How to tell my girlfriend that she looked better with blonde hair in a nice way? She dyed her hair a weird blue color and I'm pissed off?

[Anonymous]

She asked me "baby, do you like my hair?" I didn't want to be an asshole so I said "yes, it looks great." The thing is I was raised by my dad that taught me to always agree with your wife so I follow that philosophy. I also know it's her hair and not mine so she can do what she wants. The truth is I'm kind of upset and sad that she did this because she kind of didn't tell me. She did but not really asking my input on it. What really pissed me off was she posted a picture on her Instagram, got a lot of likes with her friends telling her that her hair looks great. LIES!! They are lying to her so that way she doesn't stand out so much whenever she's with them. Ugghhhhhh it doesn't even look blue!!!

[Anonymous]

You're accusing her friends of lying, but you're lying to her, too. Maybe they actually like it and you're the only one who doesn't - which is fine, but ultimately it's her decision and she has to be happy with it. You'll get used to it eventually.

Also, your dad is wrong - honesty goes a long way. Of course you need to be gentle and constructive and willing to compromise. Don't say "I hate it", say something like "to be honest, I liked it better the way it was before", or "if you really want it blue, I think a darker shade would be nicer" or something like that.

[strawberrylipstick]

To be fair, she doesn't have to tell you what she does with her hair. Even if it looks bad, that shouldn't be getting in the way at all. You love her, not her looks, correct?

[Non-Binary3609]

I would say something like "your hair is nice, but what if it was blond again, I think that you look great even without the hair dye"

[psychoticanimallover]

It’s really none of your business what colour her hair is. If you’re not attracted to her anymore, just leave.

[Anonymous]

Post a pic here and let us be the judge!

But really, I dunno, I think you're over reacting. I think you know all the right words but your heart isn't in it. I think you need to take a beat and just accept that this might make her happy and you should be supportive.

Down the road, when its time to change again, you can suggest blonde and maybe she'll listen. But when she doesn't, you have to just roll with it again.

[Anonymous]

She's not your wife. She's your girlfriend so yeah tell her what you think. by the way, your dad is wrong. You should be honest, but not rude even if she was your wife. I don't understand why a father would say his son's opinion doesn't matter when it comes to his wife. That's not right.

[Hangry22]

Just say her blue dye got stuck on your balls while she was... well sucking a banana

[s2firestar]

For the recrod, blue hair can look awesome.