Is it better to talk about relationship problems with your boyfriend over text or in person?

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Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

It depends on how emotionally charged it is. Texting is better sometimtif you really want to express yourself properly without worrying about hurting the other person's feelings. But, on the other hand, talking is better if you need to deliver a heartfelt message and you need them to see and hear your feelings so they can really understand the depth of what you're saying.

My rule of thumb (you may choose to agree or disagree): Texting if it's a negative or neutral communication; talking if it's a positive communication. (But obviously you can say a lot of positive things through text as well!)

jabariw18 · Accepted Answer

Depends. My ex and I both got anxious in situations like that and had a mutual understanding that we could put our thoughts into words much easier if we could sit down and think about them and type them out in front of us. It is how we worked through most of our problems. However not everyone is gonna agree with that and think that you need to "man up" and do it in person. In reality that's not the case. Doing it via text because you are afraid of confrontation is a problem. Doing it via text because you can formulate your words better is a totally different think.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

In person of course!
Boy, I am sure glad I was raised in a generation where when we had problems, we talked about them in person! Phone calls only if they're not available.

You do NOT discuss something as important and emotional as your relationship over text or messenger!!! Ever. It's fine to say, "We need to talk. When can I see you?" via text.

But an actual discussion about your feelings, problems, or emotions, needs to happen in person. That way you can gauge feelings and emotions.
Emotes via text are not good enough!

CherryRoseChampange · Accepted Answer

It depends on the type of couple you are. For my relationship, we communicate well either way, but for big arguments we decide text is better. We can think and absorb one another's thoughts better.

Making us respond in a more controlled manner. My parents were like that too. They argue over text. I'd just go for whatever fits your communication styles as a couple.

SydneySentinel · Answer

Always in person unless it's not possible or there's something you need to say immediately and "let's talk about this together later."

happyscrappyheropup · Answer

It depends upon circumstances.

Face to face is often preferable over text because facial and physical reactions give insight into the meaning of words.

However, reasons may make other options preferable. Anger management issues may necessitate time for things to be read and processed. Confrontation anxiety may make difficult conversations easier (because they do need to happen). Neural atypicals may not get much information from body language and may prefer non personal communication.

KyosanshugiMajin · Answer

It really depends. Some people communicate better through text, others over the phone, others in person. Important things should really be discussed face to face, but everyday emotional troubles can be addressed through the means in which those people are most comfortable. If two people disagree on which form of communication is best, they must either compromise or break up.

FlirtWithMeeee · Answer

I can tell you from experience, DEFINITELY IN PERSON. The written word can easily be misinterpreted and this like tone of voice, context, gestures etc. are lacking no matter which emoji you use. And if there is a misunderstanding is so much harder to resolve over text. So much of language (well over 50% is nonverbal).

mattmanyah2 · Answer

In person hands down. I make a rule when I'm getting serious that either person can call for coffee and conversation. It happens at my house or her house at the dining table and the rules are vulgarity is allowed and honesty is expected. Life gets hard you need to be able to talk it through sometimes it's ugly and vulgar. It is extremely important to see body language to be able to read frustration and want. I highly suggest an honesty spot.

Tomsta · Answer

Id say both. Some peoplenreally struggle with opening up about something in person. Over text gives the the abiloty to do that without the fear of doing in person

Once the ice has been broken on the subject however id then start trying to do ot in person

Sometimes its not easy to find the words im person

Secret6620 · Answer

In person. This just makes sure everything is interpreted the right way and you can gauge each other's reactions. 🟣☮️☪️

boggboss · Answer

Always in person texting is not a perfect form of communication things can be interpreted wrong

kaylaS91 · Answer

In person.
More than half the message gets lost over text because you lose things like body language, facial expressions, tone, intonation, etc.. Which, together, are just as critical as what you actually say.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Text is absolutely worst way to talk about problems! At the vert least, over the phone if not in person. Text always makes it worse.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

all relationship problems should be talked about out in the opinion and with witnesses so that every one will know what was said and and it will be settled and forgive ! Thanks

ValentinVV · Answer

I think you should know best. If it's either super urgent or he isn't good with direct confrontation just do it over the phone. Otherwise. Just talk to him...

broken_heart_at_48 · Answer

In person of course too many misunderstandings when texting. Unless you're afraid of him then you should have your big brother uncle or dad go end your relationship for you and don't look back

navyP · Answer

Always talk about problems in person never over text

SarahsSummer · Answer

In person of course. Text will never give you the clarity or understanding that in person communication provides.

horsenrhinounicorn · Answer

Text removes the emotions and tone. In person brings a better understanding. Write it on paper so you cover all things.

Account · Answer

I'd much rather not talk about it. It causes unnecessary conflict, it never helps, it just prolongs the inevitable. It is a lose-lose situation

Crystal03 · Answer

Both actually, depending on how much you know about your partner. As long as you two are communicating, those problems can be solved in an instant.

Jedipasta · Answer

In person always without a doubt. Just remember people process things at different rates so be patient.

Ginny418 · Answer

In person. You need to be able to communicate effectively and face to face. It's cowardly and not personal to talk through text.

GreyWolf9000 · Answer

IN PERSON... Text messages will not show your feelings.. Attachment... Affection.. Desire for love.. Desire to be with them...  EMOTICONS can't show what you really feel.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Serious issues must be adressed in person or talked on the phone at least because texts may be misunderstood (more often than not) and it brings more trouble at the end.

AshleyMadison00 · Answer

Some things you can text but make sure you're able to say it face to face and just make sure your person makes u feel comfortable with the most uncomfortable things

DaTruth44 · Answer

Talk to them in person. Most people can not tell your tone through a text alone.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

In person typically better. But can do by text depending on what the issue is.

By text people have the ability to lie more without you knowing if there telling the true or not. Since you can’t really read there body language.

mattthefatbat · Answer

I would say both, because through text you can look over and review what is wrong, in person I might not always remember what the person said exactly and probably be bound to mess it up again.

ash0891 · Answer

In person!!! Tone is impossible to detect in text! It's horrible, almost always puts someone on the defensive.

Marklaw12 · Answer

In person. He sees your emotions. He needs see you mean it you can continue on Text. Text is nothing. It conveys nothing. People break up over text and get angry about it.

eninning · Answer

Face to face unless you are in fear or your life or health

flame111 · Answer

In person i can't express myself if i dont yell😆😆😆

Kha0tiic_xo · Answer

Always in person because it's more intimate and you can see the expressions of one another, texting things can come out wrong or seem that way to one another which will only create more issues!

Socialist · Answer

Never had problems, never had a relationship... but I would really appreciate it if my (fictional) girlfriend would talk to me in person about those matters.

Strahd · Answer

Really? Texting problems is probably the worst to try to work through a relationship problem. There are too many nuances in a message.

The-Black · Answer

it depends. but it's preferable to talk about those issues in person

Universal1 · Answer

The text get miscommunication so do you face to face I say just love all people and learn what they like. Put emotional discharge aside

curiosityonboard · Answer

Never use text for such discussions. Discuss such things in personal it will help to solve the issue without any complications

Phoenix98 · Answer

Ideally if possible do that kind of stuff in person if you can, if for whatever reason you can't like your long distance or something then do it over messenger or text.

RLovesD7792 · Answer

I'm forced to do it through text since mine is a long distance relationship

Anonymous · Answer

Well first decide if it's an actual problem or if it's just petty drama you want to stir up. If it is a real problem, in person. How is this even a question?

Shebleble · Answer

In person for sure. Through text someone could say something that could come off rude if you didn't mean it too

graceperrybiqueen44 · Answer

that really depends if your able to see them then its better to talk in person but if its long distance.. then I say not text but face time it is kind of like your there with them

scottm9000 · Answer

That depends on y'all's listening ability. some can't get a word in unless you text. so I would say text during day then discuss at bed time after dinner at the earliest

Bongem · Answer

In person, so you can see reactions, interpret and perhaps explain if something is misunderstood.

spartan55 · Answer

Matters of importance should always be face to face.

ThatGuy133 · Answer

Definitely in person. Things can be misconstrued and then you'll have an even bigger problem on your hands. Can't really articulate in text

nikhilesh412 · Answer

It's always better to have conversations face to face.

admles · Answer

In person only. In text is NEVER acceptable for serious things, and I will refuse to do it.

Lunatic1 · Answer

I prefer talking about that face-to-face, but it usually doesn't happen that way.

itsallaroundtheworld · Answer

Best would be in person. Sometimes I get embarrased and avoid conversations in person.

NateSmiley · Answer

In person definitely it makes it more personal and avoids any misunderstandings.

Anonymous · Answer

Unless your 16 you never discuss anything over the phone with your partner

user_211 · Answer

in person. sometimes things over text can be read in a tone that you never intended on sending it in.

bûññy_07 · Answer

If u truly loves ur partner den plzz meet up nd share evrythng wid him/ her , dis is d best way u can approach...

msc545 · Answer

In person. You miss all of the non-verbal communication over text. Never discuss anything important over text.

OlOneEye24 · Answer

This is coming from the standpoint of a used-to-be boyfriend, but I would say person to person is the way to go. If you both trust each other, tell each other how you feel and come to a reasonable understanding.

brittany23 · Answer

It depends on your relationship obviously, but in person is always better, if only to make sure what you're saying comes across correctly

eron5p62 · Answer

Whatever is easier and resolves the issue some people fined it easier to communicate via text email nothing wrong with that

Granitstei · Answer

Face to face. Prevents misunderstandings and just tossing phone away when mad.

Cynicalman1937 · Answer

In person always in person but get a gun and pepper spray ready just in case

sksksksmyheart · Answer

Definitely in person it makes your relationship with yourpartner stronger

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