Should I unblock a person who unblocked me?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

A friend of this ex-friend messaged telling me this person unblocked me and would like for me to unblock them to make up.
I'd like to make up but I don't see much point in making up either, since a year or so has passed.
There's no grudge but I think it'd be awkward and uncomfortable to try to be friends again. Maybe just as acquaintances.

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+1 y

Probably I'll tell this person that I'm not unblocking her and will probably block her too, too awkward to try to be friends again

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+1 y

I'll let it stew for some days as I think on it but probably I won't unblock or try to be friends again.
Too much time has passed, it'd be awkward and embarrassing plus I'm not someone to be blocked/unblocked at will whenever she prefers.
I think the fact she unblocked me itself might be taken as an insult in itself and how this person thinks I'll be up at her beck and call like a dog. Maybe I'm overthinking it, but I don't see many positive outcomes for what this person is doing.

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In the end I relayed to the friend that I wouldn't unblock her because I was too sick and tired to think or invest time in that. She relayed to me that she said she'd always available if I have some problems to talk about and to think on it.
Now I've checked her Facebook and discovered she re-blocked me and also blocked my fiancée.

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Another person who unblocks me and think we can be friends again.
What should I do to teach her a lesson?

[thomual]

Some people carry wounds for many years after a falling out. Guilt and shame and regret can eat them up inside. If they are tortured about the falling out, and truly love and miss you, the kind thing to do is give them the chance. Ignoring the suffering of others is not good just because it saves you an uncomfortable moment.

Saying it another way, refusing to reconcile with a person who is tortured by a social catastrophe that you were a part of is selfish and cruel.

However if you never really mattered to this person then it's a waste of your time. I think its important to know if you are aiding in the suffering of another individual with your cruel indifference, or if this is just a whim and no big deal.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

That's sweet but I'm not unblocking her.
The fact she unblocked me now it's just disrespectful, especially since she blocked me first. I don't care about her anymore.

[thomual]

Well I agree blocking is pretty immature and despicable behavior. It doesn't really warrant a reward.

[Nawlins34]

If it were me, I'd keep her blocked.

I think the gamification to some degree of social media gets in the way and people forget that they are dealing with actual people online.

You may see/hear that term "online vs. irl" - nah. it's ALL real life.

Actions have consequences with me. If you block me, you BLOCKED me in this lifetime. I move on.

You are correct, you giving access to her gives her the green light to block you in the future again and come back from that.

Let her learn that she shouldn't make drastic decisions based on emotions. She won't learn it if you go back to her, even in a friendship.

[Darcia]

It depends how that person made you feel & what they or you did to be blocked. I honestly don’t know sometimes why folks block me. I guess they feel the superior thing to do is to block instead of talking it over. Remember the good ole days when people talked through their issues with others instead of blocking it makes more sense to do. in my opinion, but of course those times have gone and went people resort to blocking that’s so indirect.


Confront your problems head on instead of blocking.


Besides, that vent haha of course do what makes you feel more secure and superior.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

It's not about feeling secure and superior, it's just that I don't understand why this person wants to be friends again after all this time I don't see the reason or how it's proper to do so

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I mean I have already unpersoned her, don't see how to mend that

[Sukituki]

I wouldn't unblock them. I'd tell the one who told me to mind her own business as what happened between us (the one who is blocked) is between us. Just because she unblocked you doesn't mean anything. And just because it's been a while and you dont have any bad feelings doesn't mean you shouldn't forget what happened between you two. But then again if you really want to make up with her then do so

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

You are right, I'll probably block her friend too

[aWes0MeNeSs]

It's really up to you. If you don't want to, then don't. You know the situation better than we do. Follow your gut.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Per your update, I think it sounds like you made the right choice. Just the fact that she said she'd always be there if you needed anything, yet went right back to blocking you and then your fiancée, says a lot, and it seems pretty childish on her part.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I guess she went ''screw it'' like she did when she first blocked me.
I don't know why she even unblocked me at first though.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Yeah, that's weird. To me, if she was really ready to make amends and truly wanted to be there for you if you ever needed anything from her, re-blocking doesn't seem like the best, or most adultlike, option. If you have her blocked, what is the point of her blocking you unless she wants to do it out of spite?

[Paris13]

Let it Go and just Keep them Blocked them. xx

[ObscuredBeyond]

The question is not of forgiveness , but trust. Lee is still an idiot, and that new guy kissing up to her is feeding her his cuckery to feminist bullshit, to keep her around. I've unblocked her on Instagram , but I still have no faith in her, and won't be following her nor involving her in future projects. Some others from last year proved not only hurtful , but deranged and dangerous. I keep them blocked. A fraud and liar is one thing. A total cunt is one thing. But never let a raccoon find its way into your chicken shed. If it is determined to find a way in, it deserves only one answer: being made to take a dirt nap.

[hahahmm]

Depends on why you blocked them in the first place. But don’t ever trust them again if they stabbed you in the back.


Minimizing or eliminating social media won’t be bad for your life tho.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Social media it's almost the only friends I have since I already cut off most family and friends and when we'll move I won't see the rest, but maybe it's better to stay alone alone than in bad company

[hahahmm]

It’s fake friends tho. Before social media people had to keep in touch with relatives more too. I only check social media 1-2 times a year. Make a post maybe once every 2-3 years if that. Ha

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Fake friends are easier to delete and unperson though

[robvc1]

Well.

I think this depends on what the person did to you. Why did you block this person in the first place?

From the way I see it you may not be able to be friends anymore. No one said you could be friends again. And that's up to you to decide.

But I also think that you can't be enemies forever you know. Making up doesn't mean friends. But you can tolerate each other because trust me on this one. The world is a very small place.

Lastly wouldn't it be even more awkward if that person would come talking to you rondamly when she or he sees you in a store or on the streets?

Either way the final choice is always up to you. We can't decide for you only give a simple opinion.

[Poppykate]

I really hate these politics of blocking and unblocking. I am usually friends with everyone unless a person has been particularly offensive or hurtful.

[LemiaOfTheCodes]

Unblock them at your discretion they might appear to have changed or repentent but apperences and be disching.

[triff]

Unblocking you is completely different to the reasons why you blocked them If If your difference can be worked out between you then great if not the block can be resumed

[dejenero]

Depened on you tbh
don't bring that person back in ur life just because they want u in their life
Remind urself why u blocked the person and ask urself if ur ready to unblock the person

[Juxtapose]

No way.

If you block me, I'm going to block you back for life. People should think more carefully before burning bridges.

[Unicorns_exist]

GOALS

[Juxtapose]

Whatcha mean?

[Unicorns_exist]

Just the fact that you wanna keep them blocked forever because they started it. Lollll

You won.

[Juxtapose]

@Unicorns_exist True friends are LOYAL and will NEVER block you.

I have multiple friendships that are going 10+ years strong. They wouldn't tolerate stupid shit from me either.

[Juxtapose]

I want people that put fat behind their actions. Impulsive people block and then unblock. Thoughtful people will think carefully and then block you for good, because they understand it sent a message and burns the bridge.

[Juxtapose]

*thought behind

Weird autocorrect.

[Likes2drive]

It’s always good to show that you can be the bigger person and let things go so there is no harm in it

[Jamie05rhs]

I think you should, man. Reconciliation is a beautiful thing. Everyone deserves a second chance. #peaceandlove

[SavageGirl101]

Hell no keep them blocked they shouldn’t have blocked u

[Unit1]

I don't bother doing that.
To me blocking is a one way street.

[Lycirian]

Look this is easy, just move on and forget this person. You investing time for bullshit and that's the reality.

[chica296]

It's up to you, do you really want to talk to this person? Or did you move on?
You should do what you feel like.

[Anonymous]

It's totally up to you..
Just let it go... ignore the request and simply continue on with your life

[Silverio_Stieger]

Naaaah you shouldn't. Stands for what you think, not others.

[talulahbee]

If u want to do it, if u don't don't. No reason to make things more complicated than they need to be. If u want to make up, do it. Just have good boundaries.

[007kingifrit]

the answer is almost always yes, its too easy to block people, it cuts us off and puts us in echo chambers. i only do it after they demonstrate they are irredeemable