you should read the book "he's just not that into you" they have a whole chapter on guys scared of committing. If he truley loved you, he would have figured out by now that he DOES want to be with you for the rest of his life. You should leave him asap I think
It's been awhile.. if he truly wanted to be with you, he wouldn't need to be 'persuaded' into marriage @_@ -he- would strive for it himself to have you all for himself.
Wait for him to be ready. Why do you feel the need to push him into a marriage? Most guys aren't ready for that type of commitment until into their 30's. Be happy with what you have now.
You don't live together? I think you should try living together way before you get married. It's completely different when you have to live with each other, if you're at each others' throats now... What are both of your views on marriage?
but we aren't at each others' throats when we fight it's about the issue, but we both are very good in explaining how we feel.. we don't believe in living together its not part of our values.. but thank you
i agree dudeman, we are here for different oppinions on the question/topic.. NOT to judge someone's answer and say he/she is an idiot.. you can disagree but come on.. BE MATURE
'people that cohabitate first their marriages don't last' - I said that you were an idiot because that comment seemed counter-intuitive and I'd like to see some evidence on it.
he wants his cake and eat it too. he wants to be with you but not completely tied down to you. he likes having the girl with out the total and whole comitment
well say you want a few kids, that's going to take a few years and its not wise to have kids past 35 , now think about it you don't want to meet a guy and start popping out kids you want to enjoy each other for a while, your 27 and have been f***ing a dude for the last 5 years so any self respecting man would like you to not have had sex for a long while so that leaves you at 29ish plus a few kids you definitely cutting it close to non-marriable if you waste more time actually you passed my age
two years ago even if I get older I would still draw the line at 25 for the before mention reasons but its up to you if he wanted to marry you he would have by now
wow.. your life timeline and life expectancy is kind of screwed... yes people used to have kids mid 20s latest... and I agree after 35 it's a little harder, but women now a days are having kids til they are 40! life expectancy has risen to a 10 year avg! so I'm not saying your wrong in saying we should get married soon, but for your reasons .. its really not about "age" or becaus it's TIME right... you've actually helped me to see that I'm in NO RUSH...
good but I don't want to take the risk of having retarded kids, I know a few people that had kids after 35 and they had kids with mental disorders and that's a risk you take and its not a risk I'm going to take. I don't think my time line is screwed I want to enjoy my life with a wife before we have kids and that means meeting her before she's your age
well I do see why you haven't found her yet.. with that mentality it doesn't seem like its anything about love... if you want to find someone to impregnate and spread your seed.. there are such things as mail order brides.. I just don't agree with you making it all about AGE... but thank you for your thoughts... makes me know that RUSHING is NOT the way
nahhh chicks dig me and its not all about age but age is a factor its a very large factor thanks for assuming I just want to impregnate a girl judgmental much
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DON'T RUSH INTO IT IF HE IS WORTH THE WAIT THEN WAIT
you should read the book "he's just not that into you" they have a whole chapter on guys scared of committing. If he truley loved you, he would have figured out by now that he DOES want to be with you for the rest of his life. You should leave him asap I think
It's been awhile.. if he truly wanted to be with you, he wouldn't need to be 'persuaded' into marriage @_@ -he- would strive for it himself to have you all for himself.
You'll love him wether you're married or not, right? So don't push him.
When he sees that your love doesn't depend on marriage, it might take a little pressure off his chest.
Besides, you don't have to get married to live "the married life".
Does he not want to get married? or does he not want to get married to you? There's a difference.
Personally I could understand why any man would hesitate, given the way the laws are in CA.
"What should I do when my boyfriend is scared of marriage?"
Marry someone else.
YOU: "Well, I'm, getting married with the next few years. Whether that is with you or not is up to you."
Wait for him to be ready. Why do you feel the need to push him into a marriage? Most guys aren't ready for that type of commitment until into their 30's. Be happy with what you have now.
~Distant
You don't live together? I think you should try living together way before you get married. It's completely different when you have to live with each other, if you're at each others' throats now... What are both of your views on marriage?
thats actually the fastest way to lose time people that cohabitate first their marriages don't last
You're like the idiot of the website.
but we aren't at each others' throats when we fight it's about the issue, but we both are very good in explaining how we feel.. we don't believe in living together its not part of our values.. but thank you
im not an idiot why would you say that I tell the truth and bring solid facts its not my fault people are stupid including you obviously
i agree dudeman, we are here for different oppinions on the question/topic.. NOT to judge someone's answer and say he/she is an idiot.. you can disagree but come on.. BE MATURE
'people that cohabitate first their marriages don't last' - I said that you were an idiot because that comment seemed counter-intuitive and I'd like to see some evidence on it.
he wants his cake and eat it too. he wants to be with you but not completely tied down to you. he likes having the girl with out the total and whole comitment
Why can't you just live with him happily without a marriage?
If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
we don't live together
if he wanted to marry you he would have by now, do what you got to do your not getting younger you're almost 30 getting to the nonmarriable age
LMFAO, you living in the dark ages?
nope your just stupid
non marriable?
well say you want a few kids, that's going to take a few years and its not wise to have kids past 35 , now think about it you don't want to meet a guy and start popping out kids you want to enjoy each other for a while, your 27 and have been f***ing a dude for the last 5 years so any self respecting man would like you to not have had sex for a long while so that leaves you at 29ish plus a few kids you definitely cutting it close to non-marriable if you waste more time actually you passed my age
two years ago even if I get older I would still draw the line at 25 for the before mention reasons but its up to you if he wanted to marry you he would have by now
wow.. your life timeline and life expectancy is kind of screwed... yes people used to have kids mid 20s latest... and I agree after 35 it's a little harder, but women now a days are having kids til they are 40! life expectancy has risen to a 10 year avg! so I'm not saying your wrong in saying we should get married soon, but for your reasons .. its really not about "age" or becaus it's TIME right... you've actually helped me to see that I'm in NO RUSH...
good but I don't want to take the risk of having retarded kids, I know a few people that had kids after 35 and they had kids with mental disorders and that's a risk you take and its not a risk I'm going to take. I don't think my time line is screwed I want to enjoy my life with a wife before we have kids and that means meeting her before she's your age
well I do see why you haven't found her yet.. with that mentality it doesn't seem like its anything about love... if you want to find someone to impregnate and spread your seed.. there are such things as mail order brides.. I just don't agree with you making it all about AGE... but thank you for your thoughts... makes me know that RUSHING is NOT the way
nahhh chicks dig me and its not all about age but age is a factor its a very large factor thanks for assuming I just want to impregnate a girl judgmental much
read your comments... I didn't judge that's what you said and that's how your coming off..read everything you say..
i know what I said but your assuming this are all my thoughts on a relationship its simply a biological hurdle that cannot be reasoned with
You should ask him if he would have baby with you
wait.