What is with a girl wanting to know about how my last relationship ended?

[hello_kitty_man]

So a common thing girls ask me is 'How did your last relationship end? And why did you break up?" I don't mind talking about this because my last relationship ended mutually and amicably.

[averyconfusedperson]

I guess a lot of girls - and guys too - can be a little uncertain when entering into a new relationship. This could possibly be because they've been hurt before and want to protect themselves from being hurt again. By finding out how your last relationship ended, they can check for red flags. For example, if they find out that maybe your relationship ended because you cheated on your ex, it will make them a little hesitant. In your case, you say it ended mutually and amicably, so I think the best thing is for you to try to understand how they may be feeling and reassure them.

[Espresso-Grande]

In some instances, they're just saying it for something to say.

Sometimes may be trying to show an interest in you personally. To get to know more about you.

[Espresso-Grande]

Thanks for the MHO

[AmandaYVR]

It can be very informative.
But the issue is that many people concoct a narrative that is overly simplistic and often takes away any wrongdoing on their part, and puts most of the onus on the other. Not all people do this; some find a neutral phrase that blames neither. But the truth is usually something else, or something in between, or something that takes hours to fully explain.

I think it's interesting how if you poll people, "Is talking about past relationships a good/ok idea for a first date?" you'll get two pretty strong opposing opinions on this.
Some want that date to be light and fun; others want to get on with knowing each other and not waste time, so they ask to delve into the person's personality more.
Both takes have validity.

[btbc92]

Uh, yeah? Relationships are about processing and elimination. She needs to know who is interested in her before you treat her the same way you treated your last girlfriend. You're entitled to ask her the same, and you're both entitled to leave to find other potential partners. That is how it goes. You not there to date people your not compatible with, which you should already do as friends. But since 90% of people don't do that. That's why people get hurt and in marriages and relationships let alone dating, having sex, and kids with people they SHOULDN'T BE INVOLVED. Because if you don't know who you're with, you'll have problems.

[DeathJack]

Your reaction to the question, how quickly you answer and whether they think your being honest. Tells them a lot about who you are and what kind of person you're going to be in a potential relationship / friendship.

It's not a bad stategy to be honest. Especially if the person asking is good at reading people.
Don't take it personally. They're just looking out for themselves.

[NathanDavis]

If I were to hire you for a job, I would also like to know how did it go on your last one, lol. And especially your side, as to how it happened.

[Nazgol]

They want to see if they might have the same fate or not

[Waldoe]

they are looking for danger signs