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There are three separate questions that should be asked. But first, this question assumes that you are in a relationship with someone other than the cuddle partner. Otherwise, there is no aspect of cheating to be considered.
First question: what is your intention in cuddling with the cuddle partner? Most opposite sex platonic friends do not cuddle so the answer to this question is not so obvious.
Second question: What will your cuddle partner think is your intention in cuddling with them? Will they see this as a relatively low-risk, testing-the-waters, getting closer to physical intimacy ploy, or will they perceive it as innocent and purely platonic? If they perceive this as an overture by you, and they haven't rejected your overture, then you are encouraging them to pursue you. . . right?
Third question: when your SO walks in and finds you cuddled with someone else, what will your SO think is going on? Will they really think this is something innocent and platonic, or will they think you are sending a signal to the cuddle partner that you may have some interest in the advanced nude cuddling class?
TLDR: probably not a good idea unless you are ready to say goodbye to your current SO!
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The definition of “cheating” is different for each different couple -- it depends on the (usually discussed) “relationship agreement/understanding” that each couple has regarding what interactions are allowed and not allowed with people outside of the couple’s relationship.
Some couples consider physical acts such as kissing or intimate touching (to include cuddling) people outside of their relationship to be “cheating,” and other couples consider online flirting (and/or sexual chatting/roleplaying/sending & requesting nudes) with anyone outside of the couple’s relationship to be “cheating.”
So, if cuddling—or in general: any behavior—is done with someone outside of a couple! s relationship and that behavior goes against that couple’s “relationship agreement/understanding,” then that behavior is “cheating” for that couple.
This is a difficult one. I can see why many would find this inappropriate but I'd say this would depend on multiple factors.
What are the circumstances? Is this a good friend who has recently dealt with a difficult situation and is this purely as friends that you're comforting her? When it's a situation where she just became single then that's very inappropriate, but if both are not or if she's been single for a long time I guess that's ok as long as it's not intimate cuddles.
How long have you know the friend and how close are you? Does your girlfriend know them? If it's a friend you've known for very long or from before your relationship or if it's just a very good friend that you have a very close bond with and your girlfriend know her than for me it honestly wouldn't be a problem.
If however this is because you need cuddling and prefer to do it with her than with your girlfriend that would really be problematic and inappropriate.
You see: a lot of very thin lines to walk on. Honestly talk about it with your partner and see how that goes as it's different for everyone and every situation. Good communication is the key to everything.
Do guys cuddle with their guy friends when watching a movie? 🤔 So why would they cuddle with their girl friends?🤔 I'm old school, if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife they the only one you should be "cuddling" with.. I mean how many times does "cuddling" lead to "other" things?
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All depends. It's not the act itself that is the measure. It's the 'why' behind it.
And if it's mutual or if one person is making concessions for the other, because they really want/need that physical contact from someone.
It would not make the partner feel good, that's for sure.
But it needs further exploration before judging finitely.Not appropriate. xx
If you or your partner were sat in the sofa with a friend of the same sex that so happens to be attracted to your gender.
Would that make it cheating?
If the answer is no because they're gay and you're not then there's nothing wrong with it.
The bottom line is this. Whether it's a friend of the opposite sex or a friend that's gay of the same sex they're still a friend.
The key word is "friend".
I know you didn't mention sexuality but I did to signify a potential barrier.More information will provide at least some context too your question, which is non-existent in this question, so no! You will not be accused of cheating in the 1,000 m dash in the next Olympic games because you cuddled with a friend sometime in your life, on some couch somewhere, unless that friend was one of your competitors on the take, caught spiking the water of another competitor in that race, during the upcoming summer World Olympic Games, that are supposed to be coming up if humanity doesn't blow itself off the face of the Earth before then.
If I'm not even close to the mark, then it's your fault for not explaining anything about the situation inspiring that question.
If I'm not off the mark, then I'm reporting you to the World Olympic Committee, for conspiracy to cheat in the upcoming Summer Olympic Games.🤯😵🥴Yes because I know for A FACT that I don’t cuddle guys I just consider platonic friends. Because that would give them the wrong impression. And I would feel so awkward and uncomfortable. Cuddling=attraction I don’t care who says otherwise
Cuddling is for couples not your friends, just my opinion ✌️
It depends on the boundaries you have set with your partner. Hugging a friend is fine, but cuddling with them on the couch seems like too much in my opinion, but it also depends what your motives were. There's a pretty thin line between what some people consider "cheating" and what they consider to be "ok". Personally, I wouldn't like my boyfriend cuddling with his friend, that's too intimate and reserved only for us. I would advise you to talk with your partner about your boundaries.
The key word is "friend," not "affair" or "lover."
Of course, this is harmless. There are those who might be jealous of such behavior, but they're narrowminded.
It's tiresome, but it happens.
Be at peace with your friendships and enjoy them.No but if I walk in my house and my woman is cuddled up with some dude, he taking an asswhooping. I don't care if he gay! Nobody has any business cuddled up with my woman. #1, to people aren't going to let someone in their personal space like that, especially if they have a S. O. unless they have some attraction going on with one another. Ain't nobody bout to cuddle up with someone they don't find attractive & that's too close. #2, it could easily turn into one of those "it just happened" moments when those hormones get to churning.
me cuddling with a girl don't mean i want her to be my girlfriend or anything. So i don't see why it would be cheating. And looking at other's opinions guess my thinking don't align with everyone else.
But i really don't understand how cuddling = i want her to be my side chick or i want her more than my partner. I really don't see it. If cuddling with a friend = cheating might just stay single. Cause if you think i am gonna watch a film with my bestfriend and not cuddle up while doing so, you have another thing coming.It's funny, because if I had a girl and saw her cuddling with a dude, There's a good chance I wouldn't think anything of it. But I feel like feel like for a guy it's really different.
I don't know most girls I've dated, I've trusted them a lot. I feel like it depends on the situation. Like the setting, whose there, are you cuddling because it's like a little party with friends and everyone's crammed in a small room and everyone's tired and drunk. Or is it her and 2 other people or worse, she's alone and the guys reaching for stuff that's not his to reach for.
But I can see why from a girl's perspective it's pretty much never OK. Chicks are always trying to steal some other bitches man hahaGuys don't usually, at least 'straight guys' but I have many female friends, and some are lesbians, and totally committed to their partner, but shit happens, and sometimes you need a friend, that you TRUST, and won't do anything, but love you as a FREIND, or like a little sister!
One of my best friends, a married woman, needed someone, when her husband was out of town, on a business trip, and her brother suddenly died, from some unknown heart condition. She had nobody else, and we had the Big Brother/Little Sister kind of relationship, so I stayed with her that night, and just held her, as she cried, losing her brother. Nothing sexual, in any way, just caring and loving my 'little sister'.
Not everything is sexual, and not every interaction, between men and women is sexual!I mean, it can be weird yeah depending on how you’re cuddling. And it’s good if you set boundaries with your partner especially if they’re the jealous/insecure type. I dunno, it depends on the relationship with who you’re cuddling with, the person you’re dating and your own feelings on both of those peopel
Cheating? I'm not sure, but I think it's highly inappropriate and it's like playing with fire. If I ever see a partner having lovely cuddling sessions with his female friends I'm leaving.
To me, cheating is when a person is hurt by their partner because of something they did with their preferred gender. Personally I would not be okay with my boyfriend cuddling another girl. I am not a very trusting person in general. I won't let people touch me at all if I'm not already super comfortable with them, which means that to me cuddling is very intimate, and something you do with a partner not a friend.
I have a simple way to determine if you are cheating or not.
Just decide if it would be cheating if your SO did the same thing to you. If they answer is yes, you are cheating.
No f'n way I would want my girl to be "cuddling" with ANY other guy, friend or not.Yes it is especially if one of you or both of you are in relationships. You all wouldn’t cuddle if you had no attraction or feelings with each other... emotionally or physically... therefore it is cheating.
I really hope not, I'm very affectionate towards my tight knit friends and I guess from the outside looking in, it would look like cheating. In reality only I would know if I am or not.
I think it both depends on the circumstances and how both people involved see each other. People can end up really close and comfortable with ome another to the point that they dont have any intimate feeling from that sort of interaction.
I used to be really close with a girl to the point where she would fall asleep on me, we'd occasionally have sleepovers and share a bed, but we were clear that we were just really good friends and neither of us expected anything beyond that.- u
Not on my experience, no. But I know of people for which having female friends alone, is already a big issue.
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