My mom (43) is dating a much younger guy (27). Does the age gap make them incompatible? Should I tell my concerns to my mom to prevent heartbreak? (Page 2)

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My mom's been dating a guy way younger than her (he's 27, she's 43). I've always been alarmed by the age gap, but when they started dating I assumed it would be nothing more than a fun fling. However, as they've been dating longer and longer I've slowly recognized that may not be the case. A few nights ago I overheard my mom telling her boyfriend her doctor apparently said even though she's a little older there's a very real chance she could get pregnant again. They were both excited. This brought all my concerns to a new level. Such an age gap is almost always an indication of being in very different places in life. I also think she might be thinking with her crotch more than her head. He is a physically attractive guy and (even though she tries to hide it from me/thinks I can't hear) I know she very much enjoys the sexual part of their relationship. Moreover, I know she's always wanted another kid (the only reason why she didn't have another is my dad didn't want one). I think she wants to get pregnant now (even though they aren't married) because she thinks her chances are running out. I'm worried she might with this guy in large part because she thinks a younger man might increase her chances for pregnancy. I'm not saying there's no compatibility between them, but I think the age gap is going to make things too difficult to work. I think my mom's turning a blind eye to it. A big part of me feels that if I care for my mom I should try to point out the warning signs to her before she makes a big mistake. Nonetheless, I do recognize the reasons why I think they're incompatible may more so link to the fact I think the age gap is crazy weird over overwhelming incompatibility. However, I'm not willing to write off those suspicions as completely empty either. How can I tell if I'm right in thinking they could be wrong for each other/have too big of an age gap? Should I tell my mom about the problems I see in her relationship to try to prevent future heartbreak?

dthomas89 · Answer

you have no right to tell your mother who she can and can't date

Benjr134 · Answer

There should be no harm in speaking your concerns. However, your mom has lived enough of life to be prepared for heartbreak. This might be just a fling.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

It is normal to be concerned for a parent, but you need to make sure it is really that and not your own hang ups.

theCobbler · Answer

Is she Happy? If so, let her be happy! Age is just a number!

ChiTown33 · Answer

How's your relationship with him? Does the rhought of calling him daddy bother you?

JesseTheMan · Answer

No one here would know would they? I know a 20 year old who has dated and slept with a 30+ year old, age isn't everything.

harimoto · Answer

age gap is a big damage to anyone's life in relationships, if you are awake in life tell them your opinion its never wrong to say your opinion, you have right to say

wolfie_wolf · Answer

What's wrong with an age Gap relationship? My parents had one... Nothing wrong with it. If the guy isn't abusive to her then stay out of your mom's relationships and mind your own business.

Anonymous · Answer

Your mom is old enough to make her own decisions. Leave her alone.

Itsmeeeee77 · Answer

U can but she won't listen. Women do that. Men do the other way around too

oncpl · Answer

You don't have to tell her. She is mature, able to take decision what is good for her.

Mann7717727348 · Answer

Age is just a number love cannot be defined by age...

zapana · Answer

Yes, you should tell her, but you have to respect her choice

yellowmgtiger · Answer

Talk to your mum and explain how thou feel but also listen to what she has to say love has no regard for age

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

They're just getting some "cougar kicks." It won't last, and your mom will likely be the one to end it.

AkshiJanjua · Answer

i mean he can actually be more compatible to you lol😂

Anonymous · Answer

Your mom probably just really needs a lot more sex than guys her age would provide. If she's happy let her do it. She likely needs the release.

Billythekid22 · Answer

Say the blunt truth fuck the feelings they will get over it.

listeningfool · Answer

She's a big girl, I'm sure she can handle whatever comes her way.

Pipeliner87 · Answer

Good old US of "A". lol this would make a great TLC show.

BasicBad · Answer

I under stand your concerns. I think you’re right to worry.

mT2359 · Answer

Women want to be appreciated and feel young. Same with men too.

angryyhedge · Answer

One day he will probably want a younger woman. Good luck

Kire58 · Answer

If it's love, it's love. If they are both happy, why ruin their happiness?

Bharataraj1975 · Answer

Don't tell her anything just let her enjoy her life.

Anonymous · Answer

You know the age gap is only 12-13 years? You would not make concerns, if you dated 30+ men who are 10+ years older than you

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Usually, age gaps are some of the biggest causes of divorce

bigben07501 · Answer

Your Mom is old enough to know what she is doing not all age gap relationships end bad

Y2KxD · Answer

I dated a 29 year old when I was 19, so if she wanna do it, all's good.

tripptt9 · Answer

take half your age.. and add 7... this formula will tell u if your dating someone too young or not.

Avicenna · Answer

They're adults and can decide for themselves

Miristheiss · Answer

Long term I would say yes. Short term... fine

reptocarl · Answer

She’s a cougar. Let her have her fun

NatalieKeller95 · Answer

jeez he's old enough to be your brother

Gedaria · Answer

No, as long as they are happy...

ABCDEFGHIZKWFUDOQN · Answer

What your mom does is none of your business.

Marissa095 · Answer

She grown they both are just be their in case.

jimmy2 · Answer

Its her life let her be

Anonymous · Answer

That baby gonna come out special needs

hemanthChinnu · Answer

Ohhh fuck! It melts my little heart 💓

LoneWolf9699 · Answer

Not if they truly love one another

1828avaava1828 · Answer

🤷‍♀️ 🤗

Sabretooth · Answer

yup.

dinojames22 · Answer

are you jealous

maddyq · Answer

Yes but not really

Nachowedgie · Answer

Nope and nope

jani0071 · Answer

Hi girls

mynkMumbai · Answer

No it's not like dat

alperenreis44 · Answer

🙏🏻🙏🏻

Anonymous · Answer

It won't last. Your mom just needs some D.

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