I'm not fussed either way, my job has the flexibility for me to work from home but if I'm entirely honest I would prefer a relationship with 50/50 shared responsibilities for home keeping, child raising and bread winning.
A stay at home partner sounds hot. Come home from work to see them cooking dinner with nothing but underwear on, hell yeah I can get down with that hahaha
I don't think that's for me. I hate staying at home as a single guy imagine staying at home husband. No I can't i need a bigger purpose in life something to chase after.
Wouldn't it be hard to pay to live somewhere if your the only one paying for everything. And how would it work. Like let's say your boyfriend wants money to buy a game or he collects something or whatever it is would you just give him the money like a gift.
I feel like it would be super impractical. I would be okay with it longs if it could work but unless she is getting paid over decent wage i don't get how it would work.
He can work from home. He doesn't have to be jobless lol. And unless he's super irresponsible there can be an account set up after marriage. Where a certain amount of money goes into it from both joined incomes.
The left over can stay in their personal checking and saving account for whatever they want.
Ah sorry i thought you meant like he just does hourse work. Like cleaning. Yea if he is working from home there is no problem with that. Should work. And i have no clue who wouldn't want to work from homes much easier than leaving the house.
No of course not because typically most women not all but most here, instinctually look for a man who can protect them provide for them keep them safe...
Personally no. I generally hate the idea of having someone stay at home (rather than work). (I'm quite a workaholic though, so I probably have a biased opinion).
I'd be one of it needed it, like if I needed to take care of kids or whatnot, otherwise I'd go back into contracting/remodelling, pay isn't great but I get to do it on my own time/etc, so kind of splitting bills 50/50 style
Well my husband works from home but he has a job he has to work just like I do. So it’s not really a stay at home husband. He doesn't get paid to take care of the house and clean.
@Oram52 He doesn't have to work to get respect. It varies for each woman what they desire. I know for myself, I can't be with anyone without some form of ambition. I thrive off work ethic and new projects.
So they'd have to be doing something other than just being home. Our house wouldn't be that big because I won't want kids for a while.
"He doesn't have to work to get respect." That's literally what you just said :) I prefer independent ambitious women myself. But you can't have your cake and eat it too.
If I make a sufficient amount of money sure. I'd prefer he took care of the cooking and cleaning since he is home whilst I'm at work. Vice versa if it were a stay at home wife.
I'm all for helping with house chores, or even taking over 100% in special circumstances, but the very thought of being a "stay-at-home husband" is unfathomable to me.
If I were to have a stay at home husband I wouldn't like it, I live in a house with a stay at home dad who's to lazy to get a job and I can't live with anything remotely like that.
I'm sorry to hear that. He needs help... he's divorced or just depressed for reasons you don't know? Some men don't handle the changes in life well and are dealing with their own childhood issues.
Sometimes although on the other hand he breaks a lot of plates around us to scare my brother and I and also doesn't have any money to feed us so all we can rely on is my grandma who we moved in with to help us live.
I'm sorry to hear that. Men don't know how to express sadness and work is a major thing in our self esteem. He needs other men to talk to for support and to get his life back in order. This is not your fault. I remember my father being really upset one or two times when he reached breaking point, it was very scary. Let go of those frightenend emotions and turn them over to higher power, they aren't yours. Best thing you can do, I think, is be supportive and let him know you respect him. It's not easy to get up once we've fallen down, and we need help to get up but don't want it. So he will have to overcome this difficult time in life. You two kids have to heal from all this because of how attraction works, thus some kind of therapy or understanding and letting go will be important.
Just so you know, working with a 7 month old baby in the house is damn near impossible unless you have plenty of outside help. So you might wanna make your expectations a little more realistic (if you want kids that is).
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I'm not fussed either way, my job has the flexibility for me to work from home but if I'm entirely honest I would prefer a relationship with 50/50 shared responsibilities for home keeping, child raising and bread winning.
A stay at home partner sounds hot. Come home from work to see them cooking dinner with nothing but underwear on, hell yeah I can get down with that hahaha
I don't think that's for me.
I hate staying at home as a single guy imagine staying at home husband. No I can't i need a bigger purpose in life something to chase after.
If my girl decides to keep him home, she'll automatically regret that decision within a week.
This guy is not built to stay home... 😎
Well if he's more cleaner than me and reliable.. yes!
I dunno why any girl would want a guy to stay home and be a freeloader.
Wouldn't it be hard to pay to live somewhere if your the only one paying for everything. And how would it work. Like let's say your boyfriend wants money to buy a game or he collects something or whatever it is would you just give him the money like a gift.
I feel like it would be super impractical. I would be okay with it longs if it could work but unless she is getting paid over decent wage i don't get how it would work.
He can work from home. He doesn't have to be jobless lol. And unless he's super irresponsible there can be an account set up after marriage. Where a certain amount of money goes into it from both joined incomes.
The left over can stay in their personal checking and saving account for whatever they want.
Ah sorry i thought you meant like he just does hourse work. Like cleaning. Yea if he is working from home there is no problem with that. Should work. And i have no clue who wouldn't want to work from homes much easier than leaving the house.
No of course not because typically most women not all but most here, instinctually look for a man who can protect them provide for them keep them safe...
Personally no. I generally hate the idea of having someone stay at home (rather than work). (I'm quite a workaholic though, so I probably have a biased opinion).
I'd be one of it needed it, like if I needed to take care of kids or whatnot, otherwise I'd go back into contracting/remodelling, pay isn't great but I get to do it on my own time/etc, so kind of splitting bills 50/50 style
Lmao. You want it all
you want a stay at home husband but he has a career and just works from home and is like a house manager too.
Yep, sadly It's damn near impossible to find it.
Well my husband works from home but he has a job he has to work just like I do. So it’s not really a stay at home husband. He doesn't get paid to take care of the house and clean.
^^exactly what I was thinking.
Its damn near impossible because why should he do two jobs? Why does his respect for being a stay at home husband only come if he also works?
@Oram52 He doesn't have to work to get respect. It varies for each woman what they desire. I know for myself, I can't be with anyone without some form of ambition. I thrive off work ethic and new projects.
So they'd have to be doing something other than just being home. Our house wouldn't be that big because I won't want kids for a while.
"He doesn't have to work to get respect."
That's literally what you just said :)
I prefer independent ambitious women myself. But you can't have your cake and eat it too.
@Oram52 I *think she wants equal participation but recognizes the value of having someone stay at home flexibility
I don’t think she means that she wants the husband to have a career plus work at home plus take care of house and kids while she only manages career.
If that flexibility goes both ways I don't see a problem. That is what in a way I was trying to say anyway.
If I make a sufficient amount of money sure. I'd prefer he took care of the cooking and cleaning since he is home whilst I'm at work. Vice versa if it were a stay at home wife.
I'm all for helping with house chores, or even taking over 100% in special circumstances, but the very thought of being a "stay-at-home husband" is unfathomable to me.
If I were to have a stay at home husband I wouldn't like it, I live in a house with a stay at home dad who's to lazy to get a job and I can't live with anything remotely like that.
I'm sorry to hear that. He needs help... he's divorced or just depressed for reasons you don't know? Some men don't handle the changes in life well and are dealing with their own childhood issues.
But doesn't he take care of you guys and the home?
Sometimes although on the other hand he breaks a lot of plates around us to scare my brother and I and also doesn't have any money to feed us so all we can rely on is my grandma who we moved in with to help us live.
I'm sorry to hear that. Men don't know how to express sadness and work is a major thing in our self esteem. He needs other men to talk to for support and to get his life back in order. This is not your fault. I remember my father being really upset one or two times when he reached breaking point, it was very scary. Let go of those frightenend emotions and turn them over to higher power, they aren't yours. Best thing you can do, I think, is be supportive and let him know you respect him. It's not easy to get up once we've fallen down, and we need help to get up but don't want it. So he will have to overcome this difficult time in life. You two kids have to heal from all this because of how attraction works, thus some kind of therapy or understanding and letting go will be important.
Yo itd be pretty great to find a sugar mama so you could just pursue your hobbies or raise kids.
No. He should persue his dreams and bring food to the table too
Just so you know, working with a 7 month old baby in the house is damn near impossible unless you have plenty of outside help. So you might wanna make your expectations a little more realistic (if you want kids that is).
Chance of her cheating on you with her boss and divorcing you when you find out goes up 3,000,000%.
no thanks, I feel that the living expenses is way too high for either party to stay home.
I am still holding traditional view that men should work
sure, only if i had a really stable job and was making enough money.
No. I’m going to be a teacher. A teacher salary doesn’t usually allow for that.