When the puppy love wears off those things start to get to you and you're in the actual having to work on things together and figure out how to help each other be happy and at ease relationship.

[Lunatic1]

The "honeymoon phase" is actually a phenomenon called limerance. Limerance is the butterflies in my stomach feeling that occurs in most relationships, but it only lasts 3 years. Feelings change and evolve all the time, the key is how they change.

[Internarchitect]

Well, yes and no. I agree that you should always love your spouse, but I do believe there is a shift that takes place. For me it was by the third year. I don’t think it is that you don’t love them, but they are no longer infallible. They are no longer perfect. Maybe this is when the real loving takes place, hence your quote.

[madgoat]

Real. It relates to an early stage where you are still forming a relationship and not yet confident enough to take it for granted.
A good relationship will progress to more stable and confident footing backed by a deeper love.

[soleil2666]

Erm, there is a thing that lasts a month that is hormonal. You get a full periods cycle to fall pregnant while still on melting hormones. After that, you can hate each other if it didn't work out.
But do be a woman and stop it, please - it's the best way to terrorise.

[Oddquestions12345]

It does but I half agree with u. It's just that in the begging it so new and exciting giving it ur all is easy and u do t think about it. However with time it needs to become a Conscious choice

[loveslongnails]

I can't answer because I completely disagree with your definition, or representation of, the "honeymoon phase".

[mikylahhutcheson]

Then why'd you even respond... 🙄

[loveslongnails]

To tell you that I think your definition is incorrect and way off track. There is indeed such a thing as the "honeymoon phase", because it's been repeated, statistically, again and again. You might think it's propaganda, but it's an empirically documented phenomenon.

[Dusty_06]

It's real. I mean one minute everything is great- you and them vs the world. Then it hits, the fact that you 2 will struggle. Bye bye honeymoon

[Nahid1707]

It does but some people aren’t ready for difficult times with their partner

[Anonymous]

What you describes is the ideal, but not the reality.

[Pamina]

That's not what honeymoon phase means...

[Plitty-Tank]

It is real but some don't cherish it.

[Mad_man_x]

In what universe does a moon made of honey exist?