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Is there a fine line between secrets and lies or do you think they're one and the same?
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They are one and the same to me, at the end, they both deal with trust.
One undermines it and the other signals a lack of it. Outside of a well written novel or a good movie, neither are attractive.
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Lies and secrets are different. I spent most of my years growing up by lying and not being honest due to insecurities and blocking responsibility. But I’ve always been good at keeping secrets and am probably more loyal than I should be. So these days it’s simple : just be 100% honest. That means if I ever have to withhold information to protect a secret I will not lie, just say that I don’t want to give an answer. I believe someone can be honest and also can be trusted to keep secrets and protect others.
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I think it's neither. I think everyone can have things they don't want to tell anyone else, and a partner should respect that. It's only the same when it's something that they're hiding explicitly because they know it's inappropriate for the relationship, or that they'd possibly make their partner uncomfortable, like hiding that you're talking to an ex, or that you're visiting a friend of the opposite gender, or that you're hooking up drugs, or something of the like. That's the same as lying, but hiding it instead of straight up lying about it is a little sneakier, that's the only difference, but as far as how much of a bad person or partner you are, it's the same.
They are both dishonesty. One is just as bad as the other.
Many people, especially guys in my experience, will avoid telling you something because they know that it’ll end their chances with you, such as a dealbreaker. (I have many of them lol) This gets him into an even worse position because I’ll ask straight forward if I need to, and he has the choice of lying or giving me to truth with no beating around it or silence. And if he does anything other than tell the truth then I say it’s safest to assume the worst and end it with him.
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Lies are told, secrets aren't. There are lies by omission sure, but just because I don't tell you about my 21st birthday party at a strip club, 20 years before we met doesn't make it a lie. Maybe I've grown up in those 20 years and the things I wasn't ashamed of then, I am now... especially to you
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Secrets and lies have nothing in common.
Lies are untruths.
Secrets are truths that are withheld from someone.
Lies are always a bad idea, in my opinion.
Secrets are discretionary, and can be good or bad depending on circumstances.
I'm assuming that you are referring to secrets and lies between two people in a relationship. Neither are good in that situation. -
"Discretion is the Better Part of Valor," one said. I can keep a secret, for one I promised to, but sometimes they challenge me, as to that Vow, with others.
I Don't lie, but I sometimes have to find a way to say TRUTH, in a certain way. . . Perhaps protecting all that are involved. - 2.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Secrets can lead to a reveal like a birthday that made the secret worth it.
However, if an affair was a secret it's pretty much the same as a lie even if no questions were asked.
I think the key here, it depends on the secrets intention, is it for bad or for good? For selfish desires or selfless desires? That's the key between the two... - 1.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
It depends on what the secret is about. If you cheated or did something while you were in a relationship that would hurt your partner if they knew, then it's a lie. But I'm not one to share every single aspect of my life. I don't have to be an open book and share my innermost everything with my partner. I don't expect her to, either.
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No we are entitled to our own secrets and not forced to share them.
But that doesn't allow us to lie.
Sure sometimes keeping a secret requires lying and in such cases it depends on if we're hurting someone or protecting them but the concept remains - 785 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Secrets are not lies Infact they are hidden truths, and hidden truths kill relationship lies just gives some extentivity to something that's being hidden lies are extensions of hidden truths which may or may not be truth if you seee lies don't break relationships they help in maintaining it but yiu know you must know to use it well in limited quantity it's blissful but a granular extra and everything mesesses up it would be a lie to say that nobody lies in a relationship and are completely truthful but it depends on what or to what extent they are lying what's the purpose.
Unspoken silence and hidden truths are root cause of any broken relationship.
But fact is also sometimes truth makes more damage than lies you know bc nobody ain't no saint..
So a smart person is someone who can balance these elements like chemistry to form something useful -
Not really their is a difference in my understanding. A secret is something that I won't tell you for whatever reason. A lie is when I tell you something that isn't true at all.
However both can definitely ruin relationships and friendships.
In my opinion it's okay to keep certain things secret either because they are not important or because you want to be protective of it.
Lying on the other hand is not okay since you're being dishonest.
However sometimes to maintain something a secret you have to lie which is problematic. - 2K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Both can be "lies of omission , but I think that some secrets can really play a useful role in life. Too many people we know just can't respect that.
My new line is, "Can you keep a secret?" To which they say "yes". And then I reply, "Well, so can I". and that is the end of that ! :- ) - 835 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Neither. They are radically different.
However, it's like a Venn diagram where there are some secrets, especially in relationships, that should be told and aren't. Those can feel like lies because when you find out you feel deceived. They are not lies technically, but it is still a breakdown in trust and in the communication of the relationship because the deception happened. -
They are not the same. The only time a secret can be considered to be a lie is if in order to keep the secret the person lied.
If I want to keep something private, I just don't answer. But I won't lie. And it won't be something I know is a dealbreaker for the other person. - 779 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Depends who the secret is hurting, and if the lie is constantly causing harm, it's one of the reasons that I practice confession at church, because I make mistakes, and owning up to it to a higher power is a good way to reduce that harm. If you talk about it to a priest he will support you in your journey of self improvement.
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While a secret can be a lie, a secret is not of necessity a lie so they are not the same. A secret could be about a good surprise, for example. Or, like in my line of work, a secret could be a requirement. If I've signed a protective order I am not discussing the contents with anyone outside of those permitted to have access.
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Completely different to me... My mom's passing is a secret not often shared. My not informing people of this is in no way a lie or deception. Just not there f**king business, to
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A secret is a lie of omission, however I believe the reason for the secret is more important then if it's considered a lie or not. As an example if you don't tell a child that there dog is dead you're trying to protect their feelings not decive them.
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A lie is when you tell someone something thats not true a secret is when you keep something from some. Secret can turn into lies but there is a fine line
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A lie means you intentionally said what you had to say to cover your ass. A secret isn't exactly lying because if you have nothing nice/truthful to say then you rather not say anything at all 🤷♀️
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