Asking my girlfriend to gain weight or get a bigger butt?

[Anonymous]

I am absolutely in love with my girlfriend. I love her smile, her personality, the way she treats me, and we genuinely have a great connection. However, women that have a big butt have always been my weakness, (the bigger the better) and that is not how you describe my girlfriend. Her butt is flat, and I would never try to change or shame her for that.
She’s very aware that I’m into women with big butts, yet she doesn’t work out or anything. She has told me if she had the money she might consider surgery but I don’t see that ever happening. If she thought I was too skinny I would get in the gym, but that’s me. It’s been a few years now and I will always love her, so how do I talk to her about my preference?

[SueShe]

I don't think you should interfere with her weight at all.

Basically, you would want her to live unhealthy and potentially put her health at risk so that you can have your fun and kink, right?

Putting on weight solely on the butt is a difficult task and the physiology of every person is slightly different. That does not mean that she will only put on weight where you want it if she eats unhealthy but the fat could also accumulate around her liver, her stomach, her breasts and other body parts. Those fat deposits are all detrimental to the health.

Leave her to her standard weight and don't push her to do something just because it pleases you.

[Levin]

Preach it, sis.

[jessicayanivsimpson]

It's true tho, @Levin. Such a request shows unhealthy boundaries.

[lana77]

I think you should reevaluate your feelings for her. Is it worth hurting her feelings and making her go through surgery just to fulfill your shallow desires? If you don't love her enough to be satisfied with who she is right now, then maybe you shouldn't be with her. It doesn't seem fair to her to be with someone that doesn't value her completely as she is. I wouldn't want to be in such a relationship. Even if she seems to go along with what you discuss and entertains the idea of surgery, it doesn't mean she isn't hurt by the fact that you are not pleased with the current state of her body. Also something to consider: as we age, our bodies do not remain fit and in line with society's standards of beauty. What will happen then?

[0112358]

In this case, i question whether there's a point.

In spite of lots of trainers willing to take money, most women have a really low ability to add muscle, so their ability to really change their glute size via exercise is low.

As for gaining fat, do you know where it goes when she's heavier? Some women it's all thighs, some it's thighs and butt, some it goes to their belly. You don't get to pick.

Basically if this is her genetics... maybe not much she can do.

[LightxSoul2]

If she knows you like big butts but still love her then she thinks you're okay with her being the way she is. If you can't really get past her not having a big butt you should tell her how you feel but don't expect a good reaction. If you don't good genetics then getting a big butt is very hard. It's almost like a girl telling her guy she likes dicks bigger than his.

[Doglover000]

It’s her decision if she wants to improve her butt to have a big booty. Half of the women have got surgery to their body. Leave her be. It’s kinda like saying to a blonde guy I like brown hair guys better I prefer you to change your hair for me it will make you more sexy. You should of thought of that before you fell in love with her if your that kind of person. It entirely up to her. I can see if she’s like gaining weight she’s not eating healthy she doesn’t look healthy then you being the man in her life you could encourage her to start working out. But you don’t tell her I think you should get a bigger butt bc that’s rude. Maybe she is happy in the way she looks. If you love her then it shouldn’t be a problem.

[Dinklex3]

That's not her though. Not everyone is shaped like that and there's only so much exercise can do.
My friend loves thick girls with ass. Im neither and have a small butt. He accepts that and appreciates my body for what it is. Everyone has in the past.

[madgoat]

How she physically looks is important to you now. After she's raised a couple of kids and is middle aged, if she still looks at you with the same look of love in her eyes as she does now, you probably won't care so much what shape her bottom is.

[jcnum10]

Not every girl can have a big booty.
So you probably tellin her that you want her to have a bigger booty when she can't.

It could hurt her.

[ManWithThePlan123]

I never knew people that were this petty, but wow you can find some great examples on here.

[Anonymous]

Is she open to the idea of being a female Cuckold?
Maybe she could watch you bang some big booty women the same way some guys watch their wives with other men.
If not, maybe dump her, she really isn't your type.

[Liam_Hayden]

"I am absolutely in love with my girlfriend. I love her smile, her personality, the way she treats me, and we genuinely have a great connection"

Maybe instead of trying to change her and possibly the dynamics, count yourself lucky?

[Wise4myage]

How absurd. I think you may need to reexamine just what love means, because I don't think you would be asking such a stupid question if you truly did love her.

[lauragrl]

this would be a lot to ask her to do

[jahaims]

She can just do squats you know..