Do you think people cheat because they are bored of someone they love or are they bored with themselves?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Our faces are fake (makeup), our hair is fake (dyed), our boobs are fake (some of us), everything about us is fake. Most especially when it comes to what is inside of us. We lie constantly, because we are far worse, character-wise, than even our closest friends or lovers will ever know, and we desperately fight to keep all of that hidden.
We are looking for our true daddies, basically – the idealized daddies that we never had – somebody who can see through all of our false fronts and call us out on our bullshit and put us in our place. The problem is, those type of men are very few and far between.
We lie to our so-called female friends and pretend we are loyal and faithful to them, just like we do with the men in our lives. Secretly, we are jealous of each other, and we want all of the desirable things that other women have—most especially when it comes to our female friends’ things.
And we consider men to be things. If one of our friends has a hot man, we want him to want us. We will do everything we can to seduce him. Not because we really want him—we don’t really want anybody. We do it because we are rarely happy, and we don’t want our girlfriends to be happy, either, and we want to boost our own egos more than anything else.
And after we get him to fuck us, when our girlfriends find out that he has had sex with us, that’s when we finally get what we wanted in the first place. If we break up the previously happy couple, that’s fine, too. It’s all about our pussy, not hers. It’s about winning.
We Women always lie about the number of sexual partners they’ve had. We also lie about not wanting men with large penises. If we told the actual truth about the number of different men and women we’ve slept with, and if we told the actual truth about our fervent desire for big dicks, our pool of potential suitors would shrink drastically, to the point where it would completely dry up. So we lie. Most often, we will claim that we’ve had between three and eight sexual partners in our lifetime. And, to our way of thinking, it isn’t a lie, because if we had five sexual partners last Saturday evening, and our man asks us how many sexual partners we have had, and we answer, “Five”, well, technically, we aren’t lying.
And all hot women are narcissistic masochists. We hate it when things are going well, especially if they continue to go well for long periods of time. We know down deep that we are fucked-up and not worthy of anything that is truly good. So when things are going well in a relationship, we eventually sabotage it. We just can’t help ourselves in this regard.
We could have the greatest, most handsome, most well-hung husband in the world—a one-of-a-kind man who makes all of our girlfriends jealous; we could have the greatest children in the world, who are beautiful, well-behaved and ambitious; we could have the most enviable career imaginable; we could have all of the money and prestige and the truly good things in life, and we could repeatedly tell ourselves over and over, and believe, on the surface, that we would never cheat on our husbands. But down deep we know that it’s a lie. Because one day, we could walk into a grocery store, and some bad boy could whisper just the right combination of words in our ear, and the next thing you know, we’re at the Motel 6 getting it in the ass. That’s just how we are, and any woman—especially a hot woman—who says otherwise, is a liar. All women dislike themselves and because we dislike ourselves, we fervently hate any man who doesn’t see through our bullshit. The more a man loves us, the more we hate him. The more he overlooks our sins, and the more he fails to see how corrupt we are, and the more he gives us the benefit of every single doubt – the more we despise him. We will escalate our bad behavior until we finally break him and he wakes up and realizes how worthless we are and what a fool he has been for believing in us.

Youryeodongsaeng · Accepted Answer

If they love the person that they are with, why should they cheat in the first place?

I wouldn't do it, unless it's a threesome with someone and my partner and I.

If that person does cheat, then maybe they are testing their love for the person that they are with. It may sound bullshit, but what if it isn't?

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

That's one of the reasons, but there are many others. Some just thrive on NRE - new relationship emotion or energy.
But mostly, they're missing something in their primary relationship, so they go looking for it elsewhere. After all, happy couples in love don't cheat.

And while you can't really blame the victim of cheating, there is nearly always culpability for failures in the relationship.

About 75% of long term relationships endure some kind of infidelity. Actual sexual affairs will implode the primary relationship about 80% of the time - the rest of them patch it up and make it better.
75% of divorces are initiated by women. If they're unhappy they're ready to cut and run. The men tend to stay and stay and just hope things get better.
Cheating is pretty well split 50-50 by gender, but women are better liars so the stats are skewed to men.

If you don't get the sexual compatibility thing right you sign yourself up for a lifetime of frustration and disappointment. It's critical, and it's the glue in a romantic man-woman relationship. Without it, you're just roommates.

Choose wisely, treat kindly. __Dr. Laura

Barry88 · Accepted Answer

People cheat because they got the opportunity to do so. They might not even actively search for it, but if the option is offered to them, it might be hard to resist. It doesn't have to be that they're bored with their partner or themselves, but that they just like the thrill of having someone else interested in them, getting attention, feeling flattered. It doesn't even have to mean that the relationship they have with their partner is bad.

Not saying cheating is a good thing, I'm not going to justify it. But not all cheaters are the same.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If boredom caused people to cheat, all people would be cheaters. I know all people are not cheaters because I have never cheated.

People cheat because they have a character flaw which makes their promises to other unimportant and their excitement here and now is more important than their supposed commitment to their partner.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

If they cheat then are they 'really" with someone they " love" cuz that's "not" love. Boredom is hardly a valid reason or excuse to cheat whether they're bored with themselves or their partner. Cheating is more about selfishness than boredom.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would say they are bored with themselves

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

I think it's divided into two camps, and neither of them are what you think.

Cheater 1 does it because our libidos make us desire many different women, you can't fix biology, but in many cases, this desire can override morals, which in the case of a cheater would be his moral obligation to honor his commitment. He realistically cannot help himself. Some actually only ever cheat once, and don't like the guilt, so never do it again. Others desire can override the guilt and they will continue to do it.

Cheater 2 does it because he's not getting something specific from his SO. It might be a specific kink or fetish that the SO said no way. It might be that their partner just lost interest in sex, which is unbelievable common in marriage. There are a lot of reasons, some even defensible, but all generally defer back to desire vs. morals.

jestergent · Answer

The reason could be said in the name itself. "Cheat". The person wants an A in life and doesn't want to follow the rules to get it, so the other person gets upset they cheated on them, because well they didn't cheat themselves. Since infidelity cuases pain, we create rules to be exclusive. Infidelity benefits the "cheater" at the cost of their loved ones feelings.

It doesn't matter why they cheat, they should be fined $$ for doing it, pay the reparations to the one cheated on.

Espresso-Grande · Answer

People cheat because they have no self -control over their emotions and desires. They're weak people.

I've heard a lot of people justify cheating by his blaming their partner. They use excuses like they weren't happy in the relationship, or their partner wasn't interested in sex anymore. But a situation a person's in doesn't determine if they'll cheat or not , their lack of self-control and willpower does. Certain situations just reveals people's true underlying character.

Anjuverma · Answer

I think it's question of all couples those married life is now 6 years and above.
Mostly may not answer it, but we have to hear the voice of our innerself.
I have married 2 years back. still I am happy. But when I see around my society mostly now just like take the load of relationship

Sophie_2301 · Answer

If someone cheats, they really shouldn’t be in a relationship in the first place

djmzes · Answer

Simple

Mrsao · Answer

Their is so many reasons for cheating but the number 1 reason is they don't love them not respect them, cheating can happen when people are bored feel as if they are being ignored and not listened to when people don't feel satisfied in their relationship many people do they to communicate withdrawing partner though many also do not shindig leads to cheating.

DizzyDesii · Answer

The cheat #1 because they know they can #2 because their current partner doesn't have everything to offer— so they cheat with what feels like an escape or what feels like the missing half... either way its BS and they dont deserve either person

jkm1864 · Answer

Not everyone cheats because Your childhood plays into it too. I had a very liberated mother whom was married and divorced 4 times. Due to that I had a very traumatic childhood so the last thing I ever wanted was more for My child to go through the same shit so yes the relationship got boring and the sex kind of sucked but I stuck it out because My Child's needs were more important than My own.

Can-I-Get-A-DoOver · Answer

People cheat for different reasons but one of them is because they want to be someone else. They don’t necessarily want to leave their current partner but they want to leave themselves. Be someone different.

someginger · Answer

There are many reasons, some people have low self-esteem so they have to get validation from people other than there partners. Others are just bored and want to put there dick in something. Really depends

Zee1234 · Answer

I just think they are scared of commitment. So when stuff starts to get serious they don't know how to act so they try to push away the feeling of committing fully to one person.

So I don't think they are bored they are just insecure.

Ripper_E · Answer

People cheat for a variety of reasons.
Some might cheat because that taboo of cheating, knowing they are doing something so morally wrong is exciting. Living on the edge type of thing.
There is no singular reason why people cheat.

genericname85 · Answer

i think they cheat, cause they have huge character flaws, that make them unable to keep their behavior in check.

believe it or not, everyone gets desires to fuck someone else sometimes. the difference is "not acting on it". that's what loyalty is about. and if someone is not loyal, don't be their partner.

Dali-chan · Answer

Cause they like to cheat, men do it more than women, cause they crave variety and are biologically monogamous. Some would fuck their own daughters if they were given the chance so...

albatoss9650 · Answer

Well i am gonna honest here

Most guys do cheat even in a committed relationship caz some how their sexual need not satisfy with their partner or sometime most of guys have some weird fetish that's they feel to discuss it enjoy with other rather than thier partner.

Some time guys are polygamous and they can't be with one in a sexual relationship so they just cheat to enjoy caz they can't tell their partner

serious · Answer

There can be N number of reasons for that. One of the reasons can be that they are bored with the person they love.

coderedcerberusnight · Answer

Usually cheating occurs when the person is unsatisfied with the relationship and is seeking something else. It's selfish, but that's usually the case.

Anonymous · Answer

People who cheat do so for a variety of reasons. Some really do crave a level of excitement they find hard to find in monogamy, Some are very mildly dissatisfied with their partner.

When you're looking at marriages or couples with kids, you run into more reasons for cheating though, where 'boredom' would be a pretty broad way of describing the level of dissatisfaction in their existing relationship.

DannyFanny · Answer

It's mostly selfishness. I've never cheated but if I was planning to I'd break up, I wouldn't want done to me what I find disgusting

Anonymous · Answer

I once was with a guy who was just too fast in bed. I was always left unsatisfied. So I cheated with an ex because I just wanted good sex. When I saw that it wasn't gonna get better and I didn't want to cheat anymore, I broke it off and made up some BS excuse. I felt bad telling him that he would never please a woman if he was always going to cum too quickly.

KitKnickKat · Answer

If people cheat, means they have no self control which is pathetic.

here2helpuALL · Answer

Id honestly believe it's either something is wrong with the relationship or its the grass is greener on the other side effect because they dont wanna fix or talk about something

Martinasita · Answer

I think that the primary reason we cheat is within ourselves.

humanearth · Answer

Mosty for the adventure and the excitement of doing the act. Many do it for the thrill of new P or D, because they get borded easily

G3tAClue · Answer

People cheat because they lack discipline and are terrible people.

shu2905 · Answer

Spending too much time with one comes to boring end unless you choose to separate time

Twalli · Answer

They probably aren't getting everything they want/need with the person they're with. They don't want to end it because they'll lose what they have, but they want more.

Anonymous · Answer

men generally cheap because the new vagina has been offered and it would be stupid not to take it

women generally cheat because they always think the grass is greener on the other side, the guy that they’re with has not lived up to the endless unrealistic expectations that they have set for him they are unhappy and they try to test the waters to see if they want to jump ship or not.

Anonymous · Answer

I think most cheat because they: 1. love sex 2. get a thrill out of it (bc it’s taboo) 3. get an ego boost from being desired

Prof_Don · Answer

Boredom is internal, it is on oneself to quell boredom, and to do so responsibly. Cheaters are obviously not responsible with handling the boredom of their lives.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

For the attention, to fulfil selfish ego of feeling desired by other men/women. Because to the cheater attention from opposite sex = self worth

sheikalana · Answer

It can be both or it can also be because their partner is not giving them enough attention.

RHK36 · Answer

People cheat because they cheat. Sometimes they have reasons, sometimes they don't. None of the reasons are good ones. People that cheat ultimately are just cowards that chose to act selfishly.

Archerer · Answer

People cheat because their sexual urges have power over their brain... It is pathetic if you ask me. Although situations are often complicated and not so black and white.

rythmdivinee · Answer

I think most likely they are probably bored with their current partner.

winterfox10 · Answer

They're usually bored or just generally unsatisfied with themselves, but it's super inconvenient for them to realize that that is the problem.

burlen · Answer

People cheat for many reasons. Regardless of the reasons, there is a common theme for cheating: it’s pleasurable and accessible.

libraboy · Answer

They're bored of someone and they have found someone physically more attractive

vengfulone · Answer

I believe they tend to cheat because their relationship is lacking something. their no passion or excitement anymore. Just a daily chore anymore. So I think it's a little of both!

SphynxUK · Answer

There’s something usually lacking in the relationship.

_SOARER · Answer

They are bored with themselves and allow lust to take over their mind  No one should cheat in a relationship. They allow it to get to that point because they can't be honest or communicate

Anonymous · Answer

Most of the time when men cheat purely instinct. Most of the time when women cheat they're compensating for something, either too happy or too unhappy.

FreyaRed · Answer

People cheat because their partners mean nothing for them.

Finchie40 · Answer

Because they are selfish and think grass is greener on the other side

SOPHIASMITH123 · Answer

They cheat because they have no feelings... and they just want to enjoy their life with anyone...

Ilittles · Answer

They cheat because they are selfish are low quality human beings. They lack the spine to break it off before committing a disloyal act.

Eleni97 · Answer

I think it’s cause they think they can. I’ve been other woman when i found i dump her.

startingfitness · Answer

It could be one or the other. But the rral issue is that they are selfish and dont respect their partner.

Nachowedgie · Answer

They cheat cuz they're a piece of human shit unworthy of ever being accepted or loved

reptocarl2 · Answer

Because they don’t love or respect the one they’re supposed to be with

OddBeMe · Answer

Could be boredom or some inner desire to keep dating while also wanting a stable home life. But you can’t have it both ways.

asshole_ · Answer

My cousins wife, cheated on him, and claimed "laziness" But, that's not true at all. Most of us knew she had a screw loose

Jamie05rhs · Answer

It's a lack of morals. People who live by a moral code of conduct won't cheat.

Torari · Answer

They cheat because they're horny and don't respect their partner.

supersplif · Answer

they cheat because they are scared of making a clean break. the first step is stexting

Guanfei · Answer

They cheat because they're the lowest scum of the planet. That's why.

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