I think culturally we expect the girl to fall in love harder, but in reality it is mainly guys. I had relationships with guys and girls and this is always the case. Women are more practical and grounded, while men are more romantic and dreamers.
This is a fair statement. I think you are right, or as close to right as we can ever being when speaking in such vague generalities. Obviously there are some men and women who break this pattern, but most of us are the way you described it.
I based my statement on my personal experience. Like I said, I dated both guys and girls and every time it was the guy who wanted the relationship to go on, or made plans for the future, and took the break up very seriously. Now, naturally there are exceptions, but this is just what I have seen.
As to men being dreamers and more romantic, this is something I strongly believe in. This is why men are the progress, and women are the ones saying "yeah, you can do it!".
It depends, I know guys who try to hide it. After a few beers one of them literally cried out in tears a proclamation of his love for this other girl who already had a boyfriend lol.
I think guys get infatuated with a woman's looks at the speed of sound, but women fall in love with the person easier. Once a woman falls, she keeps falling harder and harder. Whereas guys usually get tired of the bod they worshipped or find out the looks they loved come attached to a personality and stop feeling the infatuation.
The more beautiful the woman, the more a man will love her. Especially when compared to the other women he has been with ... I think this is biological.
no, not always. when I first started dating my ex, she wasn't even my type. it wasn't until after I developed real feelings for her that she began to look like the most beautiful girl ever.
This is wrong. Such a stupid generalization. The girl I love and fell hard for, you could say she's ugly. She's not even average and yet I dream of her and I love her and I can't even see her flaws. Keep thinking like this and guys will treat you like that. =/ On another note, men fall harder than women. Women calculate loses, men don't.
It depends on how they feel about each other. Sometimes it's the guy, sometimes it's the girl. But you usually hear the girl because guys tend to hide that kind of stuff in fear (?) that he'll seem weak or pathetic for saying he was hurt.
I think men tend to get INFATUATED first. It's not quite love, but it's more the projected IMAGE of a person that drives them to obsession. From talking to guy and girl friends; there's definitely 'the one that got away' story that men seem to cling to more than women. The pain of loss seems to linger more with men. I don't know, it's just anecdotal anyway.
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i think most girls fall quicker, but a guy falls harder, most girls say its not true but it is, if a guy falls for a girl he will fall and i mean FALL, he'll leave his macho style he'll throw that pride away he won't be scared of showing his emotions when he falls
I say men fall harder because generally speaking sure women may be more sensitive to that sort of thing and guys are harder to get the attention from but once you successfully hooked a guy he will be yours forever
It all depends on the power of the opposite gender, if they have a strong ability to draw in their partner then the opposite partner will fall in love harder
I think it has less to do with sex than just the individual. Some guys fall in love harder than some girls, and some girls fall in love harder than some guys. I'd say it's probably about equal.
It's probably almost equal in my opinion. Maybe girls a bit more because some guys feel pressured by society not to be too emotional. But then again, many girls are afraid of falling in love and so they hold back their emotions. See, it all balances out haha. Everyone's different, and whether someone's a guy or a girl, they still are able to fall in love hard given the right circumstances.
You can't really say that. There are no statistics haha.
Well, that's just you and me with experiences like that. It would mean something if most people on this site said that. But that's not true. I still think it's about equal on the whole. In your and my cases, it's not equal, but on the whole I'm guessing, it is.
The 40+ girls that voted "it depends" just don't want to admit it's girls - it IS girls. In general. OBVIOUSLY it DOES depend, but. If there was a choice of "men" or "women," the answer is most definitely women. No question.
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it depends. I think men fall faster, but women fall harder.
haha I think the opposite.
haha why is that?
well, most people on here seem to agree that most of the time, the girls falls faster but the guy falls harder.
in my experience in the end, it takes the girl longer to get over me, and they were the ones who left me. not i.
interesting.
Both, but I think woman are more emotionally attached. But sometimes guys can be as well. Usally depends on both the guy and girl. So I pick C
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I think culturally we expect the girl to fall in love harder, but in reality it is mainly guys. I had relationships with guys and girls and this is always the case. Women are more practical and grounded, while men are more romantic and dreamers.
This is a fair statement. I think you are right, or as close to right as we can ever being when speaking in such vague generalities. Obviously there are some men and women who break this pattern, but most of us are the way you described it.
you can't generalize the whole genders like that. it depends on the individual in some cases.
@question asker, of course it depends on the individual, but there is such a thing as patterns.
yeah but she put us all together.
I based my statement on my personal experience. Like I said, I dated both guys and girls and every time it was the guy who wanted the relationship to go on, or made plans for the future, and took the break up very seriously. Now, naturally there are exceptions, but this is just what I have seen.
As to men being dreamers and more romantic, this is something I strongly believe in. This is why men are the progress, and women are the ones saying "yeah, you can do it!".
haha ok
I think stereotypically women fall harder for men but I've seen more guys fall harder than girls. IVe even seen them be more emotionally attached.
i've seen girls fall harder, but in my experience, I fell harder.
ive seen it both ways in my own expiriences
i've only heard of both haha, my guy friends don't fall for girls that way.
i have guys who cared more than I did. and I kno guys who get crushed and heartbroken over certain girls
yeah I'm one of the crushed ones haha
i like you're profile pic.
haha thanks =)
I think men fall harder in most cases, but it depends in certain relationships.
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i think it depends, but women get emotionally attached quicker than men.
yeah I agree, generally, that's the case.
It depends, I know guys who try to hide it. After a few beers one of them literally cried out in tears a proclamation of his love for this other girl who already had a boyfriend lol.
dam lol
Yeah, it's sad and funny at the same time lol
haha
I've heard that women fall in love more often, men fall in love less frequently, but harder.
oh I never heard that one before.
If they can do it that often then it is not love.
I agree with Mesonfielde, its not love ! I think most people are talking about lust you aren't truly in love !
I think guys get infatuated with a woman's looks at the speed of sound, but women fall in love with the person easier. Once a woman falls, she keeps falling harder and harder. Whereas guys usually get tired of the bod they worshipped or find out the looks they loved come attached to a personality and stop feeling the infatuation.
this only applies to shallow men.
The more beautiful the woman, the more a man will love her. Especially when compared to the other women he has been with ... I think this is biological.
no, not always. when I first started dating my ex, she wasn't even my type. it wasn't until after I developed real feelings for her that she began to look like the most beautiful girl ever.
This is wrong. Such a stupid generalization. The girl I love and fell hard for, you could say she's ugly. She's not even average and yet I dream of her and I love her and I can't even see her flaws. Keep thinking like this and guys will treat you like that. =/ On another note, men fall harder than women. Women calculate loses, men don't.
It depends on how they feel about each other. Sometimes it's the guy, sometimes it's the girl. But you usually hear the girl because guys tend to hide that kind of stuff in fear (?) that he'll seem weak or pathetic for saying he was hurt.
guys are only afraid of that when they already are weak, it takes a man to show emotion, those are just boys.
So then following your logic- you think girls who are publicly in love- want to look pathetic and weak?
I think men tend to get INFATUATED first. It's not quite love, but it's more the projected IMAGE of a person that drives them to obsession. From talking to guy and girl friends; there's definitely 'the one that got away' story that men seem to cling to more than women. The pain of loss seems to linger more with men. I don't know, it's just anecdotal anyway.
i think most girls fall quicker, but a guy falls harder, most girls say its not true but it is, if a guy falls for a girl he will fall and i mean FALL, he'll leave his macho style he'll throw that pride away he won't be scared of showing his emotions when he falls
it dzznt go by gender. it depends on if you believe in love @ 1st sight or not.
i don't get it... love at first sight? what does that have to do with it?
I say men fall harder because generally speaking sure women may be more sensitive to that sort of thing and guys are harder to get the attention from but once you successfully hooked a guy he will be yours forever
i wouldn't say forever...
It all depends on the power of the opposite gender, if they have a strong ability to draw in their partner then the opposite partner will fall in love harder
hmm, idk
feelings are just chemical reactions, the most unstable creatures are females...so they fall harder.
in general, "love" and all that crap is justa waste of valuble energy which could be directed to a more productive actions.
screw you all :)
screw you too buddy :)
I guess most of the time it's the woman who falls harder. Girls are much more sensitive and get attached very easily.
that's what I thought too.
I think it has less to do with sex than just the individual. Some guys fall in love harder than some girls, and some girls fall in love harder than some guys. I'd say it's probably about equal.
i can't say its equal, but it does depend on the person, just like most things. but statistically speaking, there is a difference.
It's probably almost equal in my opinion. Maybe girls a bit more because some guys feel pressured by society not to be too emotional. But then again, many girls are afraid of falling in love and so they hold back their emotions. See, it all balances out haha. Everyone's different, and whether someone's a guy or a girl, they still are able to fall in love hard given the right circumstances.
You can't really say that. There are no statistics haha.
Hmm. My gut tells me it's about equal, but my personal experience tells me that your update is right.
see, its not equal.
Well, that's just you and me with experiences like that. It would mean something if most people on this site said that. But that's not true. I still think it's about equal on the whole. In your and my cases, it's not equal, but on the whole I'm guessing, it is.
ehh
The 40+ girls that voted "it depends" just don't want to admit it's girls - it IS girls. In general. OBVIOUSLY it DOES depend, but. If there was a choice of "men" or "women," the answer is most definitely women. No question.
you may be exaggerating there...